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Deep Shadows pt1 

American’s Teasing Canada: u have moose and beavers, maple syrup u like it

American’s Teasing Australia: kangaroos and koalas, it’s hot there, summer time, toilets flush backward

My high school history teacher was shot in the back on campus. Everyone here knows someone who’s been affected by gun violence. Everyone knows someone who’s been affected by healthcare, or lack thereof. Everyone knows someone whose life has been ruined by college debt. 

Shoes on in house

Smiling too much

High school football

Opossums, raccoons, deer, etc.

Carpet (I’ve heard other countries aren’t as obsessed with carpet as Americans)

Sales tax (how much will this cost? Nobody knows!)

Roadside tourist attractions (world’s biggest ball of yarn etc)

“it’s only a 6 hour drive”

Buying tea in a gallon jug

Being in the prairie states and there literally being nothing in any direction for miles not even trees

Tornadoes anything to do with tornado culture

Waffle house

The mere concept of semi trucks / 18 wheelers

HELL IS REAL billboard here in Ohio

The giant dinosaur roadside tourist attraction out in the middle of nowhere

Route 66

Fanny packs

Prom (I’ve heard other countries don’t have prom? Or any of the other 100 school dances a year??)

People microwave their tea instead of boiling it

The white people half-jog-and-wave combo when crossing the street

- can’t drive

- sheer irreverence for hurricanes (hurricane parties)

- Homecoming Mums

- never ending road construction

- the high probability of pulling up to a four way stop and only having one car

- Houston vs Dallas vs Austin

- anything to do with Texas sports (the Spurs, Stars, Texans, and Cowboys all have notable and great players but can’t win shit for shit)

- too big???

Walmart in every corner.

Soup air

Capitol was chosen because it was right in between the first two capitals but it’s really boring and kinda gross. 0/10. Not capital matrerial.

ALLIGATORS. I’ve found them in my swimming pool. I live in the middle of the city.

To many snakes.

Three or more churches on every street.

Camo is considered acceptable to wear.

Dressing like a cowboy unironically

Redoing all the repairs you have made to your house every year or two because the humidity already ruined it.

No one cares about hurricanes. We hardly bother to board up anymore unless it’s a category four or higher. Last year I was invited to a hurricane sleep over where we all decided to talk about how we’d die.

Florida men are real and they are everywhere.

Florida women are just as bad.

Someone told me no where else had Publix which is a tragedy cause they have good pay and employee benefits. I’d suggest it for a first job if you live someone that has them.

Did I mention the alligators??? We can’t swim anywhere unless we’re ready to run from a gator.

So many mosquitos. The air is 50% water and 50% mosquito.

Our capital building is shaped like a penis.

Miami as a whole.

The people here fear nothing. I watched a kid at my school pick a snake up out of a puddle and chuck it so we could get to class.

Most people don’t repair their roofs, even if they have the funds, instead they just put up tarps.

Hi so, honestly, there isnt a difference between bi and pan, bi is attraction to all genders, we have two labels that describe the same orientation.

Basically, the pan label was popularised online in the early 2000s. at the time there was a pervasive idea tht bisexuals were only attracted to cis men and women. This is from the first post on the 2002 Livejournal community, I Am Pansexual:

“… [T]his community is for pansexuals, as described in the user info. Pansexuals love people of all genders, male and female, but unlike bisexuals, pansexuals love transgendered, androgynous and gender fluid people, people who don’t fit into the categories of male or female.”

you can find the source for that quote and read more info on the history of pansexuality here. Those who IDed with the pan label back then used pan to mean attraction to cis men, cis women, and trans people. This definition is transphobic, trans men and women arent different genders to cis men and women and therefore, they dont fall under a separate attraction, nonbinary people arent a new third gender that you need a whole new and different sexuality in order to be attracted to. This is generally what people are referring to when they say the pansexual label has transphobic origins, but there have also been several redefinitions of pan that have also been transphobic.

I reccomend watching this youtube video which addresses the narrative that bi activism has a history of ‘rampant transphobia’.

