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the “someone else” is a fictional character in a fictional story. they are not real people

one of the reasons why creative writing, including dark fics, can help people heal is because they are taking back control. it’s a safe and controlled environment whey victims and survivors have full control of what happens and how it happens

there’s no wrong way to explore creative writing. there’s no rule that says “you must write it this way” or “you must write it that way”. so if they want to write it a story where the victim and the predator fall in love, if they write it as a kink, then that is no one’s business but their own’s. if it helps them heal then it helps them heal. they don’t owe us any explanation, they don’t owe us anything. because when I say they have full control of what happens in the fictional stories that they write, I mean they have full control of the fictional stories that they write. no one has the right to tell and control them what they can and can’t write.

This is a form of backdoor bigotry from both normative facts (there are more straight than gay relationships) and well represented bigoted beliefs (men are superior to women).

> disables a new AI feature that was turned on by default

> opens my email

> disables a new AI feature that was turned on by default

> launches a software

Level 2: We shouldn't treat mental health facilities as objects of horror because it stigmatises mental illness.

(I'm including some important acespec terms here too, because understanding both asexuality and aromanticism helps to also dispel the notion that they are the same)

Split Attraction Model/SAM: The idea that romantic and sexual attraction can be experienced independently, so that a person can be aromantic, asexual, both, or neither.

Non-SAM: Someone who does not identify with the split-attraction model. For example, a non-SAM aro might not identify with allosexuality or asexuality, regardless of whether they experience sexual attraction, and a non-SAM ace might not identify with alloromanticism or aromanticism, regardless of whether they experience romantic attraction.

Aromantic/Aro: A romantic orientation where a person experiences little to no romantic attraction.

Alloromantic: Indicates that a person experiences a typical level of romantic attraction; the opposite of being aromantic

Asexual/Ace: A sexual orientation where a person experiences little to no sexual attraction. This is not the same thing as being aromantic.

Allosexual: Indicates that a person experiences a typical level of sexual attraction; the opposite of being asexual.

Aromantic Asexual/AroAce: A person who is both aromantic and asexual.

Alloromantic Asexual/AlloAce: A person who is alloromantic and asexual.

Aromantic Allosexual/AroAllo: A person who is aromantic and allosexual.

Aromantic Spectrum/Arospec: Describes the vast range of experiences of people who are aromantic, including those who experience little or no romantic attraction, experience fluctuating levels or romantic attraction, or only experience romantic attraction under specific conditions.

Asexual Spectrum/Acespec: Describes the vast range of experiences of people who are asexual, including those who experience little or no sexual attraction, experience fluctuating levels or sexual attraction, or only experience sexual attraction under specific conditions.

Anattractional Spectrum/Aspec: Describes the vast range of people who fall onto one or more of the following spectrums: aromantic, asexual, afamilial, aplatonic, asensual, atertiary, aqueerplatonic. Some people may include the agender community under the umbrella term of aspec.*

Romance Favorable: Someone who is personally receptive to the idea of romance. A romance favorable person may want to engage in a romantic relationship, regardless of whether they experience romantic attraction.

Romance Indifferent: Someone who is neither personally favorable nor repulsed by the idea of engaging in romance. A romance indifferent person may find a romantic relationship acceptable, regardless of whether they experience romantic attraction.

Romance Averse: Someone who is personally disgusted or repulsed by the idea of romance, but only when it involves themselves. A romance averse person may like romance for other people and in fiction, but feel disgusted when imagining themselves in a romantic relationship.

Romance Repulsed: Someone who is personally disgusted or repulsed by the idea of romance. A romance repulsed person may be disgusted by mentions or public displays of romance.

the reason i find genderbending to be such a fun and interesting challenge is because, if you actually want to be good at it and put thought into it, you have to really consider the character’s canon gender expression and think about what it means to them and how it reflects in their outward appearance and presentation.

is this male character buff because he likes to work out / be strong, or does he aspire to achieve conventional heteronormative male beauty?

is this female character a tomboy because she likes to express herself in a more masculine way, or is she doing it to fight gender norms?

the answers to those questions should produce very different designs!

this website loves to say that gender is a spectrum, but sometimes i genuinely wonder if people actually understand what that means.