• Spending time listening to lectures and intellectuals online.

• Fueling my mind with new books and podcasts.

• Strategically planning my next moves and organizing my life.

• Going to museums and travelling.

• Waking up early in the morning to exercise.

• Working on a vision for the type of family I want for my future and the type of woman I want to personify.

• Seeking communion with God to grow spiritually, putting him above everything else.

Over

• Wasting my time watching pointless series and movies.

• Hanging out with losers who would rather gossip.

• Going to the club to surround myself with low quality people in low vibrational environment.

• Damaging my brain with alcohol and drug substances.

• Damaging my body eating "comfort" unhealthy food.

• Making up excuses for my life and wasting every second that goes by.

• Giving my body up to any man that gives me attention and being careless about my future.

Your Fave is Immortal: Lucy Liu

How to make stress your friend by Katie McGonial (14.5 minutes) 

“Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal urges us to see stress as a positive, and introduces us to an unsung mechanism for stress reduction: reaching out to others.”

8 secrets of success by Richard St.John (3.5 minutes)

Why do people succeed? Is it because they’re smart? Or are they just lucky? Neither. Analyst Richard St. John condenses years of interviews into an unmissable 3-minute slideshow on the real secrets of success.

A simple way to break a bad habit by Judson Brewer (9.5 minutes)

Can we break bad habits by being more curious about them? Psychiatrist Judson Brewer studies the relationship between mindfulness and addiction — from smoking to overeating to all those other things we do even though we know they’re bad for us. Learn more about the mechanism of habit development and discover a simple but profound tactic that might help you beat your next urge to smoke, snack or check a text while driving.

Don’t regret regret by Kathryn Schulz (17 minutes)

We’re taught to try to live life without regret. But why? Using her own tattoo as an example, Kathryn Schulz makes a powerful and moving case for embracing our regrets.

How to make hard choices by Ruth Chang (14.5 minutes)

Here’s a talk that could literally change your life. Which career should I pursue? Should I break up — or get married?! Where should I live? Big decisions like these can be agonizingly difficult. But that’s because we think about them the wrong way, says philosopher Ruth Chang. She offers a powerful new framework for shaping who we truly are.

The danger of silence by Clint Smith (4 minutes) 

We spend so much time listening to the things people are saying that we rarely pay attention to the things they don’t,“ says poet and teacher Clint Smith. A short, powerful piece from the heart, about finding the courage to speak up against ignorance and injustice.

How to speak so that people want to listen by Julian Treasure (10 minutes)

Have you ever felt like you’re talking, but nobody is listening? Here’s Julian Treasure to help. In this useful talk, the sound expert demonstrates the how-to’s of powerful speaking — from some handy vocal exercises to tips on how to speak with empathy. A talk that might help the world sound more beautiful.

Your body language shapes who you are by Amy Cuddy (21 minutes)

Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.

The happy secret to better work by Shawn Anchor (12 minutes) 

We believe we should work hard in order to be happy, but could we be thinking about things backwards? In this fast-moving and very funny talk, psychologist Shawn Achor argues that, actually, happiness inspires us to be more productive.

A call to men by Tony Porter (11 minutes) [TW: graphic desc. of rape] 

When you're levelling up it might be tempting to post your progress online to share with others and people who you consider "loved ones" how much progress in life you are making. This is a terrible mistake. Misery loves company and most people who are in a path of amounting to nothing in life will not only resent you for trying to do better, they will try to actively hijack you out of your goals, sometimes with devasting consequences.

There is a reason why we out grow certain communities, certain groups and people we knew for the past, because their tiny (and often times toxic) way of being and thinking represents a cage for you to be locked in. You must learn to move on and place your future self before anyone or anything who's isn't conducive to your betterment. Furthermore, people who we may considere friends and acquaintances might hold grudges against us when we make big moves, remember: we see faces, not hearts.

I need this new decade to be a time of saying less and doing more. Let them think you're struggling, do not show them your progress, act broke, keep a specific image if you need to, but do whatever you need to do to keep your dreams and ambitions to yourself while you reach them. Keep the jealous and energy sucking vampires away from the baby you are creating with your hardwork. Once you've made it far away nobody can hold you down. Your results will do all the talking you'd ever need.

