It always shocks me when I bring up trans men’s issues - specially issues common in the south/more conservative/rural areas - to someone who makes their whole thing being a ‘trans advocate’ and they just don’t know what I’m talking about .
I mentioned how common it is - especially in more conservative Christian places - for trans men to be set up with a husband by their family and then be forcibly impregnated as a way to make them detransition to someone who runs a whole blog about ‘spreading awareness about trans issues’ and she looked at me like I was crazy and said “woah I never knew that happened to trans men.”
She knew about and understood that that stuff happens to cis women, but she never thought it happened to trans men… like come on.
Many years ago I tried to talk online about how often the partners or friends of trans men and transmasc people would try to get them pregnant to derail/slow/stop their transition if they didn't approve of some aspect of their transitioning - Both in the sense of medical transition (Because if you're pregnant, you're usually told to stop taking T, and you can't get top or bottom surgery while you're pregnant) and social transition (because, especially early in transition when a lad might not have much facial hair yet, a visible pregnancy belly and bigger breasts is feminising in the eyes of onlookers).
In response I was told that this was dysphoria talking, that this having happened to one of my friends in the past was just a weird one-off accident, absolutely nobody's fault and definitely not a predictable pattern of abuse or a conscious act by his partner! Anyway, eight years later, I've heard of the same thing happening to six more people that are either my own friends or friends-of-friends, and the partner of the original example proudly admits to sabotaging his birth control because "It was worth it to have our daughter".

















