i know they’re eventually gonna fall in love but tbh the spy x family living situation really is my aroace dream. deep mutual respect and care for one another. sharing domestic tasks. eating meals and spending quality time together. separate bedrooms. zero expectation of physical intimacy. coparenting a four year old. i can’t emphasize enough how much these are all absolute wins to me
I'm coming at this from a perspective of 1) anime watcher primarily (haven't read the manga) and 2) myself ace, so I'm not without my biases, but I think SxF carries some pretty strong ace and aro advocacy vibes in its core, round about the same place as the anti-war themes.
In the same way the series will play episodes of ha-ha spy themed hijinks and antics and will then turn around and look you dead in the eye and say with no humor whatsoever "war is a hell that degrades bodies and spirits of everyone it touches," they will play many episodes of happy home life and teasing tension between the ML and FL and then hit you with "amatonormativity is a tool of the fascist state, actually."
The entire reason this household comes to exist in the first place is that neither Loid nor Yor can exist freely in Ostanian society without checking all the socially expected boxes of being in a married heterosexual relationship with child. The ways that the authoritative Ostanian state demands this conformity, this biological labor, are markers of its oppressiveness as much as their paranoia and their secret police. Yor in particular was drawing so much hostility and suspicion from her coworkers just for being a single woman in her twenties that they were on the verge of reporting her for subversive behavior until she casually mentioned that she had met someone and was getting married soon.
Marriage and parenthood are, explicitly, the camouflage and cover that allow Yor and Loid to continue living their lives unimpeded, as they could never do openly. Having established that unequivocally, this unconventional household -- parenthood without biology, partnership without sex -- continues to be a successful place of stability and happiness for all three of them, despite lacking the elements that their amatonormative society insists are non-negotiable.
I don't disagree that Yor and Loid romance is probably endgame; but if they ever get there, they still will have lived for howevermany chapters episodes and seasons without it. And they were happy.















