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“Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep” – Mary Elizabeth Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep : The main character tells his mom that he’s a man, which is illustrated with a blue Mars symbol in a speech bubble.

I am not there. : The mom turns away from her child, crying and denying him; her speech bubble crosses out the Mars symbol and replaces it with a bunch of pink Venus symbols. Her son reaches after her, distraught.

I do not sleep. : The main character is shown awake in bed with bags under his eyes.

I am a thousand winds that blow. / I am the diamond glints on snow. : In a dream, he falls through the sky crying, his long hair caught by the wind.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain. / I am the gentle autumn rain. : A close-up of the main character’s tears as he closes his eyes.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush : The main character wakes up and puts a hand to his chest. His hair is short now, indicating that time has passed since he came out.

I am the swift uplifting rush / of quiet birds in circled flight. : He puts on his binder with a smile.

I am the soft stars that shine at night. : He looks over to where his cell phone beeps on a nearby table.

Do not stand at my grave and cry. : The phone screen shows a text conversation between the main character and his mom. The incoming message says “Hi!” with a pink Venus sign: his mom is misgendering or deadnaming him. The main character picks up his phone, then puts it back down and turns away.

that's really exactly it.

as someone who could very easily qualify for a diagnosis of bpd or cptsd, and even very often resonates with both, everything described in bpd is just a demonization of the same patterns of behaviour described by cptsd. it is just describing you as evil for struggling with being hurt so much, and in doing so, takes the focus away from the person hurting and puts it onto how it inconveniences everyone else.

we really need to be critical of how these labels come to be, because they are deliberately created, and they are created by people with biases. they are so often just a tool of oppression, another extension of a discriminatory machine.

I hope it isn't derailing, but I think this is also really illustrated with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. "narcissist" was a word for an asshole before it was a word for a disorder. rather than describing how someone might struggle to relate to others or be open to true connection, and centering the person who needs to heal, they instead called everyone who struggles with that an irredeemable dick and dressed it up in medical expertise so you wouldn't think to question it. frankly I think it's silly to call for treating "narcissist" like some sacred medical term instead of looking at how fucked up it is that they called a disorder that???

if you get a new adderall prescription i am medically advising you to start your first dose at 5mg or below, same for ritalin. the entire idea of medication of this type is to titrate up slowly until you hit the homeostasis of your own tolerance, genetic metabolic factors, and use case. titrating DOWN from a dose thats too high is wasteful and unpleasant and puts you at higher risk of psychosis

i posted on here a few days ago the idle thought that i wondered if prescribing physicians are all on long term adderall tolerance anyway (based on the adderall usage stats in med schools) so they think their patients should be started at higher doses and one of my pharmacy industry mutuals replied to me privately and just said “yep” so keep in mind the entire field of western medicine as it exists today is practiced by functional speed freaks and adjust your expectations