Idk, I guess the longer I work on my own trauma the harder it feels to escape the fact that trans hypersexual culture comes out of us all being super intensely traumatized. It's not that people having trauma makes them unappealing individually as a partner, it would be hypocritical for me to think or feel that, but with that idea in mind all the celebration of us all being intensely hyper kinky doesn't feel great. Not to mention the prevalence of CNC to the point that I'm constantly seeing trans girls who need to be learning basic self respect and boundaries diving way in at the deep end. It's mostly that it doesn't feel like we're culturally moving through the trauma, just getting off to it, and people who have the money and space to withdraw from that culture whenever they want in order to process and move through it and get therapy can, and the trans girls who don't have that space or money or whatever just stay in it and keep accruing more trauma, some of it new bad experiences and some of it retraumatisations that are felt as new traumas because they're just being bombarded with nasty shit all the time. I just feel like getting a spa day would be better for most of us than getting beaten up for the millionth time
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