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1. Be good looking. Don’t be not good looking.

Good looking people are always well received and have a greater margin of error. Serious mistakes will still cost them, but little blunders will not cost them in the way it costs ugly people. This one is hard to control though. You can influence this by working out, good hygiene, pay for nice teeth, wear high quality clothing.

2. Remember peoples names. Use them frequently.

Remember everyones name. When you see them, use their name and smile. Everyones favorite word is their own name.

3. Touch people. Body language.

when you are talking with someone, occasionally touch their shoulder or lightly grab their arm while laughing at a joke they made. Go for high fives/brofist. Do playful pushaways (more roughly with guys). Give firm handshakes. If guy/girl, go for playful palm reading. Occasionally mirror the body language of person you are talking to (not all the time or its obvious and creepy). Do not cross your arms or put hands in your pockets when talking to someone (defensive body language). Use your hands when talking to amplify your communication. Hold eye contact 70-90% of the time. Learn to smile naturally on command and do it frequently.

4. Make people feel like they are important

When talking 1 on 1 with someone, do not get easily distracted by outside things. Stay focused. LISTEN to what they say, occasionally repeat it back to them in different words/summarize after they say their bit and then ask them a question about it. Ideally convo should be 70/30 with them being 70% talking and you 30%. Just enough on your part that it does not feel like they are being interviewed. As above, smile naturally when they tell a joke (even if its not funny).

When talking to a group of people, learn to make each person feel they are the most important person you are talking to. This is very difficulty to master (I certainly havent mastered it). It’s about utilizing eye contact, body language and engaging with those in the group that engage with you.

5. Be funny and mysterious. Learn to converse well.

When its your 30. Reveal a little about yourself but never too much. Always leave a few critical details out, leave people wanting more. Make jokes. Learn to make fun of the other person in a non-cruel and playful way. NEVER insult their taste. aka NEVER insult their favorite band/movie/artpiece/author/philosopher/scientist/politician etc.

On the subject… you do not have to avoid religion and politics. Actually I would encourage it… BUT do not be argumentative. Perhaps give a a non threatening “light” countering view (like weed legalization) and ask them to share their views and they make them think you have possibly been persuaded by them. People often do not get to talk about religion/politics and when they do someone is there to yell at them and argue with them and make them feel bad. Stand out by letting them almost persuade you. However this leads into another important point.

Do not share your views on everything. Do not be a fedora or a bible thumper. Do not be a liberal or a conservative. Give 100% support to neither side and nooone. allow them to fight for your approval but never fully give it anyone. People will respect you for being open-minded and will do good things for you while trying to win you over. Great politicans win the hearts of people by being ambigious and never being too stuck on a philosophical or political point. Be loosy goosy and mysterious.

6. Be positive.

Do not be overly positive about EVERYTHING. But generally be positive. Be fun. Be spontaneous. Be a “dancer” not a “wallflower.’ The world sucks. We get it. Everyone knows. Thats why we need some damn positivity. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop imagining yourself as the victim of circumstances outside of your control. Don’t waste energy hating people. Don’t complain about anything ever. Never. Just never. Yes, its tough. But the world is 99% complainers. Find someone who doesn’t complain and you might just start a religion or cult around them. World is going to end tomorrow? Sounds like a good time to go dancing, enjoy the stars and make love.

7. Learn Skills and get good at them.

Horse-riding. Guitar. Dancing. Acrobatics. Magic. Math. Judo. Swimming. Writing. Painting. Acting. Fixing machines. Electronics.

Whatever it is, get good at it. Enjoy it. The world is full of people who just sit on facebook/reddit or watching tv or reading crappy fiction novels. Be someone who has a skill or enjoys doing something productive and people will want you in their lives, they will idolize you. You will have intrinsic worth.

8.Be Narcissistic but set your ego aside.

Do not let people insult you. If someone jokes at you, joke right back and laugh. Never be insulted. You are a god. Gods are not insulted by mortals. But do not talk about yourself, do not complain, do not have a victim complex. You are a god, you do not need approval. You are not worried about the loss of a friend or a girl who does not appreciate your godliness. But you are not rude. You are above them. This kind of attitude is hard to cultivate and maintain, but people will be drawn to you if you learn to utilize a kind of narcissism.

9. Learn to speak properly 2.

Lower the tonality of your voice at end of statements. Do not uptalk. Learn to pause between sentences, 2 seconds is good. Learn to speak a bit slower. (see Carl Sagan, Obama etc.) Do not be nervous about silences. Utilize silence.

