Diary of an INFJ

a lot of people in the community get Ni wrong. and i totally get that because Ni is often talked about in a super vague, weirdly prophetic light. which it is NOT.

Ni does NOT mean you can’t make connections between ideas

Ni does NOT mean you only see one truth

Ni is NOT a predictive function

all Ni is, is intuition as it makes sense to you personally. Ne, looks at the outside data and expands on that, Ni looks at the outside data and puts it in their internal framework. that’s the only difference. that Ni is personal and Ne is less personal when dealing with the abstract.

the combination of Se and Ni can come across as Ne because the user takes the tangible details and then subconsciously adds them to their mental framework. the way i personally decide between Ne and Ni is often based on this, idea. that Ni tends to be a more subconscious process, often with the user struggling to explain where the conclusion came from. Ne tends to be an obvious process. i have never once had to question where an Ne user got their idea from, because they often talk through their process unknowingly.

People often notice their tert functions the most, assume they over-use them, and focus on them, or mistype based on a larger whole or stereotypes about the functions, so...

ISFJs mistype as INFJs, INFPs

ESFJs mistype as ENFJs, ENFPs, ENTPs

ISTJs mistype as INTJs, ISTPs

ESTJs mistype as ENTJs

INFJs mistype as INTJs, IXTPs

ENFJs mistype as INFJs, ENTPs

INTJs mistype as ENTJs, ENTPs

ENTJs mistype as INTJs

INFPs mistype as INFJs or INTPs

ENFPs mistype as ENTPs, ENFJs, INFJs, INFPs

INTPs mistype as INTJs, ENTPs

ENTPs mistype as INTJs, ENTJs, INTPs

ISFPs mistype as INFPs, INFJs, ISTPs

ESFPs mistype as ENFPs, ESTPs, ENTJs

ISTPs mistype as INTJs, INTPs

ESTPs mistype as ENTJs, ENTPs

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Enneagram mistypes are less common, but I'd say 1s may mistype as their wings, 2s mistype as 3s, 4s, and 9s, 3s mistype as whatever they find glamorous/appealing in others' eyes and/or as their wing (2s, 4s, 5s if 5 is desirable, 7s due to optimism), 4s mistype their wing as 5 more often than 3, 5s may assume they are 9s, 6s mistype as 2, 4, 5, 7, 8 (if counter-phobic), or 9, 7s mistype as 3s or their 8 wing, 8s rarely mistype (or identify with their wing), 9s mistype as 4s, 5s, or 1s.

Do you get your correct type on this quiz?

I was tagged by @relatable-books and I’m just gonna start a new thread because the original was getting pretty long haha

Nickname: On here it’s Arli

Zodiac: idk, not my thing (but my MBTI is INFJ)

Height: 5’ 4″

Hogwarts House: idk, also not my thing (but my alignment is neutral good)

Last Thing I Googled: pokemon go shiny trade cost

Song Stuck in My Head: soundtrack to a movie, idk the track name though

Number of Followers: 267!

Amount of Sleep: oof, bad day to ask… probably 6 hours but I need 10

Lucky Number: not a luck thing but I like the number 8

Dream Job: I’m actually not sure anymore

Wearing: t-shirt and blue jeans as per usual

Favorite Song: no idea lol; right now I’ve been listening to some new vocaloid

Favorite Instrument: I always wished I could play violin

Aesthetic: moss probably

Favorite Animal Noise: mrrrp (from a cat)

Favorite Author: Sir Arthur Conan Doyle! though tbh I only read his Sherlock Holmes books

Random: if you ask me how I am I’m going to say “tired” 100% of the time. I am always tired, this is my life now

Sorry for lots of lame answers! :)

Nickname: just call me Len

Zodiac: not my thing but my sign is cancer

Height: 5’ 8”

Hogwarts House: ravenclaw idk

Last Thing I Googled: oxford tsa past papers

Song Stuck in My Head: Feels like we only go backwards, Tame Impala

Number of Followers: 39

Amount of Sleep: 5 hours but 9 is ideal

Lucky Number: 7

Dream Job: there’s a part of me that wants to write seriously but I don’t think I’ll ever be able to do that lol

Wearing: black shirt and sweatpants

Favorite Song: Crazy, Stoned, and Gone

Favorite Instrument: currently saxophone but that could change

Aesthetic: black coffee lmao

Favorite Animal Noise: that sound when a bunny yawns, it’s the cutest thing I swear

Favorite Author: tough, ive been reading a lot of Murakami lately…(hard-boiled wonderland is my absolute favourite)

Random: im honestly a very boring person…I do like to draw sometimes though I’m very bad at it

Zodiac: Virgo

Height: 5’2”

Hogwarts House: Hufflepuff primary and secondary with a Gryffndor primary model (check out @sortinghatchats sorting system! It’s wonderfully delightful)

Last Thing I Googled: “nominal dollars vs real dollars”

Song Stuck in My Head: nothing at the moment, not usually this way though haha

Number of Followers: 5,700+ (side note: wow! I genuinely had no idea! Thanks for following even if this blog is fairly inactive!)

