Alexander

No woman should ever have to face that level of abuse, and if your attempt at defending them is, “I don’t like her but…” you need to take a fucking good look at yourself. It’s utterly fucking irrelevant what you think of the victim.

i see my dog

When i walk through the door

And i make eye contact

I’ll always smile at you

No matter how im feeling

Because a stranger smiling at you

Is comforting

Smiles are safe

Reassuring

But when i’m walking home

And i go to take the shortcut through the alley

And leaning against a wall smoking a dirty cigarette

Is a stranger with a smile

But it isn’t really a smile

More of a snarl

His sharp teeth glinting in the moonlight

His smile wasn’t comforting

When i run over to the grocery store

My sisters hand held tight in mine

As the man who’s yelling at us to smile

Starts to chase our footprints

He’s yelling im prettier with a smile

And my little sister is so confused why this man is coming home with us

She thinks he’s a friend of mine

She tries to wave at him as i pull her along

We are finally home and i’m locking the doors and closing the curtains

And i have to sit down with her and tell her how this happens all the time

Shes 7

I was too scared to smile

I was in a nursery

Looking for some plants

And i smiled at a man working there

And he followed me over

Talking all about how he had plants

And he shook my hand and held it for just a little bit too long

And he bent down and kissed my hand

And asked how a lady so beautiful looked so alone

And how i didn’t have a husband yet

And all i could do was smile a bit and laugh uncomfortably

And his smile was missing teeth

But it wasn’t a smile

It was a snarl

A baring of fangs

To make me scared

To make me fear him

Because he was a man

And he could do whatever he wanted to me

Because his smile

Made my heart beat so fast in my throat

And he knew it

I forget to smile at men now

Most of them won’t hurt me

But you never know

The kindest smile

Can have the most terrifying snarl

I just want smiles to be safe again

And not a flirtation excuse used against me in court

Now i’m scared to smile

When i’m alone in the street

Yo blog filled with light skin girls in bikinis, swimsuits, and undergarments

Yo blog is filled with posts showin stacks of benjamins, but i dont see u stackin

Yo blog is filled with Black rappers, and ONLY Black rappers for fuck sake

Yo blog is filled with people showin off guns and magazines

Yo blog got weed all over the dame page like iite we get, you smoke weed, tf?

Yo blog filled w/ super cars and pics of random cities for the sake of aesthetics

Yo blog basic af Tabitha. This post exposed you, but since you wanna walk right into this mess and act black, let me holla at you real quick, Eleanor.

1) Hair was nowhere brought up until your weak ass comment with a kissy face emoji came along. You ain’t cute, Eliza.

2) Hair has no significance at all. Wigs, weaves, extensions have no importance to any race whatsoever. That’s right, Libby, having straight/wavy/curly hair isn’t exclusive to blackness, whiteness, and any race in between.

3) Hairstyles, however, have significance. Hairstyles such as cornrows, braids, and dreadlocks have cultural significance that is exclusive to Africans. So, if we see yo unseasoned ass wearing cornrows, that cultural appropriation, because the hairstyle doesn’t belong to you and Black people are getting shitted on for wearing cornrows at the same time.

But wait… We can’t have your hairstyle but you can straighten your hair? That’s hypocritical!

No, Annabelle, it’s not. Living in the US, African Americans get discriminated for wearing their African hairstyles. 

1) You can be denied from getting a job because your Black hairstyle is “unprofessional” and looks “unkempt”. What’s crazy is that it’s completely legal. So Black people, especially Black girls, have to wear wigs, relax their hair, or just cut their hair just to get a fuckin’ job.

2) Due to European beauty standards, Black hairstyles isn’t attractive nor desirable… Unless it’s on a White girl. So Black girls have to buy wigs, weaves, and extensions, and relax their hair just to appeal to society’s standards of beauty. But you got nothin’ to worry about, Susan. You benefit from this double standard.

3) It’s called ‘Assimilation’, Rebecca. When Black people have to conform to society’s standards whether to look more appealing to the general public, or look more professional to get a job, by relaxing their hair, and buying weaves n extensions, it’s an assimilation. 