10. Do not be a know-it-all. Make other people feel smart.

This one is tough. Learn to come off as intelligent but never try to one-up people. Do not be a know-it-all. Come off in body-language and attitude, in skills and success - come off as intelligent. But in conversation, do not always be correcting people. Do not try to constantly teach people. A wise teacher teaches by success and through kindness. Do not insult people for having differing opinions or not knowing something. Let people teach you. Remember that everyone you meet knows something(s) you don’t. Let them teach you. Be open minded. Refer to 5 though, let them enlighten you but maintain some skepticism, do not be won over too easily. People are constantly being told by other people they are stupid, stand out by making them feel smart.

11. Give specific compliments to specific people, do it rarely and only when desrved.

Another one I had to edit to add. Generic compliments like “you are beautiful” or “you are nice” or “you are a good person” or “you are smart” are given ALL the time. They mean nothing. It is very evident that you are trying to win them over, it’s lazy, and it just inflates their ego. Yes, for all the negativity in the world and people telling them they are stupid - most people have massive egos (which is why you need to learn to set aside your ego while being a narcissist. wei wu wei, bitch). Everyone has now been brought up being told they are special, the are the hero(ine) of the story, they are destined for greatness. We live in a culture of the ego-maniacal. Vague compliments only inflate this false sense of ego and make people think you are trying to get something from them.

Women and hot guys get these kinds of vague compliments daily. They essentially become a screening process on who not to talk to. Forget it.

However, specialized compliments are good for the less egotistical. The more genuine they seem or are, the better. They don't have to be genuine of course, they just need to appear genuine. “That’s a cool hat” or “wow you nailed that dance” or “how did you get a 90 on that test?” are much better.

Do not compliment people with super-egos. These people take all forms of compliments as fodder for their ego. they will toss you aside like a cheap snack bar wrapper. Learn to be different by not complimenting these people. Play hard to get. Make light jokes towards them. Treat them as an equal or lesser. These people crave that, deep down inside they often desire an equal and are tired of being treated like idols.

12. Learn to read people. get what you want by learning to give people what they want. Be the trojan horse.

Each person is different. As 11 illustrates, everyone wants something different. Learn to read people and give them what they want. Some people want to be insulted, some people want to be idolized. Some of them want to huuurt you~~ No but seriously, a good tactician changes his/her strategy to the battefield and the state of affairs. Learn to vary your approach. Give people what they want (not usually physial objects, this is metaphysical/metaphorical) and they will often willingly give you what you want.

My best example for this is anal. I used to just ask girls I was dating “Can we do anal?” and the answer is 99% no. It’s not a sexy way of going about it and its too upfront. Play the trojan horse. If you meet a girl who likes to be dominated, dominate her, and she will love anal. Meet a girl whose never orgasmed, and give her an orgasm while your finger is in her butt, and she will love anal. Meet a girl who wants to be dominant, and let her dominate - and she will love anal. This seems like just idiotic sexual advice, but it is metaphorical for a lot of things in life. You can substitute anal for a lot of things - a pay raise, a promotion, going skydiving, moving in together, getting a record deal etc. There are plenty of things in life that may seem to people a one-sided deal that will cause them pain. Rather than charging the gates and being confrontational or begging for what you want - learn to sneak in like the trojan horse. Many of these things often end up being good for both parties (I bet whoever Jay Z convinced to sign him ended up happier for it later).

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This is just a “brief” list. If you aren’t willing to do these things, you don't really want to be liked. You only kind of want it. For further reading see:

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1. Change your Mindset

You don’t have to be a cutthroat scandalous woman in order to be a genuine gold digger.

Most of the true gold diggers I know are the nicest, sweetest, most charismatic women you would ever want to meet.

In the Slums and Ghettos, the poorest of the poor are doing things to their neighbor you wouldn’t do to a stray dog. So when people say things like „people with money are evil, corrupt, cold and heartless“ you know thats only BS the broke people say to make themselves feel better and justify their lack of ambition to make something better out of their lives

Don’t be a people pleaser, especially when the people you are trying to please aren’t doing anything for you or looking for your best interest.

„Success is a great deodorant. It takes away all your past smells.“ Once you’re up in a mansion or on an exclusive Island, would you really still care what people would say about you? That’s the point.

Don’t be apologetic because guys out there will not be apologetic for trying to have sex with you once they find out you’re an easy target or sucker for love. 

They will not be apologetic for taking advantage of your fragile state. They will not be apologetic for using you and moving on

2. Change Your Environment

When women are broke together, they get into all kinds of immoral activity. They get high and casually sleep with all kinds of guys. But all of a sudden, when one person tries to break out of the mold and do something different and better themselves away from the pack these friends start preaching morality.

Women who escaped their poverty circles always had to stay low key with their game in order to avoid the negative backlash

It is lonely at the top but it is jam-packed at the bottom. Remember its better to be envied than pitied.

