Apocalypse Queen

attention transfems:

yeah, people hate when you point it out but the combo of how restrictive femininity is and the voice effects of T legit make it easier to pass as a trans man. i'm a trans guy and i started T less than a year ago, and i'm already passing completely in public despite not changing any of my mannerisms (and being short lol). granted, i'm really lucky in a lot of departments! i'm pretty flat so binding is easy, i got lucky with voice changes, and i'm skinny, which makes passing easier in either direction. there are absolutely trans men who can't pass without surgery. but my coworker is a trans woman, and has been on HRT longer than i have, and still gets "sir"'d by customers constantly. she does the things women are "supposed to do", she voice trains, has long hair, and wears makeup, but between the two of us it's me who's gendered correctly more. and that's absolutely cause it's just easier to be seen as a man. we're both thin, both white, both transitioned in our late teens, the only difference is gender. i get out of bed and go to work exactly as i am, she goes through a whole routine and still gets misgendered. it isn't fair, it pisses me off, but if you point it out people get so upset! i'm not sure if it's insecurity from other men or what. it's not easy to pass as a man by any means, but it's harder by miles as a woman, and pretending it's 1:1 is just ignorant, and hurts your understanding of transmisogyny and misogyny in general. sorry to send such a long message, i wanted to offer my experience but it ended up being long-winded. tldr i agree with you and i think it's important to say

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