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Aroace culture is thinking someone looks aesthetically pleasing, pretty, handsome, ect without wanting to have sex or romantic feelings for them. sometimes you just want to look at them, or in my case draw them :)
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SOOO REAL my friends are so pretty it's insane
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Society puts too much value on Romance.
Tell me something new
Friendships seem to have an "end date".
At 6 years old, you're expected to only have friends. Sure, there's some teasing like "is this your boyfriend/girlfriend??~" (which is a topic of its own); but you're not expected to have romantic, let alone sexual, attraction.
At 16 or 26 however?
Do you have a partner yet? Are you still a virgin? Why haven't you done XYZ yet? Why are you still only friends?
How come that nothing changes, not my attitude, not my friendships, yet suddenly, platonic love is no longer enough?
Familial relationships are part of this, too.
There is some universal feeling that there is a point where you pair off.
Your friends only see you occasionally, and they turn more into acquaintances over time. They have partners of their own.
Your parents only see you when you need money... maybe on the holidays, too.
Your siblings? Well your sister just moved to another country with her husband. Cause that's normal.
It's just assumed that you prioritize your romantic partner, or more specifically, deprioritize everyone else. It's just what you do... even though that's not the case.
There is no biological reason. No natural reason.
In fact, nature wants MORE connections, no? When you have a group of people, your pack is stronger, safer, whatever. Historically, larger social groups were preferred.
This is purely a social construct. But here's the good news:
YOU CAN CHANGE THIS.
You, the reader. The one who is currently dating or wants to be.
Aros and Aces, too, obviously, though I assume people uninterested in romance or other non-platonic bonds, ESPECIALLY the ones on tumblr, already share this mindset.
No one is forcing you to live by this mindset. No one is forcing you to deprioritize everyone in favor of one single person.
And if they are, that's a red flag. Try to talk it out or leave that person if possible.
Make your friends important. Hug your friends, not just your wife. Gift thoughtful items to your friends, not just your husband. Sleep over with your friends, not just your spouse.
Obviously there are still a ton of social benefits to romance, and these have to be tackled and dismantled. But a good amount of them don't need romance specifically.
For example, housing is easier for couples. Two salaries to afford rent. Two bodies to complete chores. Four parents to support you.
But that "couple" doesn't need to be romantic.
Additionally, Physical Affection isn't necessarily romantic. Hold your bestie's hand, cuddle them, share a bed. This isn't weird to do with friends just cause you're suddenly 20.
Same with Emotional Intimacy: deep vulnerability, secrets, primary emotional support. Those things aren't exclusive to romantic partners, society may want you to think this, but they aren't. Be open with your friends, too.
The "friendzone" is fundamentally flawed as a concept, as it frames friendship not just as a lesser connection, but as failure. "You didn't get sex and you guys don't even kiss. You failed." That tells you everything about how society values friendships.
There is a lot of work to do to dismantle a society that has benefits for romance that cannot be received otherwise... hospital visitation, inheritance, decision making, and so on. The closest of friends are still strangers legally, for example.
But there are things we can do right now. So let's do them.
(may or may not have gotten quite inspired by this video by Rowan Ellis)
hate those "is it romantic or platonic attraction" quizzes that are like 'do you see yourself holding hands with them?" or "do you get excited when you find something in common?" like babe be more specific. i want to hold my friend's hands. i get excited when i find out i share an interest with someone.
fun fact "a-spec people can still feel love even if it's different from what amatonormative society considers love" and "some people don't experience love at all and that's fine and doesn't make them any less human or worthy of respect" are two statements that can and do coexist
"last posted 1 month ago" oops hi i'm still alive tho
Society puts too much value on Romance.
Tell me something new
Friendships seem to have an "end date".
At 6 years old, you're expected to only have friends. Sure, there's some teasing like "is this your boyfriend/girlfriend??~" (which is a topic of its own); but you're not expected to have romantic, let alone sexual, attraction.
At 16 or 26 however?
Do you have a partner yet? Are you still a virgin? Why haven't you done XYZ yet? Why are you still only friends?
How come that nothing changes, not my attitude, not my friendships, yet suddenly, platonic love is no longer enough?
Familial relationships are part of this, too.
There is some universal feeling that there is a point where you pair off.
Your friends only see you occasionally, and they turn more into acquaintances over time. They have partners of their own.
Your parents only see you when you need money... maybe on the holidays, too.
Your siblings? Well your sister just moved to another country with her husband. Cause that's normal.
It's just assumed that you prioritize your romantic partner, or more specifically, deprioritize everyone else. It's just what you do... even though that's not the case.
There is no biological reason. No natural reason.
In fact, nature wants MORE connections, no? When you have a group of people, your pack is stronger, safer, whatever. Historically, larger social groups were preferred.