Gold diggers do not have pity-parties. Misery loves company, but gold diggers will have none of that. 

A true gold digger has nothing to complain about because she’s getting hers. 

You are going to be the one on vacation, you are going to be the one traveling the world, you are going to be the one living the lavish life yourself. You won’t have time to talk about somebody else living that lifestyle.

In many cases, poor people procreate with other poor people, therefore they never break the cycle of poverty that goes on for generation after generation.

Rich people know how to nurture and breed family bloodlines of wealth like thoroughbred horses. 

This is how they stayed rich for generation after generation after generation. They understood the concept of assets on assets. Try to become an asset. 

Go to upscale places, hang out around upscale people in upscale places. If you can place yourself there physically, you will get there mentally and ultimately financially.

Just get into the dating scene with rich guys to be around that wealthy vibe, to learn from them, and to make contacts through them. 

You’ll learn how to deal with rich guys and you’ll learn how to be an asset when that one Prince Charming does come into your life and you want to have that long-lasting relationship.

3. Get in the right energy

Think about success all the time. Think about being a winner all the time.

If you don’t have that winning mentality, you’re not going to appreciate what you get, simply because you don’t appreciate what you have.

It is very important to speak highly of people. It is very important to have a positive outlook about life, about everything.

You don’t want to project a negative aura. When people see that, they loose interest in you.

You want to at least appear to be as positive as possible.  A woman who has a good vibe and good energy is infectious and people want to be around her.

Successful men conduct business in large part by being charismatic and impressing others. Often they want a woman who’s the same way.

When your target is trying to enlighten you on something, you want to show that you appreciate and respect him. You don’t want to play dumb, but being ditzy in a subtle way works countless times.

4. Commit To The Game

The way to learn the lifestyle is to re-invent and rebuild yourself from scratch. 

You’ve got to get rid of the old, meek you and transform into a brand new gold digging seductress.

Women who live out their entire lives in safe situations, only dreaming one life „on the other side“. Some of them try to explore the other side in secret. But this tends to be half-assed 

You get in what you put out of a situation. I you put half-assed energy into the game, you’re going to get half-assed results

You have to like what you do. You have to be addicted to the thrill of the hustle.

GD Game:

The biggest mistake women make when they’re dealing with POTS is that they try to deal with all these guys the same way. That’s like playing lottery when it comes to dating.

Every target is a custom job. You have to be a chameleon with your game.

You’ll have to be able to adapt to the game that the guy is using towards you. 

A good gold digger knows how to adapt to any man and any surrounding 

when you date, do not think that your only job is to look pretty. If that’s the only asset you’re bringing to the table, at some point in time you’re going to be replaced. 

Being a pretty woman with a lot of game to back up your looks will get you in the door and keep you in the game. 

A lot of rich guys assume that most women out there who try to step to them are selfish. You have to prove otherwise. 

But if you can come across as a selfless humanitarian, or as someone who cares about the environment and what goes on in the world, your target will respect that. It will lower his defenses.

GD Looks:

If you want to live in a castle, you have to look like a princess. 

You can’t have a low budget look trying to get wealthy men. You really have to invest in yourself. 

When your targets see that you invest in yourself and take care of yourself, they’re going to want to continue the process as well. 

If he’s financially disciplined, he wants a woman who’s at the very least physically disciplined.

White clothes give off the illusion of wealth and success even if you are not rich. wear as many white outfits as you can. 

Wealthy men do notice a a woman shoes and look at the style of shoe a woman is wearing. 

When wealthy men see that you have nice shoes, it tells them that you take time out to take care of your feet. 

The subconscious correlation men will make is that you’re going to take that same care and dedication with other parts of your body and by extension, with other people.

More than that, shoes and feet are an aphrodisiac to men. When they see women in heels, they zone in on the way they walk, and how graceful their stride is. 

the best way to walk in high-heeled shoes without them hurting your feet is to walk one foot in front of the other. That will help alleviate the pain and it will give you a graceful, sophisticated look. That will help you look more thorough in the game.

Best Places to start GD:

Excellent places where you can meet rich men is are upscale hair salons, high end shoe stores , expensive restaurants and golf

You can have the whole damsel-in-distress thing going on, and wealthy men will be glad to show you and teach you how to play golf. They love helping a little lady learn the ropes of the game. This is also a great opportunity for a conversation starter as well. If you want to be a good gold digger, definitely take up golf. 

Happy hour at an upscale hotel is another great place to meet wealthy men. Every city has at least one or two upscale hotels. There are cities with several upscale hotels. You can go there during happy hour, either alone or with a friend, just to wind down and have a drink. 

The hotel bar is a great place to rub elbows with the upper crust in your neighborhood or city. 

