people are so weird about cnc and I always just want to look them in the eyes and say “you are getting mad at people for playing pretend. you are getting mad at people for saying ‘raaar! I’m gonna getcha!’ you are not a serious person.”
so much ink and tears have been spilled theorizing that rape kink is about trauma and social anxieties and power fantasies and sure maybe. but I think we’re just mammals who like pretend danger in our play just like every other mammal ever. because we have evolved to find that fun. and the only difference between play-wrestling in bed and pulling out the fuzzy handcuffs is commitment to the bit
showing up to the orgy and someone yells NOSE GOES
whoever the dom gets off first has to be the next dom
You would think that in a world full of violent mass media people would be more reasonable about sexual roleplay but a lot of people seem to think if sex is involved then playing pretend reflects some kind of True Desires in a way that pretending to kill people in a video game or a story you're writing doesn't.
said this before, but most bondage is a form of light cnc and it is somewhat concerning that the deeply aggrieved don't notice/think of it that way
