Nerdy Goth Witch

Henriëtte Ronner-Knip, A dog and her puppies

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Old abandoned grocery store repurposed as a library

"Done"

I have bought like three shirts in the past year and all of those were because I got gift cards from my family who noticed that I keep my shirts for so long that they’re falling apart.

This is far from the only call where the whole "repeat their rhetoric back to them" tactic pisses the caller off, too. As rotten, immoral, and disgusting as these ghouls are, I believe there's a tiny part of them that is aware of how fucked up their beliefs and behavior are. Being forced to confront that leads to painful cognitive dissonance and they'd rather lash out at the person who criticized them than look inward and do some self-reflection. Forcing people to confront their own cognitive dissonance of "I'm a good person" clashing with "I have objectively gross and harmful beliefs" is useful, even if it will never go anywhere.

She thought she was in the right because she was trying to tear apart this family in a “polite” and indirect way. She’s not the one holding a gun and herding people into an unmarked van, after all. The fact that her call would have directly led to that outcome doesn’t register as culpability to her until OP makes her connect the dots. THAT’S why she got upset, because she was forced to acknowledge the blood on her hands.

But the thing is...that's not a flaw of kindness. That's not a you problem. That's a them problem. People who are happy with themselves and their lives don't go out of their way to misuse someone's kindness or grace. The "normal" response to kindness or empathy is not to find a way to exploit it. People who are happy with themselves don't look for ways to hurt people for no reason. Kindness will never be the problem. No matter what some shitty person decides to do with it. It should go without saying not to be a doormat, yes. Don't allow people to treat you badly just for the sake of being kind. But also don't let shitty people make you bitter because of how they treated you when you were kind.