In many of these places you won’t even have to strike up the conversation yourself. Just by positioning yourself in these locations, many guys will simply step to you. 

It’s really about timing and positioning yourself strategically in the right locations. 

Just getting to a spot and being in the right place at the right time is about eighty percent of the game. The rest should fall into place. 

In order to participate at an exotic car event, one has to have serious money to have a car to get into one of these races. For wealthy men, it’s like a hobby to them. Women don’t generally know about this. This is a great little secret of the gold digging game.

How to spot a rich man

One thing you want to look at are a man’s hand. If you see a man with a manicure that means that he likes to present himself in a certain way. 

Look at those fingernails. When you see a guy with nice hands that shows that he’s not doing manual labor. Most millionaires just don’t do manual labor. They have other guys doing the grunt work

Avoid guys who are too flashy. Most guys who dress in gaudy outfits and trying to display money, are not really rich.

Wealthy men dress clean and they’re well groomed, but the don’t wear loud colors and don’t display over the top jewelry.

The casually dressed guy sitting at the bar could be an undercover millionaire. There are targets who purposely dress down and drive an average looking car to hide their wealth.

Follow them around town and see where they hang out. They might be driving that bucket to the yacht club. They might spread their wealth in several different banks and investment houses.

Fake Watch? The second hand of a genuine Rolex watch does not tick. In most watches, the second hand will tick. The Rolex hand floats, it never ticks

Things to be aware of:

Protect your reputation. For a Gold Digger, being labeled a slut is career ending! 

When you just meet a guy, and he wants to immediately take you on a vacation within the first few days of knowing you, that should send you a red flag.

He knows that once you’re away from what’s familiar to you, you’re going to be a little more vulnerable. 

You don’t want to have sex too soon because the minute you do, you don’t have anything left to bargain with. You don’t want to put yourself out there like that. 

When you go on vacation with a target immediately after meeting him, you have to dust off the old school, “It’s that time of the month” line 

You do not want to flat-out reject your target because that will leave a negative vibe. You want to be able to do it in such a way that your target will come back wanting you more. 

Remember: As a true to the game gold digger, you’ve got to be subtle in the way you do things. 

Let’s say a target wants you to spend the night with him at his home. You never want to say, “Hell no, I’d never do that.” You never want to diss the gentleman. You want to play it real cool. 

For example, you can say something like, “I have to respectfully decline.” 

The reason why you don’t want to blatantly reject targets is because a lot of these guys think with their egos. As a gold digger, you want to cater to and stroke their egos. You want to make them feel manly. 

Don’t think with your own ego, because these guys will sit up and tell you that you’re the best thing since sliced bread, only to tell you the next day, “I’m done with you. I’ve got a new girlfriend.” 

Part of the sugar daddy game is they’ll offer to get you a nice house, they’ll offer to get you a car, or something else of prime importance. Sugar daddies make it all seem like you have them wrapped around your finger. 

Unfortunately, the opposite is true: They’re getting you wrapped around their fingers. That’s the trick a lot of women don’t know about. Once you get into that house, once you get into that car, you’re under their command. 

A true to the game gold digger is always in control of the game. You let him think that he’s in control, but you always run the show as a true gold digger 

Don’t ever let a target manipulate or pressure you into any situation. No matter how much money they give you, never let a target use money to control you.

Always Come Across As Being Unattainable

You want your target to pursue you. You want to have your target earn you. You want your target to court you. The reason is a simple one: People value what they work for. 

if you go to a restaurant and the food is a hundred dollars a plate, psychologically you’re going to think that the food is better because it’s more high-priced. 

You want to come across as being unattainable, like you’re not quite ready for a serious relationship. 

You have to be courted into a relationship, slowly, gradually. Your time is such where you seem a little too busy to spend with your target. You always want to keep your target chasing.

He has to know that you are a high maintenance young lady. If you come across as low budget, he’s going to treat you like you’re low budget. 

Wealthy guys are going to test you. Some of these targets are going to try to play you like you’re beneath them. 

You have to step up to the plate and let them know that you’re high maintenance and that they’ll have to continue to treat you like you’re high maintenance

No matter how smoothly and subtly you work it, you want to be stern and still get your point across.

Discipline

When you have a sense of discipline, you will be able to control your actions and not let your actions control you. 

You’ve got to be very disciplined when it comes to dealing with your targets, because they’re going to try to impress you, they’re going to wine and dine you. They’re also going to test you and see how weak you are, they’re going to try to see what moves and motivates you, they’re working really hard to see your Achilles’ heel. 

