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But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!

Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work

There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest

And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness

An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.

I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier

people would stop getting shit

for being themselves.

Shout out to that one tumblr post that was like: "You know it's not just trans people who ponder their gender, it's healthy for cis people to take a look inside and be like! Yep that's all good!" And I read this post and was like.... like what do you look at inside though T O T??? I asked my boyfriend how he knew he was a boy and he said he just felt this unexplainable intrinsic feeling he was a boy... and I'm like... I HAVE GENUINELY NO IDEA WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT WTF 😭😭😭!!!!!!!! So apparently its like. Normal for people to feel this inexplicable 'Gender' feeling or whatever,,, I feel like how asexual people feel when they discover people around them aren't making up the fact they experience sexual arousal T O T

Obviously all my sciency stuff is just speculation! But I'm the type of person who believe that everything has a rationale behind it, and like an adopted child who is curious about their biological parents, I just am just interested in my origins! The field of genetics still is mostly just like,,,, hmmm we think this whatever MIGHT be a contributing factor to a person turning out this way... maybe. If you are more interested in the topic I discussed, just look up 'Genetic Memories in Animals' and there should be some more stuff OuO!

remember everyone...

thursday watch: the conditions for thursday are here, but a thursday incident has not yet been confirmed

Lost my mind a little and added (if my math is correct) 5,615 beads to Nim Teasdale's Odenwald pattern. Anything worth doing is worth overdoing!

The goal was “soothingly weighted but not uncomfortable to wear, even as someone with chronic pain.” It could have been a little heavier, so maybe I’ll make a shawl with larger beads another time, but I’m very pleased with this one. I used size 6/0 seed beads, applied as I go with a .6mm crochet hook.

Yarn-wise, used 2 cakes of YarnArt Flowers. I knitted the fully purple sections from both, then knitted all the way through the yellow-oranges with a single ball. When I hit the beginning of red-oranges, I used yarn from both cakes, alternating between them. (Not the entirety of both, I played it by ear to make sure I made it through the full rainbow.)

I do have edited charts with bead placements. I will only share them with Nim's permission.

[ID: a tag from @ashyslashyy that reads, "#someone not being able to pass on not because they have unfinished business but because you wont let them" /end ID]

Let Your Colors Run!!

A latest pride project, I really wanted to do something special. Let your Colors Run, featuring prominent breeds found in lure coursing and other racing sports. Each one is a different breed and a different pride flag! I would have loved to do more, but 10 was already a staggering amount for me to try and accomplish with limited time. Please enjoy! From top to bottom, the breeds (and flags) are: - Ibizan Hound / Pan Flag - Borzoi / Bi Flag - Scottish Deerhound / Asexual Flag - Basenji / Aroace Flag - Italian Greyhound / Gay Men Flag - Saluki / Rainbow Pride Flag - Greyhound / Lesbian Flag - Silken Windhound / Trans Flag - Rhodesian Ridgeback / Aromantic Flag - Whippet / Non-binary flag Let me know if there is a favorite you have, or if you'd like to see something else! I have both PNGs and requests open on my ko-fi, so please feel free to check those out! FREE PNGS : https://ko-fi.com/s/cc924e8c2e

Request a Custom Color Run: https://ko-fi.com/c/3a27e1add0

[The Legend of Zelda: The Wind Waker - Gamecube]

The game has been modified in the following ways in this gif: