the whole 'kink is just sexy roleplay' defence is a good first step, but like, it's not always roleplay. people are doing kink for real, and are making things as true and real as they can in real life. 'it's just sexy roleplay' is what you teach the unitiated so that they don't think they're witnessing abuse or try to emulate it without realising the weight of it.
sometimes someone really actually owns their sub
sometimes someone is actually raped and coerced
sometimes someone has been brainwashed completely
sometimes someone is getting fully beaten up
sometimes the dynamic doesn't end at the end of a scene
the kink scene is full of people doing kink for real. it's not roleplay and it's all consensual and you can't stop them and the more you try the more you make what they're doing dangerous by cutting them off from education, safety materials, and community support.
and if you want you can join in. you don't have to treat kink as something you roleplay at for a couple of hours at the weekend, or that you can only do in chatboxes online. if you really want, you can make it everyday and normal for you.