You’re going to have to stand strong and not be swayed by any of the wealth you see before you. You can’t be thrown off your game by any sexual chemistry you and your target may both have. 

wealthy men like the challenge. If you can show that you can go toe to toe with the best of them without breaking down or giving in, the payoff will be worth it.

Be Unpredictable

“familiarity breeds contempt.” When people get too used to you, they almost develop a certain level of disdain. 

you do want to be unpredictable. You change your patterns every now and then. 

This could be as simple as switching hobbies. You can rearrange your daily routine. You can change your look. It could be something as subtle as that. 

If you’re used to going to the mall everyday, at the same time of day, think about heading for the gym instead. 

There are all kinds of little things you can do to switch up the pace and throw your target off-guard. That way, he won’t be able to simply put you in a box. 

When they think they know you, turn left and go the other way. You always want to keep them on their toes. 

It’s like putting together a puzzle. When you’re working a puzzle, you’re intrigued by that puzzle because you’re trying to figure it out. Once you put the puzzle together, you’re not intrigued anymore. You have it figured out.

As a gold digger, you want to keep adding pieces to the puzzle so your target will never fully figure you out. 

Change your demeanor and attitude. One day, act totally happy-go-lucky. The next day, you have a dead-serious look on your face.

„Good Woman“ or Poor Ho?

Chances are you’ve wasted your good looks and time on relationships that didn’t put you ahead in life. It’s not that you were not a Ho, it’s that you were a dumb Ho. 

Husbands and boyfriends can be pimps too. If a man has no job, income or ambition and a woman takes care of him by way of her “regular job” she’s his ho. 

The only thing keeping a dumb ho with the man they’re with is that they are getting good sex or just afraid of being alone. Poor Hoes fancy themselves “good women” because they still believe in losers. 

All you have to show for your sexual follies are a string of bad break-ups, bad credit, fatherless children and a shelf full of self-help books written to convince you that you need to heal and love yourself before you can find love. That’s the life of a poor ho. 

Not only do poor Hoes carry around tainted reputations, bad memories of failed relationships with men and the burden of living up to the high moral standards of self-righteous people that criticize women in my world for putting prices on time- poor Hoes have to do so with little to no financial futures. 

Would you rather retire poor or rich? Would you like dying while embracing beliefs, morals and values given to you by others that never helped you reach your potential or die living your own way? 

Will your moral compass pay your bills, buy you a home, add money to your retirement savings? Are you a beautiful, vibrant, articulate and woman with beliefs, values and standards that make you feel like a good woman- but broke as hell? 

Hoes know and use their power

Pussy is powerful enough to make men take the most seemingly idiotic risks to their livelihoods, safety, freedoms, reputations and even family statuses! 

Just as cocaine, crack, and other highly addictive drugs enslave their patrons, women of the night find increasingly clever and enticing methods to lure, captivate, exploit and even tame some of the most powerful, influential men on the planet.

Hoe’ Genius!

What’s underestimated in ‚Hoes‘ is that these women have mastered reading into the psychological tendencies of men, to such a degree, that some crafty ladies can almost predict what a man will and won’t do. 

They even dangle pussy at the noses of these men like a carrot on a long stick in just the right way and with perfect timing. 

As a result, committed Hoes often reach plateaus of society that less sensual minded women will never get to. 

Often, such women don’t have to actually master a trade or even be knowledgeable about specific industry related topics but the men will want to “teach” them, share knowledge and opportunities. 

An ex-Ho will know more about men and relationships than a square bitch in the regular world trying to figure out why her husband or boyfriend won’t stop paying strippers and escorts with their savings. Ex-Hoes just accept and understand certain truths about human nature 

Smart Ho’s play dumb

Smart hoes know how to play dumb just enough to be approachable and unassuming to men. 

Disarming men of the need to think logically can’t be done by a ho bragging about her PhD. 

Hoes that do ho shit and scream to the top of their lungs how smart and insightful they are only attract antagonistic men that want to fuck them, and show them how stupid they really are. 

Men that think logically while dealing with hoes always end up getting something for nothing from dumb hoes that claim to be smart!

Men that feel no need to prove their intelligence when dealing with smart hoes that know how to play dumb, pay more money.

In this world, you don’t lead with your best weapon (brain), you hide it because you’ll need it to manipulate unsuspecting men. 

The male psyche is competitive. Hoes need to know how to switch the focus of men from being smart and competitive to being foolish. 

Men come to hoes to relax, not have the same so-called intellectual debates with a ho that they may have with a coworker, wife or girlfriend. 

What these men will not be doing when they are relaxed and catered to properly is putting efforts into being defensive, competitive and antagonistic. 

Disarmed men are great contributors to the financial causes of smart hoes. 

By the time these men are entranced, the smart ho has been watching each of them, studying where their eyes roam and fixate, figuring out how they think and what turns them on. 