Do you really know why Black girls bleach their skin? Do you understand how toxic it is to Black girls, and no we’re not just talking applying bleach to your skin, we’re talkin’ mentally and emotionally. Did you know that bleaching or whitening your skin is a GLOBAL thing?? I bet you didn’t, Summer, but wait no longer though, because you’re gonna learn, right fuckin’ now.

1) Again… ASSIMILATION! Look up the word, please. Having White, or light skin, is seen as a desirable and an attractive feature on women in today’s society. This is due to European Beauty Standards. This is literally like hair, except we’re talking about skin tones now!

Anyways, since the world finds Black women to be the least attractive demographic group, compared to White, Hispanic, and Asian women (data which came from Facebook’s dating app), it’s no wonder why Black girls would feel so unloved and so insecure to the point where they have to put their health at risk just to look and feel beautiful.

2) Internalized Racism also plays a part in this. Internalized racism is self-hate for your own race, and/or skin tone. No Black girl wakes up one morning and thinks to themselves: “Hmmm, I should probably bleach my skin so i can look like a White girl…”. Noooo… This happens because of low self-esteem, and hate for oneself, solely because you blame your skin tone for appearing unattractive to society.

As a result of this internal hatred, Black girls may bleach their skin, in hopes of appearing as beautiful as the next light skin girl. But you wouldn’t understand that though… You don’t hear White girls crying in they sleep because “they wish they can be darker in skin tone”. The only women that do that is Black girls; Black girls who hate themselves sooo much, they’d do anything to be lighter, even if it they have to put their health on the line.

2) Let’s talk about the damages this does to Black women. Do you remember Lil Kim? The Black female rapper that brought you hits like “Crush on You” & “How Many Licks”? 

She’s gone through A LOT of abuse from her past relationships, both physical and emotional abuse. She was constantly told that she was undesirable and Lil Kim felt that if she was lighter in skin tone, guys would become more attracted to her… This is the result of people saying that Black girls are unattractive…

This is her now…

Look at her skin tone…

Look at her nose…

She’s still Lil Kim to us, but there’s no denying the fact that she’s visibly broken inside. She has ultimately submitted to the idea that light/white skin is more attractive than black skin, and this is the result of it all.

Let’s not forget that abuse isn’t the only way to convince Black girls that there is something wrong with their skin:

- Black rappers will swear to you they LOVE Black girls, but when you look at their music videos, it’s filled with White/Light skinned girls. 

- Black female models are rarely seen in advertisements and magazines, let alone the fact that Black models make up a very small percentage in the fashion industry that is predominately White.

- Black actresses rarely get any representation in the hollywood business, let alone the fact on how difficult it is for Black actresses to get lead roles.

So imagine living in a world where people told you that dark skin was unattractive, but there’s is a way to fix it… Which brings us to number 3…

3) Whitening Cream… Yes, Alyssa, bleaching your skin isn’t the only option to whiten one’s skin. As a matter of fact, ITS JUST AS BAD, IF NOT WORSE!

Everything you’re about to read comes from the Dark Girls documentary (2011):

- Whitening skin cream has been proven multiple times to cause negative long-term effects, like cancer.

- Whitening skin products is a billion-dollar industry, with sales as high as $43 billion in 2008 - worldwide.

- In countries like, like Korea, Thailand, Dominican Republic, and Ghana, whitening skin cream is one of the most popular cosmetic products on the market.

- In countries around the world, especially in Asia or Africa, Whitening skin cream is commonly advertised in billboards and magazines

- Finally, even though a country, like Thailand, is predominately dark in skin tone, their media is nearly full of their light skin counterparts.

So not only is this issue affecting Black girls, it affects anybody who is dark in skin tone. It’s a global situation where for some reason, “darker is wrong, but lighter is lovely”, but yo pasty Elmer’s glue havin-ass wanna talk shit about Black girls tryna bleach their skin so they can look White, rite????

Now, let me say this one more time for the culture:

NO BLACK GIRL EVER WANTS TO BE WHITE! 

Preach!!