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How bodies decompose

Wilderness survival skills

Mob mentality

Other cultures

What it takes for a human to die in a given situation

Common tropes in your genre

How bodies decompose

Wilderness survival skills

Mob mentality

Other cultures

What it takes for a human to die in a given situation

Common tropes for your genre

Step one: Let yourself feel everything. Lie in your bed at night remembering the times they made you blush and the times that you dreamed about living them forever. The way they smiled like sunshine and how their touch would flood you with warmth on the coldest days. Remember everything. Listen to all the songs you collected that somehow reminds you of them and smile or cry or eat ice cream with tears streaming down your face. Write down all your memories and thoughts or vent to someone. You’re allowed to feel everything freely and you’re allowed to vulnerable for a while. 

Step two: accept. Accept that it has happened and it is nobody’s fault. It simply was not meant to be and life was not meant to go in that direction. But be thankful for all the happy memories and lessons they taught you. For a moment in life they were yours, and that in itself is a gift. Do not blame yourself or them. Accept that you will have to move on sooner or later, and don’t hope for them to change their mind, because life is too short and you deserve better than to chase after something that is already gone. You deserve so much love and you have so much love in your heart and you can’t waste it.

Step three: self compassion. Be kind to yourself. It wasn’t your fault, and no there is probably nothing you could have done. You may question your worth, and I’m here to remind you that you are good enough. You will find someone new. You will find a way to heal from this. Do not punish yourself in any way. You don’t deserve that. You deserve love and the most important love is the one you give yourself, especially in times like this when you need yourself the most.

Step four: distance. Slowly distance yourself from them and keep busy. Disengage yourself from anything that reminds you of them. Resist temptations to look at their social media. Here’s a small reminder that it’s much easier to dwell on them and slip further into a bad state of mind than to choose self compassion. But you are strong enough to choose the latter, though it’s ok to slip up too. Don’t listen to songs about them, listen to happy and upbeat songs.

Step five: A new start. Make the break up a new beginning for your life. Let happy things and self care into your life. This step is connected to step three. Read books, make art, go for walks by yourself, have fun coffee adventures with your best friend, bake cookies. Talk to random strangers and look at the moon at night and realise that life can be beautiful and radiant just the same, without them. Treat yourself but not excessively; don’t fall down the path of impulsivity or self sabotage. Remember that your body needs rest and healthy food and water. Whatever you do, do not convince yourself you deserve isolation or self neglect. Turn any negative thoughts into creative pursuits or motivation to give yourself an amazing transformation. Make new goals to start a new hobby or go jogging every morning or become the best person you can be. Be busy enough and pack enough goals in your day to feel accomplished.

Speaking as a major dental hygiene enthusiast…

Great-looking teeth come from two things: luck and money (which is also a function of luck).

Dental procedures tend to be very, very expensive, and are almost never covered by insurance.

Healthy teeth aren’t necessarily big, straight or bright white. Depending on what someone’s natural teeth are like, achieving that look may require a significant downgrade in their dental health; unnecessary crowns and veneers cause damage.

Do not underestimate genetics’ role in determining teeth’s appearance, or how prone teeth are to problems. Genes and early development, i.e. things people get zero control over, can outweigh all else.

A wide range of chronic conditions impact oral health and teeth’s appearance, too, and may contraindicate various types of work or raise procedures’ cost even more.

Finally, for many people and many reasons, celebrity-looking teeth just aren’t a priority (even when they’re attainable; some people might want, y’know, a new car instead).

Some excerpts I found interesting:

“…there’s been a general girlification of elementary school, where any kind of disruptive behavior is sinful. What I call the ‘moral diagnosis’ gets made: You’re bad. Now go get a doctor and get on medication so you’ll be good. And that’s a real perversion of what ought to happen. Most boys are naturally more restless than most girls, and I would say that’s good. But schools want these little goody-goodies who sit still and do what they’re told—these robots—and that’s just not who boys are.’"