Hypergamy is not a bad word!

Some women feel guilty about wanting to date wealthy men. But those wealthy men must marry someone eventually. Why not let that someone be you?

You deserve to have the best in every area of your life. That includes your career, social life and romantic life

Rich people don't feel dirty about teaching their daughters to practice hypergamy. Their daughters aren't told that they are golddiggers, even if they are living of their parents money and using their parents connections to meet other wealthy people.

I once heard a man say that if he was a woman, he'd be rich. He's not the first man to say this. Men know the power that women hold. You could literally become rich just because you're a woman.

Identify Rich Men:

Avoid men who are overly flashy in the photos. They likely aren't very rich at all and are in debt.

Avoid men who have high end designer logos all over the jacket or shirt.

Look for men who are properly fitted suits or business casual outfit outfits in the photos. As they are likely businessman of some sort.

Don't discount men wear dress down. I know plenty of millionaires and wealthy men who wear jeans and a T-shirt.

Just check to see if he is well groomed at the very least. Does he take care of his hair? Does his clothes at least fit him right?

Many truly wealthy men, except for the nouveaux riche, don't want people to know they are rich and don't want to attract the wrong people, so they purposely dress down.

Make affluent girlfriends

The goal should be to build a network of classy, successful women are living the lifestyle that you desire. At least one of them should be married, single and in a relationship

Many successful men are going to trust the close friend for recommendations on the great girl, instead of trying to approach random women in public or going online

If they're getting married sometime soon, and you are invited to the wedding many of his and her male friends will be there, and they are most likely is just as successful as your friend and her boyfriend.

Meghan Markle didn't stumble upon prince harry by accident, she was introduced to him by a friend.

It is also important that you become the woman that other classy, successful women want to be around. The relationship shouldn't be one-sided in value you should offer them value as well.

You do have to carry yourself as a classy, successful lady would. You should have interesting things going on in your life. This is another reason why I tell women to build a side income, even if their goal is to meet a wealthy man who takes care of them.

If you've upgraded your friends, you will be up and dating again in no time, because they can introduce you to someone new.

You should always be working on your network and your net worth. Think of all the rich people who went bankrupt but remained fine because they had not only the knowledge but the network of other successful people who could help them in someway.

"Your dresses should be tight enough to show you’re a woman and lose enough to show you're a lady." - Edith Heard

most men want something to fantasize about. If you're overly proactive, they have nothing to daydream about.

If you dress overly conservative or worse, if you dress masculine, then he won't want to fantasize about you at all.

It's easy to find a man but finding a good man of quality and requires you to do some upgrading to yourself and your life.

finding a good man is like finding a job good job, you don't stop improving yourself and looking for one until you finally find it.

Subscribe to magazines that wealthy people read in your town.

Many magazines that are popular and lower income areas are filled with gossip and celebrity topics because they know what people in these environments find entertaining.

Magazines that I popular amongst wealthy people tend to be filled with very different topics.

Only accept expensive Dates!

Some men and women make the argument that if you meet online, the guy doesn't really know yet and it may be a waste of money...but it's not a waste of money if you're selective about who ask out on dates.

If he is swiping right on every woman online, dating a new woman every week and taking none of them seriously, then of course a coffee date with him best because he's not looking for a serious relationship to begin with.

Remember, men follow the standards that women set. Men wouldn't offer a coffee date when Every woman said no to coffee dates.

You should want to date a man who is generous towards you, loves to wine and dine you and treats you the best.

Dating Etiquette:

Keep phone calls very short during the beginning of the relationship I'm talking 5 to 10 minutes.

If a man wants to know more about you and talk to you for hours he needs to take you out on a proper date.

If he hasn't asked you out with and text exchanges, start taking even longer to respond to his text messages I'm talking days.

It is OK not to give an answer to a question that is too personal. Many women make the mistake of feeling the need to give an answer to everything. But not a classy lady. If he asks you how many men you've slept with respond with "I'm a lady and I would rather not discuss something so personal".