A smart Hoe knows how to lie well

Dumb hoes tell the truth and hope for the best. Smart Hoes tell the truth needed at the moment 

A woman that leads with her best feature doesn’t know how to tease and seduce a man into submission.

when her “best feature” fails to impress she’ll do desperate dumb shit to get attention and acceptance. That makes her vulnerable to settling for less, a future cheap thrill at best. 

If a ho’s best feature is her personality, she should never admit it. Instead, claim that something else like tits, legs or ass are the best feature- no matter the appearance. 

To bring attention to lesser qualities and still maintain the interest of men means that she is so clever that she can get a man that loves big boobs to love small breasts. 

If you want a man to get hooked on your ass, pick the worst feature you have and tell him, “Most guys love my tits.” He’ll pretend to love your tits just to get to your ass 

when a smart ho tells men that most men love her feet and ankles even though she knows that her mind is as sharp as a razor, she’s telling men where she wants their focus to start. 

Even if the Ho knows that her feet and ankles are indeed her worst feature but watches men lie about how great her feet and ankles look, the ho learns how such men lie. 

If a Ho can’t tell when her clients or fans are lying, she’s no longer in business, she’s a fool in love. 

As a female capitalist, you will lie. You will deceive. You will have men believing that you care for them. Most of all they will believe in your illusion so wholeheartedly that they will reach into their pockets, hand you money and invite or even beg you to keep lying to them and feeding them their own fantasies. 

Smart Hoes don’t give it up easily

Pussy is valuable. The stock of pussy rises when it’s not accessible to everyone. 

Dumb Hoes resort to falling on their backs quickly under pressure. Smart Hoes create an entire world around prospects, lure men into the chase while milking them for money for as long as their teasing remains effective. 

If sex enters the negotiations, it is never positioned with a price. Instead, setting up business deals and residual work which produces funds is the aim.

Any ho can fuck, but it takes a business woman with a Ho side to obtain residual income without fucking until the highest bid’s check clears and the next prospect is on tap. 

This strategy allows smart Hoes to fuck for fun when the money is in place for other things. 

Big money doesn’t pay for sex, big money pays for access to rarity and status 

Play coy with the pussy, not with the business of positioning your package. 

Know your Targets Motives

Men that deal with known escorts, groupies, adult entertainers and business women with ho tendencies are not extending their time and money for sex. They are paying for the illusion of possibly experiencing the most intimate parts of the women. 

Men that have money and want to spend it on women are not victims. While they may behave as helpless sex addicts or shameless fans of erotic masterminds, these men want to be “handled.” 

Men don’t want to always know or think that they must pay for sex. So more upscale spenders would rather throw money into gifts and be angel investors for business women with viable ideas and skills. Use this to your advantage! Cash is not the only valuable thing a man can give you.

You may be thinking, why don’t these men just get real girlfriends? Real girlfriends demand more. They require men to listen, feel, compromise and collaborate for an undetermined amount of time. 

Hoes do not want to change a man’s life direction, they simply want to supplement the man’s life fulfillment 

Train your Targets

The difference between the man that will keep buying your show versus the man that will wake up and want to burn your show to the ground rests in your ability to know how far to bond with a man. 

Bond too much, he will expect more than you are willing to give. Bond too little, he will find another starlet to tell him lies. Work him just right and he will know when to stay and when to leave you alone. 

Training your contacts means grooming people to communicate with you on your terms. In this world, you have to set boundaries between your personal and professional life 

One of my girls has a unique way of training men to be prompt and follow her lead. When she gives them her phone number, she tells them to call at very specific times. She may instruct a guy to call her at 9:15 pm. 

Whether the guy calls earlier or later than the established time, she never answers the first call. She tests the man to see if he will leave a voicemail and if he does, she carefully listens to what he says in the message to ensure that he respectfully communicates and is discreet. 

In either case, when she calls men back she always tells them that she travels plenty for work, has a busy schedule and deals with the public frequently. 

Then she says that she usually has to schedule her social life and if he’s comfortable with her hectic schedule he must always be prompt if she’s going to reserve time for him. 

Most men fall right into line because they always want her to answer when they call and did not like the feeling of leaving messages on her voicemail. So she controls her communication channels at all times. 

Never reveal that your an escort on the side, or that you keep multiple sources of income. They will fuck once, pay and leave. These are the type of men that will invest in you, spoil you with diamonds, birkins, cars, vacations & allowances.

Rule No. 1

Be a sexy rich bitch with class & cunningness.

Rule No. 2

Act like a luxury, Dress to kill, Talk with your eyes and movement (keep stillness, remain subtle, make your presence felt tactfully).