Amount of Sleep: 7.5 hours is ideal

Lucky Number: Lucky is a stretch, but 11 and 29 are pretty nice

Dream Job: What my current job is now is exactly what I want to do now

Wearing: Shorts and a black t shirt

Favorite Song: Don’t have one, but curently listening to 3.15.20, Petals For Armor, still feel by half•alive, and a variety of other songs

Favorite Instrument: Piano, bass, and idk viola I guess

Aesthetic: Not sure, flowers are nice. Deep blues and purples are nice. Evenings and the moon are nice. A little bit of everything I guess.

Favorite Animal Noise: Happy cat meows and happy dog barks

Favorite Author: Tamora Pierce, I read all of her books as a kid

Random: I’m a fairly private person, and I’m not always active on this blog. But this was fun.

Tagging: (I could use some help. Who should I tag?) @infjdoodles @infjadvice

• “I don't know what to do with it. / With what? / With all the love I have for her. I don't know where to put it now. / I'll take it.”

— Phoebe Waller-Bridge, in Fleabag

• “When we landed, and the pilot put the brakes on hard, my arm reflexively went across the seat, holding the li’l guy in place, the way my dad’s arm would when he had to brake hard in that car without seatbelts to speak of, in one of my very favorite gestures in the encyclopedia of human gestures.”

— Ross Gay, The Book of Delights

• Ada Limón, from “The Great Blue Heron of Dunbar Road”

• ““I know my life's meaningful because” — and here he stopped, and looked shy, and was silent for a moment before he continued — “because I'm a good friend. I love my friends, and I care about them, and I think I make them happy.””

“The only trick of friendship, I think, is to find people who are better than you are—not smarter, not cooler, but kinder, and more generous, and more forgiving—and then to appreciate them for what they can teach you, and try to listen to them when they tell you something about yourself, no matter how bad—or good—it might be, and to trust them, which is the hardest thing of all. But the best, as well.”

“He cries for the shame and joy of finally getting to be a child, with all of a child's whims and wants and insecurities, for the privilege of behaving badly and being forgiven, for the luxury of tendernesses, of fondnesses, of being served a meal and being made to eat it, for the ability, at last, at last, of believing a parent's reassurances, of believing that to someone he is special despite all his mistakes and hatefulness, because of all his mistakes and hatefulness.”

“And so I try to be kind to everything I see, and in everything I see, I see him.”

— Hanya Yanagihara, A Little Life

• Wendy Cope, “The Orange”

• “One of the primary ways we connect with each other is by eating together. Some of the connection happens simply by being in the same place at the same time and sharing the same food, but we also connect through specific actions, such as serving food to one another or making toasts: ‘May I offer you some potatoes?’ ‘Here’s to your health and happiness.’ Much of our fundamental well-being comes from the basic reassurance that there is a place for us at the table. We belong here. Here we are served and we serve others. Here we give and receive sustenance.”

— Edward Espe Brown

• “I was thinking today of my greatest happiness, a walk along a cliff by the sea, and you at the end of it.”

— Virginia Woolf, in a letter to her sister Vanessa Bell

• Meredith Martinez, “When I Say Love”

• “Tu n'es encore pour moi qu'un petit garçon tout semblable à cent mille petits garçons. Et je n'ai pas besoin de toi. Et tu n'as pas besoin de moi non plus. Je ne suis pour toi qu'un renard semblable à cent mille renards. Mais, si tu m'apprivoises, nous aurons besoin l'un de l'autre. Tu seras pour moi unique au monde. Je serai pour toi unique au monde...”

“Si tu m'apprivoises, ma vie sera comme ensoleillée. Je connaîtrai un bruit de pas qui sera différent de tous les autres. Les autres pas me font rentrer sous terre. Le tien m'appellera hors du terrier, comme une musique. Et puis regarde ! Tu vois, là-bas, les champs de blé ? Je ne mange pas de pain. Le blé pour moi est inutile. Les champs de blé ne me rappellent rien. Et ça, c'est triste ! Mais tu as des cheveux couleur d'or. Alors ce sera merveilleux quand tu m'auras apprivoisé ! Le blé, qui est doré, me fera souvenir de toi. Et j'aimerai le bruit du vent dans le blé...”

“Ainsi le petit prince apprivoisa le renard. Et quand l'heure du départ fut proche: - Ah! dit le renard... Je pleurerai. - C'est ta faute, dit le petit prince, je ne te souhaitais point de mal, mais tu as voulu que je t'apprivoise... - Bien sûr, dit le renard. - Mais tu vas pleurer ! dit le petit prince. - Bien sûr, dit le renard. - Alors tu n'y gagnes rien ! - J'y gagne, dit le renard, à cause de la couleur du blé.”