Whenever man asks any other question that you deem to be too personal, just let him know that you would rather not discuss it at the moment and change the subject

Don't try to tell a ton of jokes, ask ton of questions or talk to much about yourself. All these are signs that you were trying to impress him

This doesn't mean that you should act shy and boring. Show that you were impressed when he tells you about his accomplishments. men love feeling smart.

The people who talk the least tend to be the most interesting. The people that let us do most of the talking are usually the people we find to be good conversationalist, when in reality, they just know how to keep you talking about yourself. Which most people enjoy doing.

Only allow him to see you once per week until you become exclusive. Why? Because why would he buy the whole package, when he can get it for free? If he already has full access to your time, and can see you whenever he would like anyway, what incentive does he have to take things to the next level?

A woman who is living her best life doesn't have time to go out with the guy multiple times per week. She's not that easily obtainable.

I don't care how much he begs you or tells you he enjoys being around you, always keep it once per week. Men will always fast track a relationship and see you as much as possible in the beginning. And most of the time they will genuinely mean it. You are new to them so the excitement (and let's be honest the lust) makes them want to see you as much as they can. And if you allow it, that excitement will die out fast and quickly turn into boredom.

Avoid serious topics like Marriage and starting a family. If he brings it up first then give them a light answer for example: "I could see myself getting married to the right person", "I could see myself having kids with the right man" etc.

How to get him to propose (or do anything else you want him to)

I once had a man admit to putting off proposing to his girlfriend because he already knew she would say yes. He said he thought no rush to propose because he knew she wasn't going anywhere.

Most guys are used to women constantly nagging them about marriage, so let them wonder why you don't mention it at all. Be more mysterious than the rest.

Many women make the mistake of nagging their partners in order to get what they want, yet this technique only leads to the man resenting you.

Now when I say ignore him, I'm not talking about doing the silent treatment. Not only does the silent treatment create the opposite effect of what you want, but it's very immature.

I once knew a woman who wanted to get married, but her boyfriend wasn't even bringing up marriage. Of course you didn't like him as it would go against my advice. Instead she told him she was taking a mini vacation to Europe and she didn't invite him.

Prior to that, she was constantly staying busy and texting and calling him less. She "punished" him by giving him less of her time. By the time she got back from her four-day trip, he asked her for her hand in marriage

When you show them that you care too much the Chase is over.

Men are used to being spoiled by women's emotions and over-affections. It's part of the reason why the silent treatment doesn't work. When you are sitting right next to him being angry and silent as he tries to talk to you, it shows that you truly do care too much and he knows it.

If you truly didn't care you would have walked out and left along time ago are you would be too busy to be sitting next to him and pouting.

when you pull away from the relationship even just a bit he will notice. He will begin to worry that you might leave or that you found someone better. He will feel losing you and he will do anything to fix it.

Now the catch is that if he isn't that into you, you will soon find out with this technique. So be sure that you are ready to handle the truth.

If you are following this rules, the wealthy man that you are seeing will have invested too much time, money and energy into you, to want to lose you so quickly.

Don’t build with a Man!

When you help a man build his career from the bottom up, you represent what he can get while he's on bottom. Which is why many men cheat or leave a woman altogether once he gets on top and becomes successful.

You want him to be doing well in his career before you except a proposal. This allows him to see you as a woman that he got while on top.

Keep them chasing you from the beginning. He will feel like you are still the prize to be won, once he's on top, because he still hasn't fully "caught" you.

And after that, the fact that you let him build his career alone without you helping him, he will feel like he truly got to impress you.

In the end men just like to feel as though they got the best women that they could while they are successful. They don't want to feel like they've settled.

1) Know when to compromise but never settle out of desperation when dealing with older, successful & wealthy men. Always have a better plan ahead in sight if you have limited options for the moment.

2) Save, invest & repeat. This will help you to avoid returning back to no 1 above in the future & settling for basic offers just to get by.

3) Don't bother trying to finesse stingy men instead keep your options open.

4) Wealthy men won't find you if you don't put yourself in their sights. Dress up & go where they hang out.

5) The law of attraction is real, you'll attract what you put out to the universe including your thoughts on men.