Rule No. 3

Be mysterious & ambiguous in answering questions. Never reveal more than they should know. Be unreadable as It will save your life.

Rule No. 4

Keep them interested, Play mindgames, Make them feel wanted but act is you don’t care simultaneously. They’ll do whatever to get your attention.

Rule No. 5

Make them do most of the talking in conversations, but Take over in the sheets. Figure out his insecurities & remember small details he said carelessly. Compliment those areas, say you trust him, make him open up & feel important. He will be scared to lose you.

Rule No. 6

Be feminine, sweet & motherly occasionally. Make them remember that you are reliable & genuine. But disappear few days. Let them know they have to put effort & time in you.

Rule No. 7

Build trust, never reveal your intentions, Make progress adequately, be attentive underneath the surface & plan the right moment to ask (perhaps if his in a good mood that day or intentionally make him feel guilty, MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE HE OWE YOU)

Rule No. 8

Always leave him pleased, show that you are unpredictable & full of surprises. Be spontaneous.

Rule No. 9

Be the best, be unforgettable & lastly

MAKE THEM DIE FOR YOU.

We all know Marilyn Monroe, Angelina Jolie, and Halle Berry are some of the gems we have in movies now. But I’ve watched a lot of movies that helped me gain the sugar personas I had and I want to share some of those with you all.

Girlfriend experience

This is one of the more popular movies for sex workers and it is now a tv series. I personally liked it because I was ending a relationship while I was sugaring and I did feel some of the ways Christine felt.

Another thing I loved about this movie was the documentation and research this girl did on her clients. I use to have a notebook filled with all my POTs and SDs info, status, job info, likes and dislikes, turn ons, etc. My ex stole it a while ago but lucky for me I didn’t write down searchable info, even the names were in code.

I would recommend this as the first to watch before you binge watch sex work movies like I did.

Memoirs of a geisha

This is one of my personal favorites because I love the Asian culture when it comes to beauty. The grace, the discipline, and the routine of these woman is really what got me.

When I saw that one look method I was determined to get it to work for me. The Kama Sutra movie below also helped me achieve this. But nothing gets a man across the room faster than an enchanting look from a beautiful woman in their direction.

From this movie I was able to learn how to move more gracefully which is very attractive for men who like “exotic” women. So if you got hips sway them, if you have long legs be swift with your steps, and if your hand are flawless move them like a water bender on avatar (anime joke).

The Treacherous

This movie is very gory so if that’s not your thing don’t watch it. But it does show some intense training for courtesans (old world Asia times).

The seductiveness of these women turned me on so I knew the same methods would turn any man on too. My favorite seductive move is the removing of clothes shown in the beginning scenes where the man challenged the woman to a strip game.

Another scene that showed me a lot of gems was the actual training of the women and how they were to taught to please. I even got some old school hoe tips for my Vag in this movie.

Kama Sutra

Yes it is spelled right and yes it is about using Karma Sutra. If you want a movie example of how some Karma Sutra techniques work then look no further.

This movie showed me how equally important foreplay is for men as it is for us. It showed little snippets of how even feeding can be sensual for men. My favorite tip from the movie would have to be the eye movements of the women while they danced. Those eyes have gotten me compliments from many dance teachers because they could see sexiness in my eyes.

Just look at these eyes:

Etiquette of a mistress

In case you haven’t noticed by now I watch a lot of Asian movies. This one in particular is informative and funny so you’ll really enjoy watching it.

If you’re a sugar that deals with a lot of married men this movie is for you. It shows you how to be properly discrete with your time together and how to deal with the cons of a married man. The best part of this movie is it shows the perspective of a veteran and a newbie, so I know my vets will enjoy this if they or helping any newbies out there.

Wolf on wall street

This is of course on here because of the famous Naomi character that we love so much. Her sharp tongue is definitely needed when you are trying to pass through all the BS talk. But another thing to pay attention to is her physical presentation of herself. Her style with her looks was like devil in a red dress but with diamonds add.

Two can play that game

This one is mostly for my brown SBs who are close to their mid 20s.

In the 2000s this movie was like the black woman’s player guide. I’ve used many of these strategies to get men back on track to what I wanted. My little black dress is still in the closet waiting for the day my fiance acts up.

One thing from that movie I don’t do is flaunt another man because doing that in this world can severe ties real quick.

A lot of people focus on Shante in this movie but I also loved watching Conny too. Mainly because I love Gabrielle Union’s acting especially in Being Mary Jane.

Whoresglory

I didn’t learn much from this movie for my personal gain but I did learn a lot about sex work around the world. So if you’re just interested in a movie that shows you different kinds of sex workers watch this.