This is purely a social construct. But here's the good news:
YOU CAN CHANGE THIS.
You, the reader. The one who is currently dating or wants to be.
Aros and Aces, too, obviously, though I assume people uninterested in romance or other non-platonic bonds, ESPECIALLY the ones on tumblr, already share this mindset.
No one is forcing you to live by this mindset. No one is forcing you to deprioritize everyone in favor of one single person.
And if they are, that's a red flag. Try to talk it out or leave that person if possible.
Make your friends important. Hug your friends, not just your wife. Gift thoughtful items to your friends, not just your husband. Sleep over with your friends, not just your spouse.
Obviously there are still a ton of social benefits to romance, and these have to be tackled and dismantled. But a good amount of them don't need romance specifically.
For example, housing is easier for couples. Two salaries to afford rent. Two bodies to complete chores. Four parents to support you.
But that "couple" doesn't need to be romantic.
Additionally, Physical Affection isn't necessarily romantic. Hold your bestie's hand, cuddle them, share a bed. This isn't weird to do with friends just cause you're suddenly 20.
Same with Emotional Intimacy: deep vulnerability, secrets, primary emotional support. Those things aren't exclusive to romantic partners, society may want you to think this, but they aren't. Be open with your friends, too.
The "friendzone" is fundamentally flawed as a concept, as it frames friendship not just as a lesser connection, but as failure. "You didn't get sex and you guys don't even kiss. You failed." That tells you everything about how society values friendships.
There is a lot of work to do to dismantle a society that has benefits for romance that cannot be received otherwise... hospital visitation, inheritance, decision making, and so on. The closest of friends are still strangers legally, for example.
But there are things we can do right now. So let's do them.
(may or may not have gotten quite inspired by this video by Rowan Ellis)
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
shout out to the aro/ace spectrum people enduring valentine's. you're literally so beautiful and strong
LOVE IS DEFEAT
ARO IS WIN
wishing a very platonic valentines to all my aroace homies
happy valentines day friday! 💚🤍🩶🖤
HAPPY SATURDAY LOVElessLIES
are people under the impression that aromantic people never want to have close personal relationships with the people in their lives. "oh i wish i was aro it would save me all this drama!" actually human relationships are always deep and complicated and messy and have the potential to hurt and help and change your life and being romantic is just one possible aspect of that. aromantic people want to be close to the people around them just like anyone else. and i know the real issue is that people think romantic relationships are the only way to be truly close to someone else but it's weird and off-putting to constantly hear the implication that aros are somehow fundamentally incapable of forming relationships that would impact their lives negatively cause they don't wanna go on dates with people. not even mentioning the aros who do
for real, though... when i first heard the label "aroace" i thought i could never be that, because i love people and need human connections and i thought aroace means you don't do that.
all that aromanticism means is that you do not feel (or rarely feel) a romantic pull to someone, but that doesn't mean you can't love, can't like friends, can't get intro drama...
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aro culture is realising that that time you had a "crush" on your best friend was literally just you experiencing a real close healthy friendship for the first time
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to this day i still catch myself thinking "is this it? do i actually have a crush?"
no, i'm just being valued and treated like a human lol
happy february, notoriously the best and worst month to be aromantic
Aroace culture is not understanding the difference between the symptoms of a crush and a cold.
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hugging and cuddling platonically has got to be the best feeling ever
my heartrate slows to a crawl when i cuddle my bestie this is so real
I think something people don't seem to get about sex repulsion is that it's not some easily definable thing? It can fluctuate. I can be repulsed by sex irl, but not by it in media. I could actively seek it out in media while also being absolutely queasy at the thought of that same thing happening irl. I can sometimes feel repulsed by it in media, and sometimes not. I can sometimes feel neutral about sex irl and sometimes be actively disgusted by it. I can enjoy casual touch but get averse when that touch becomes sexual.
I just feel like people treat sex-repulsion like it's a monolith and you need to fit into one particular slot where you're either repulsed by all things sex, or you're neutral about all things sex, or you actively enjoy all things sex. Where's the in-between? Human experiences are not so easily carved out and defined
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we have to do it again everyone. we have to get aromanticism trending on valentines day again this year. we need to win
this wouldn't be an issue if people recognized platonic relationships on valentines day 🥀
many people would be happier and feel less broken if we de-centered romantic relationships but idk if queer people are ready for this discussion. simply because if you are traumatized and soft conversion therapy’d out of expressing romantic desire, the idea that romance is not important is traumatic. and then there’s the pervasive family of origin trauma. if your partner fulfills the ache of unconditional love that you never felt growing up, you understandably will want to prioritize that relationship. plus there’s the pervasive sexual shame.
which means that people who are aro and ace kind of have to navigate a soup of other people’s trauma that we trigger by existing, and definitely trigger by taking up space and CERTAINLY trigger by offering observations like this one.
