Is that what you call a getaway?

How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions

Emotional regulation skills

Conflict resolution skills

Creating and enforcing boundaries

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills

Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for

Axes of self-care/wellbeing

Self-care self-evaluation (find out where you’re starting)

How to make a self-care checklist

How to start a self-care habit

Reparenting resources

Crash Course Psychology

KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)

Emotional education activities for children and teens

Me setting a timer when I got to bag claim just now: I'm so clever! I will now be reminded that it's only been five minutes and bag claim usually takes about twenty!

On the one hand, timing something is about reminding myself "No, it's only been five minutes," but it is ALSO about knowing when something is taking way longer than it should.

If I'm put into an exam room in a doctor's office, I start a timer. Because I have been forgotten about in a doctor's office before, I get nervous that I'll just be sat in there forever, and the timer tells me "No, they haven't forgotten you, it's only been 10 minutes." But it also tells me if I have been there longer than appropriate (generally more than 40 minutes) so that I know when it's justifiable to flag down a nurse to find out what's going on.

At bag claim, because I know it usually takes about 20 minutes to get my bag, I don't get concerned until the timer passes the 20 minute mark without any bags appearing. At that point I know I need to take off my headphones and start paying attention -- looking at signage, maybe asking someone if I'm at the right carousel. Maybe don't worry yet, but start double-checking. Perhaps the delay is unavoidable and it'll just be an hour, but at least, having asked, I KNOW it'll be an hour, and the timer will tell me when the hour is past and I should maybe check in again.

Now, if the bags do start showing up before 20 minutes but my bag hasn't shown up by the 40 minute mark, I know that again it's time to put my head on a swivel, and at the 50 minute mark it's time to go speak to someone in the baggage claim office. This has more than once helped me locate my bag when it's accidentally been sent to the wrong part of the airport. There is no point at which, without the timer, I would go "man this is taking a long time" and then actually go ask, because I wouldn't actually know how long it had been.

The timer both prevents me from worrying before I need to and tells me when to start worrying -- essentially, because I'm both perpetually impatient and also infinitely patient, I've outsourced my patience to a stopwatch. And because I time a lot of things, I now know the average time a lot of things take, which helps me calibrate my concerns appropriately. Ten minutes is a long time to wait for a burger from McDonalds, but it's actually on the short end of the time it takes to get a burger from Shake Shack. It's not a long time to be on hold with the HR office of my old employer, but it's longer than I'd usually be on hold with my pharmacy. Et cetera.

Boise city council votes 5-1 to make pride flag official city flag

Don't fucking lose hope!!! If one of the most dangerous states for queer people can have it's CAPITAL CITY go 5 to fucking 1 to make this flag an OFFICIAL CITY FLAG, there is always going to be hope.

The Tiny Me in OSHA-approved Hi-Vis Gear Who lives in my brain and pulls all the levers: Boss, it's the fascism. You're completely gunked up with cortisol due to the fact that your entire daily life is now underscored with a haunting awareness of the rapid erosion of your rights, dignity, and any and all social safety nets, and you're also bearing witness to the most vulnerable people immediately being persecuted. This creates a natural stress response that basically means you're going to continue having memory and organizational problems, as well as emotional imbalances.

Me: BUT I HAVE A BULLET JOURNAL AND I MEDITATE NOW.

I forgot it’s February. February is the most terrible month. That is why I have this image.

trump created this problem when he introduced the tiktok ban in his first term and he’s going to take credit for “solving” it now. the tiktok ceo made a video thanking trump for “understanding the app” then the error message says we are grateful to trump for working with us on this ?? AND he’s invited to sit front row at the inauguration??? oh also new facebook/tiktok integrations popping up today ???

Friends, I had not received a jury summons for this month. Which I told him, at which point his previously clear diction suddenly turned into a rapid mumble, only becoming clear for scary words like 'federal' and then asking to confirm my address, at which point I hung up and decided to call the police department later.

When I called the police department the desk officer sounded so tired y'all. All I had to say was "Hey I got a call earlier saying I missed jury duty this morning?" and she immediately sighed and told me that yes it was a scam that was going around and thanked me for calling to confirm.

So this is your periodic reminder that law enforcement agencies will not call you to tell you that you're in trouble. If you need to pay a fine of some sort they will mail you a physical invoice. Anyone calling you saying they're from the police or any other law enforcement organization (up to the CIA and yes I have heard of scammers attempting to impersonate CIA agents over the phone) who then tries to get financial information from you over the phone is a scammer.

I asked him why I hadn't received any notice of this.

"They didn't have the right address and the proceedings will start in two hours!"

Oh no, I said. How awful. Please give me the name of the courthouse and the docket ID so I can call them to see if I can make arrangements.

*click*

That is not how "you are going to be on trial for a crime you didn't commit" works

No real lawyer is going to volunteer to represent someone they've never heard of without at least a solid discussion of what's going on.

Always ask for the extra details. Account numbers. Location. Date of the incident in question. If it relates to court, name of the judge; name of the prosecutor. If it's an offer of money, who's giving it, and do they have a website? If it's a bill, what's the invoice number, when was it created, what's the source company's contact info? And by the way, Caller Trying To Avert Disaster By Calling Me, A Stranger - what's your name, email, phone number, and relation to this incident? Where did you get my number? Ah, there's a virus on my computer, you say? Which one? ("The one running Windows.") ("Which computer? Which version of Windows?") (At the time I got this call, I didn't know it was a scam - I just knew we had 5 computers in the house, some of which had different versions of Windows.)

Law enforcement agencies that call you - which, as noted above, is NOT how this works - will be VERY CLEAR about their bona fides. They will establish which agency they are calling from; they will give you their name; they will give you whatever ID number they have. (Badge number, employee ID, whatever.) They WILL give you a contact number so you can call them back.

For any of the "I think this might be a scam" issue: Start with, "What's your name and phone number, in case we get disconnected?" Then ask for the case number, invoice number, account number - something that identifies "you" on their end.

Anything legit will WANT you to call them back if there's a problem.