“There is a man that … believes that what is called attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder might in fact be a boy’s greatest gift, the gift of energy. And that the best way to treat it is to first teach the boy to control the energy all by himself, because by learning to control it all by himself, a boy can channel that energy to help him succeed. That man is Howard Glasser, and he is one of those countercultural clinicians who, as American society has become inured to giving psychotropic drugs to kids, has built a practice predicated on opposing the very idea.”

“You nurture the child’s heart. If a child is hyperactive and defiant and has trouble listening and concentrating, Glasser feels it is our responsibility as a society—as grown-ups—to do everything we can for a child’s heart before we start adding chemicals to his brain, because what if his brain is fine?”

Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!

Me: *signs up for yoga*

Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.

Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t

Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.

As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL

Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???

because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there.  suicides actually increase when medicated.  why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself.  which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.

it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours.  that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE

“You-you’re supposed to be one of the most feared members of the enemy’s army!” He inched away from the hand that was currently holding an unknown bottle of something. “But you’re a healer!”

“Yes,” the healer said, not even glancing at him as they began to bandage his arm. “Your point?”

“At least you’ll die doing what you love; Walking into danger.”

“Here’s some cookies and some very bad news!”

“I have forgotten everything I’ve ever learned.”

“Let me keep that promise.”

“The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious.”

“Why am I always the funniest when no one is around to hear it?”

“Can you stay still for the next 20 minutes? No, I’m not drawing you.”

“Oh no, I feel bad- SYKE, no I don’t.”

“Next problem… we might die.”

“Wow, that was a great comeback.”

“Who is running this thing?!”

“You are aware that walls aren’t people, right?”

“Hey, go fill up your human needs.”

“Yeah, keep making jokes. That’ll win the war.”

“Yeah, I can see how hiding behind a rock is a much better strategy.”

“I think… everyone deserves a chance to prove themselves.”

“I can’t help that I’m curious.”

“I know you. You’re a terrible person. But as the judge here, I will look at you in the unbiased way you don’t deserve.”

“The mountains are calling and I must skedaddle.

“Who says ‘nincompoop’?!”

“Things fascinate me. Why wouldn’t they, when you stop to give them thought?”

“Are you always so easily convinced?”

“Look, it’s difficult for me to isolate what I hate about you the most because there is so much to hate.”

“That’s an order. Obey.”

“Look, I don’t want to swear but; What. The frick!”

“As the most amazing person in the room, I’ll gladly accept that.”

“Now power down, sass robot.”

“The art of not being an idiot is extremely challenging for me.”

“That’s troubling.”

”Wait, when did I take off my clothes?” 

“I am fully convinced you never graduated kindergarden.” 

“Was there a scuffle?” 

“I’m not here, actually, this is a projection from… Mars… I moved there recently.” 

“This is going to sound controversial, but I think that went well.”

“You have no idea how to make a toast?!”

 “I haven’t showered in four days.” 

“Tell them how you screwed up.”

“Until the day you learn how to start a normal conversation, I will have to be there to fix the messes you make.” 

“You’re more zombie than human.” 

“I don’t know what the question was but without a doubt my answer is ‘I don’t know’.” 

“We settle this the old fashion way, like real men: dance off.” 

“Try not to gasp.”

“Well this just scrambles my eggs.”

“Look, I’m not the brightest tool in the… toolbox.”

“Am I doing it right?“

“I am the backbone of this household.”

”With all due respect, I’m going to ignore everything you just said.”

“You killed my box!”

“You have the audacity to wake me up but not actually die.”

“This is pretty funny, though.”

“That’s because of my complete and utter failure of being a well-mannered, functioning member of society.”

“No forts without me!”

“You got me detective… looks like I’m going to liars jail.”

“I have one speed: none.”

“You did this! You’re still doing it!”

– also called AIDS

– macrophages process foreign and present antigens in T-helper cells

– T-helper cells transfer this information to T and B lymphocytes

– in HIV, an RNA strand wrapped in a glycoprotein coat with p24 viral protein invades the T-helper cells

– the T-helper cell and macrophage are effected and destroyed

– once the T-helped cell count drops below 200 cells/mm3, the patient is considered to have AIDS

– an opportunistic infection is present