Since 2002 the label has gone through several changes in definition, but the most common one lately seems to be that pan is attraction to all genders (regardless of gender); while bi is attraction to 2 or more (gender is a factor in attraction).

But if we look back at bi history, we can see that bisexuality has never been limited by gender, bisexuals were never fixated on the bi = 2 definition. its also useful to know that when people first started iding as bisexual (Stephen Donaldson, also known as Donny the Punk, was one of the first people to id as bisexual in around 1966 and the label gained popularity in the 70s), it meant something similar to unisex.

Bisexuals have been describing their bisexuality as attraction regardless of gender since the 70s;

“Being bisexual does not mean they have sexual relations with both sexes but that they are capable of meaningful and intimate involvement with a person regardless of gender”

Janet Bode, The Pressure Cooker, View From Another Closet (1976)

“I am bisexual because I am drawn to particular people regardless of gender. It doesn’t make me wishy-washy, confused, untrustworthy, or more sexually liberated. It makes me a bisexual.”

The Bisexual Community: Are We Visible Yet?, By Lani Ka’ahumanu (1987)

and The 1990 Bisexual Manifesto:

“Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders.”

evidences that bisexuals were aknowledging nonbinary genders (although they would have used genderqu**r or genderfuck instead of nonbinary as nonbinary was coined as a gender term more recently than the 90s) and including them in their bisexuality a decade before the I Am Pansexual community even existed. This is one of the many reasons why the pan label is also biphobic, because it trys to redefine bisexuality against bisexuals will, so that pan can mean attraction to all genders instead of bisexual.

If you want to read more about how different definitions of pansexual are based in biphobia i reccomend this article.

Here is the current defintion of bisexuality, as used by the American Institute of Bisexuality, and the Journal of Bisexuality. from the bi.org website:

"There are as many ways to be bi as there are bi people. No one word can fully capture the nuances of personality, culture, beliefs, or personal preference; no word should try to. The term bisexuality makes no such pretense—  it is a general and inclusive term that encompasses everyone; all sexes and all genders. That does not mean that bi people are attracted to everyone, merely that bi people’s attractions aren’t limited by sex or gender."

“Please also note that attraction to both same and different means attraction to all. Bisexuality is inherently inclusive of everyone, regardless of sex or gender.“

If you want to read more about bi history then this article; The Bisexual History They Don’t Want You to Know by @mediumkravitz is a good place to start. Kravtiz has also written; Does Liking a Nonbinary Person Make You Bi or Pan? Not Necessarily. which might clear up any confusion on where attraction to nonbinary genders fits into sexuality.

I’m as concerned about the planet as anyone should be but misinformation like this is misleading and dangerous, not to mention disrespectful in the current climate. it will regrettably take years for the planet to heal itself of the damage done to it in the name of human greed – it will not miraculously heal in a couple of weeks.

the canals of Venice are clearer not because of less pollution but because of less boat traffic stirring up sediment and dirt already in the water. it’s all sunk to the bottom and settled, resulting in apparently clearer water. the fish were always there. the dolphins are coming closer because lack of boat traffic means they can go hunt the fish easier.

any wild animals coming into the city are likely curious or looking for interesting food. they’re not ‘reclaiming’ anything; anyone who’s been up late at night and looked out their window would see similar things with nocturnal creatures. it’s just the daylight ones are now doing it, too.

while pollution has gone down in China thanks to lack of traffic and factory production, regrettably this will do nothing in regards to the multitude of other countries belching out pollution into the air. even if it did, the earth will sadly not heal from decades of abuse in a couple of weeks.

Pansexuality, or omnisexuality, is the sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity (male, female, NB, transgender, etc). Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others.

While there are similarities between the two sexualities there IS a difference!

I’ve done so much research for the past week on this and I haven’t found one evidence about pansexuals being transphobic or biphobic so I can’t say whether it’s true or completely false but I haven’t met one pansexual person who was like this.

Pansexuals have been around since Freud was alive and probably longer than that but that’s as far as the origin will go. It only started gaining attention due to famous celebrities such as Brendon Urie, Janelle Monáe, Miley Cyrus, Sia, Bella Thorne, Sarah Paulson, and so much more.