Breakfast at Tiffany

I love a good Audrey Hepburn movie because her white woman swag is just as awesome as Marilyn’s. She taught me how to be sweet and

youthful while also being mysterious and unavailable.

Being sweet and youthful is what kept my men feeling lucky to have me. But being mysterious and unavailable at times is what kept them on their toes and more willing do what was needed to “secure” me.

Show Girls

I’m starting to think I should’ve tried stripping because sexy dancing is one of my favorite things to do. Expressing with my body is like art to me but I was probably right not to strip, I would get addicted.

This movie however made me more glamorous and aggressive when it came to my sexy looks. I never got a chance to see real show girls in Vegas but I’m pretty sure I would be in awe by them. I’ve never been a glamorous person but after this movie I started adding a little shimmer and glitter to my style.

Chicago

Again with the dancing lol, I’m sorry ladies but these women, even with out the dancing were phenomenal. The He Made Me Do It song was an all time favorite for me.

But as far as lessons I started to see how competitive women could be when it comes to money and credibility/fame.

I learned on movies like this how to out smart them when it comes to whales.There have been many new girls who tried taking my main SD away from me but they couldn’t get to my relationship quality. Even when girls did get some dates from other SDs of mine they didn’t last long. So please remember ladies quality and good relationships always wins when it comes to real SDs.

Josephine Baker Biography

My girl next door persona has always got me the most money. So when I saw this biography I started mastering it. Her happy demeanor and tiny voice was so close to mine it wasn’t hard to practice.

What made me the happiest, was that even though she was sweet, innocent, and goofy she was also sensual. She knew how to express her sexuality without taking away from her innocence.

The end of the movie was sad and showed a lot of her flaws but she was still iconic.

Confessions of a Brazilian Call Girl

I can’t remember if this is based on a true story are not but it’s amazing. Especially with the online social platforms we have now, this movie has been very useful. This woman on here became a high class call girl based on online status alone.

She was also another person I looked to for glam sexuality and showed many women that even average women can dominate the sex world. There were bad parts like her cockiness and drug use but if she would’ve stayed in her grind she would’ve still been raking in millions. One thing this movie can show you (on the bad side) is that you should never try to “Keep up with the Jones” even in the sex world because it’s never greener on the other side.

Call Me: The Rise and fall of Hiede Fliess

If you don’t know Hiede Fliess, look her up now. She’s the greatest when it comes to call girls. The tactics she used to get where she was is amazing. She really knew how to keep connections with her clients and how to get other girls money.

I don’t know what she does now but I do respect the contributions she’s made to the sex work industry. If you’re in LA or Hollywood you should really watch this movie.

Some notable tv women I watch

Joseline Hernandez

She’s so unapologetic about who she is and will get money by any means necessary. Her and Cardi B are like alter egos I wish I had sometimes.

Cardi B

She is one of the realest woman I’ve seen on TV and she used what she had to get her fame. Now that she got it she is doing here to the max and I’m happy for her.

Nene Lakes

I can see myself being like Nene when I get older and wealthier. She is a star in many forms and doesn’t let these women or her man interfere with her money. She went from housewife to breadwinner even outside of the show.

Whitley Gilbert

I get all my bougie ways from Ms. Whitley lol. Really she was a good representation of a high class but down to earth black woman for me. She started out a little too much for me but after some seasons she grew on me. I’m always a sucker for tiny voiced women because mines is tiny too (Not as annoying as hers).

Tasha Patrick

Now I’m going to be honest I just started watching power but I love this women’s attitude. She’s sexy, ride or die, and also strategically vengeful. I might update this after I finish the show but for now that’s all I have to say.

Phaedra Parks

This woman beats me in being bougie and extra. I’ve never seen anyone who goes all out like she does. When I was in college I always wanted to be a like southern belle with curves so when this show came on I was tuned in. If you ever wanted to see an example of a curvy southern belle that can still get a little ghetto, Here she is.

This list is just a few of the many women I’ve watched to perfect my personas.

Now, when I switch my persona it’s not to completely change who I am but helps me adapt to different environments.

For example: If my SD likes to watch football games from his box then I’m not going to go into my prim and proper mode, I’m going to bring out girl next door me.

Depending on what your daddy likes you’re going to be put in different types of atmosphere and if you’re black than your going to need to adapt. The way to more opportunities is by building your credibility which is usually based on how much people like you. You re like an undercover celebrity lol.

Now if you don’t want to change that’s fine but that’s what’s work for me.

I change up like a Johnny Depp Movie role

Hope this all was helpful to you ladies.

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting 

Square cash warning 

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety 

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation 

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language 

Master guide: Body language linguistics 

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

 Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene 

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list 

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before 

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot? 

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle 

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting