mossers anonymous

If you were raped by a gay man in the 1980s and you started a web page "raising awareness of sexual assaults by gay men" it wouldn't matter what your intention was. It wouldn't even matter that you were a trans man, because you'd still be shining a spotlight on evidence that can be used to validate extermination. You're giving them ammunition.

If you were in 1930s Germany, and a Jewish person robbed you, starting a tabloid about "Raising awareness of Jews stealing from non-Jews" it wouldn't matter how real the harm caused was, because you're still handing a bludgeon to the Nazis.

And whether you want to admit it, those are in fact the stakes.

Should rapists be held accountable? Yes. Obviously. And should victims of rape, regardless their rapists' demographics, be allowed to discuss their trauma and commiserate? Also yes.

But making this about SPECIFICALLY TMA people is not either of those things. It is weaponizing rape victims' trauma in order to validate and reinforce transmisogyny, and accelerate an existing genocide of trans people that is focused very pointedly on TMA trans people.

And that may not be your intent! But your intent is unimportant to the people who will use this blog most effectively against TMA people.

The entire reason mousidy's project exists is because of both how immensely rare it is to see discussion of rapes of TMA people by TME people is (because TMA people are always cast as the predator) and because it's immensely important to talk about them because of the privilege TME people have over us (for instance, that TMA people are always cast as the predator)

If you wanna continue this project, and I don't think having a place transmasc rape victims can find community is an inherently bad thing, even for ones who have been raped by TMA people, I think this would be better as a Discord server. Vet people as they come in, make sure no-one's using this in bad faith to harm transfems, have rules against doxxing or callout posts, and I think that could be a really important space.

Stop acting like you have the moral authority to tell me where I am allowed to exist. Comparing my blog to a Nazi tabloid is not a 'critique' of my praxis. It is a violent, dehumanizing way to tell me that my life, my trauma, and my voice are a danger to your political project. If you think my existence is a weapon, that says everything about your view of me and nothing about my reality.

You want me in a Discord server because you want me invisible. You want a 'vetted' space so you can control who speaks and shut it down the moment it gets too loud for your comfort. I am not putting my life and the lives of other survivors behind a paywall of your bureaucracy just so you can sleep better at night.