I’ve done plenty of research to see the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality and this the general distinctions I got:

“While there are definitely some similarities, there are some distinctive differences between the experiences of being bi and being pan. Bisexuality is where someone’s attracted to people of more than one gender (whether that’s male, female, non-binary or trans people for example). Whereas pansexuals ‘don’t see gender’ - this might be hard to wrap your head around but bear with me on this.

I, personally, get drawn in by a person’s ‘vibes’ and the ‘feel’ I get from them as a being. A person’s energy when they walk into a room is the most important thing here, and I tend to fall in love with overall beauty (which I see in EVERYTHING.)

Gender is just not a thing that comes into it at all for me as this overall ‘picture’ of the person is what creates the attraction. I believe that there are more than two genders and that gender works along a spectrum. My attraction spans the entire spectrum and my brain just does not divide people up into categories.

I don’t know if this is just a pan thing or if it’s even related, but I am especially attracted to people who are androgynous, non-binary, gender fluid and trans. This is not to say that bi people don’t experience all of the above, too.” - Cosmopolitan article kinda summed up what every other website was saying.

Members of the queer community believe that bisexuality perpetuates a gender binary. They don’t believe it’s inclusive of transgender people and gender nonconforming people. This is not true. Due to this belief, members of the queer community started to believe that pansexuality is biphobic, insulting and problematic, that pansexuals are making bisexuals look transphobic. This is not true.

This is partly why it’s a bit intimidating identifying with any sexual or gender identity label because people start to build restrictions and rules which begins to confuse and limits your chance to explore yourself freely.

In addition, to pansexuals it’s not all about the personality. That’s all I know so I’m sorry if this isn’t any help but if you see this post again, I hope it does help out in anyway. That being said, this is not to cause any arguments. If all you’re going to do is throw a fit or devalue another human for how they identify, do NOT interact please. There’s enough hate going on, so many parts of the community are being pushed down these days and we’re only making it worse by hurting each other as well.

First of all, transgender is not a noun. It’s not a separate gender. Transgender is an adjective, such as “transgender person.” So when describing attraction to various genders, women/females includes trans women and men/males includes trans men. If someone says they aren’t attracted to trans people, they’re just being transphobic, whether they realize it or not. Non-binary can be separate from men or women, although there are non-binary people who align themselves with one of those two. Still, all sexualities already include attraction to non-binary people. An actual non-binary bisexual can explain this better, but basically, they aren’t a monolithic third gender. Non-binary describes a huge range of people and their experiences. 

The pansexuality that existed at the time of Freud is completely different from how people use it today. Freud coined it to describe his theory that sex is humanity’s motivation for everything. He used the prefix pan meaning all because of that. It had absolutely nothing to do with being attracted to all genders. Then, in the late 20th century, pansexual was adopted by the BDSM community to mean that you were down to do anything. It wasn’t until the late 90s that pansexuality as we know it today began. People started using it in an effort to be more inclusive to non-binary identities because they falsely believed that bisexual only included men and women. 

There are records of bisexual people describing their sexuality as “attraction regardless of gender” decades before pansexuality popped onto the scene. In the 1990 Bisexual Manifesto, it’s explicitly stated “do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duagamous in nature.” The assumption that only pansexuals are attracted to people’s energy, or fall in love with overall beauty, or whatever is the latest way to describe being “genderblind” is firstly ahistorical and secondly just… rude. People of all sexualities are attracted to and fall in love with the whole person. Or else they would just be mindless sex robots.

you did not come off as aggressive at all, and I’m aware transgender is not a third gender so I’m sorry for making it sound like it was. On top of that, I am non-binary so I know all about that, my sexuality is what has been confusing me due to people telling me I’m not being inclusive.

But otherwise besides all that, thank you so much for this information. Literally no one told me whole BDMS thing and the Freud discovery made zero sense but I didn’t really have say whether that was true or not since most of the information on the internet is outdated a lot of times.

