So... I'm trans. I'm nonbinary and lately I just... Feel like shit. I cut my hair and I was happy about it. It was what I wanted, I was stunning and pretty and I loved it. It's been like, two weeks and now I hate my hair. It's long. It's girly. It's not what I want. I'm not a girl. I prefer to be seen a boy if Non-binary is too hard... I cry almost every night. I hate it. I never considered myself dysphoric but now I just... I can't.
Hi- Iâm so sorry to hear youâre struggling. Gender is hard to deal with in such a restrictive and binary culture.Â
First, I want to affirm that no matter what, youâre nonbinary; no matter how âmasculineâ or âfeminineâ you appear, no matter what people perceive you as, etc (but of course, the way weâre perceived still affects how we see ourselves; I get that).Â
It seems like some of these feelings are coming from how you appear, and Iâm curious if altering your appearance might help. There are all kinds of makeup techniques that might help to affirm your gender and how you wanna express it, that sort of thing.Â
Admittedly, Iâm cis, so I donât want to make assumptions about your experience or tell you what to do when I donât know what itâs like. It might be worth doing some research and finding other people who feel similarly and how theyâve dealt with it.Â
Please let me know if youâd like to talk more, or just need more support- I believe in you!Â


