Tbh I almost considered myself as pansexual because growing up as bi, I legitimately thought I was being exclusive so I would have to explain myself to people saying “I’m attracted to all” so they wouldn’t think I’m being a bitch. Pansexuality came around and I was like “yes, a word to describe I’m attracted to all, I finally don’t have to clarify that I’m not exclusive in any way” ((major internalized biphobia right there, I’m getting better at not having to prove my sexuality cause I know I’m open to all now))

Bi Is Enough: Parting With Pansexuality

2018 study showing that bisexuals experience worse rates of anxiety and self harm, and generally felt life was not worth living in 2017.

LGBT in Britain Health Report, from Stonewall and YouGov, 2018

the truth is, no one wants to be bisexual. we’re not blind, we know that everyone thinks we’re lying, we’re sluts, we’re attention seekers, we’re stupid, we’re apolitical, we’re here to fulfil their fantasies and then be discarded, we’re gross, we’ll give you STIs, we’ll cheat on you, we’re unstable, unreliable, we don’t know ourselves, we’re unwoke, we’re fake gay, we’re fake straight, everyone is fascinated with us but no one likes us, no one takes us seriously, no one believes our pain and our struggles and we don’t belong anywhere

we know exactly what kind of ideas people will associate with us as soon as we call ourselves “bisexual”, we know how hated and tainted that word is and that’s why so many of us shun labels, say vague things like “i just like people” or “I’m queer”, that’s why there are 200 new labels than mean bisexual but use different words, because we’ll do anything to run away from the pain of how the world sees and treats bisexuals

even in leftist spaces, bisexuality is the one issue that is still a fair target, that you can say anything about, people can say we’re just scared of fully coming out, we’re perpetuating patriarchy, we’re transphobes, we’re binarist, whatever, you can literally say anything and no one will stand up for us, including bisexuals because we’ve internalised all those messages and don’t believe we actually deserve respect or care, we don’t believe bisexuality is political or important or worthy  

it takes years of intense work and dedication to accept you’re bi let alone to feel pride in your bisexuality

and that’s why having another label that means bisexual but isn’t bisexual is so fucking harmful, because it prevents us from addressing and tackling biphobia - both internalised and societal - by distracting us and by pretending we can run away from it by simply using a shiny new label

making up a new word for bisexuality means you think bisexuality is disposable, worthless, optional, not worth fighting for, it’s disrespecting and discarding decades of bisexual history and activism and it’s alienating bisexuals from the existing bi communities all over the world

Ola from Sex Education

David from Schitt’s Creek

Ali from Big Mouth

Three different shows, three different ways of describing pansexuality. What do they all have in common? The assertion they are attracted to trans people. More than that, it’s the assertion that pansexuality is defined as a sexuality through attraction to trans and nb people. While some people might protest that this is an inaccurate representation of pansexuality, it is very much in line with it’s slogan: hearts not parts. This also has the additional implication that other sexualities are not inclusive of trans and nonbinary people or care more about genitals, which enables transphobes to define what it means to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual. Gay, lesbian, and bi people can and do have trans and nb partners and in fact are often trans/nb themselves.

to thousands of people making phony images and replying to them with their passionate desire to have them as a tshirt to overload the bots with nonsense and junk and send out warnings to shoppers like this:

and now we even have people replying to pictures of baby yoda with “i want this on a tshirt” knowing how ravenous disney is being with copyright in hopes to get the stores taken down altogether

Follow Up

….But at the same time, she doesn’t tolerate being objectified against her wishes:

but then there’s also the time she just….built a functional AI?

Japanese child actress Mana Ashida (little Mako) was embarrassed that she couldn’t pronounce Guillermo Del Toro’s name so he gave her special permission to call him “Totoro-san” instead.

Trans boys? Fucking amazing 

Cis boys? Hell yeah, awesome.

Short boys? Fuck yeah, less than 5-foot gang!

Tall boys? Fucking sick dude, you can use me as an armrest any time.

Chubby boys? amazing. 

Skinny boys? marvelous.