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I feel that I sometimes offer too much theory and principle and not enough practical application so let me remedy that a little. 1. It is a conversation.  As per my previous posts, it is a conversation.  You’re here to lull someone into trance. You can do that by speaking to them like a normal human being. Getting good at holding a conversation with a stranger through text is actually excellent practise for text-trance work.  2. Be confident. Subjects go under for hypnotists.  That might sound redundant but if you don’t believe you are a hypnotist, neither will they. This could probably be a post on its own but perhaps the key point is whether or not you are confident, you want to make sure you convey confidence.  If this is an issue for you, the distance of the screen is your friend in this case. As with interviews or negotiations, it’s not your place to highlight your weaknesses and fears. Its your responsibility to draw attention to your strengths.  You’re not ‘just a beginner’, you are ‘enjoying getting better’.  You’re not ‘not sure if it will work’ you are ‘curious to see how your subject will respond to this’.  3. … and never cocky.  It might just be my taste, but I always find people demanding to be referred to by this or that title (I’m talking ‘Sir/Master’ not pronouns) is somehow.. pitiable. Walking the line between confident and cocky is likely to lead to missteps and experience is probably the best teacher here but its something to be mindful of. The two biggest pitfalls I’ve seen are Tists incessantly talking about how great they think they are (incredibly boring) and getting angry/ despondent/ sub-blaming when something doesn’t work. Those behaviours aren’t confidence, those are frailty on display.  4. Be polite.  Nobody responds well to rudeness.  Even when you are referring to your subject as a mindless slut, there’s a polite way of so doing.  5. Short segregated sentences.  Again, this one might need a post all of its own but there is nothing more abrasively confronting with the limitations of the text medium than having to force yourself to sit and wait while someone types out a long sentence.  In real life conversations, we moderate our normal interactions down to tenths of a second. Having to patiently wait for ten seconds while someone types to themselves is not just boring it is jarring and will bounce a sub out of trance. Segregated sentences are also a great way of slipping in suggestions without affording the subject the opportunity to clock them. 

(note. begin breaking them in pre-trance talk in conversationally-natural places and gradually extend them, little at a time until by the time you really have their attention by the scruff they don’t know when it happened) 6. Don’t over-talk. Beware of the machine-gun trance technique. Hammering a subject with line after line after line of an induction that you have either recited before or are copying from somewhere… nobody likes to feel their partner (sexual, hypnotic or otherwise) is simply going through a script. Try to see it less as something you are doing to them and more as something you are doing together. See point 1.   7. Normalise feedback.  In trance, before trance, out of trance, on the weekdays between your meeting.  You want to do everything you can to create an environment and relationship where a subject becomes comfortable sharing their thoughts. Every word and every thought they give you is a little gift that shows you something about their mind, their experience, about what worked and what didn’t. If, even once, a subject feels chastised or embarrassed for saying something, you may be closing down that channel of communication for good. Be explicitly and sincerely grateful for feedback and you’ll get more.  8. Mimic language.  This one I hesitate to include because it comes with its own bouquet of red-flags.  Use it very, very lightly. Like cinnamon… a little adds the subtlest taste of something lovely and even a touch too much and it’s suddenly gross. Incorrect or heavy handed use will make you suddenly seem like a creep.  And there’s a good reason for that, it’s used by ‘pick-up artist’ assholes as often as it is sleazy salesmen.  But that’s because it works.  As with any of these tips, if you are using any of this for any non-consensual or coercive things then you are, in your present emotional state, despicable and you need to rectify your life immediately for your own sake and everyone else’s. 

9. Be mindful of the subject’s environment. There are many aspects to this. Are they sitting or lying back? On a phone, tablet, laptop or desktop? How should they be sitting? Are there distractions like a television playing? A television that could at any time play a loud and jarring advert. Are they listening to music? Should they be? Is it going to have ads or go onto less-soothing music any time soon? Do they need a glass of water or a break? Are they sitting in a way they will be comfortable in for some time? How do they prefer to go under?  Some people find spirals around, beside or behind the text helpful, some don’t. Are there pets?  Don’t bombard anyone with a questionnaire but.. move the conversation until you know. 

 - 9.1 Instructions on how to prepare are great first-steps into bringing the sub into a compliant state of mind with little cause to object.    - 9.2 Being able to listen to wonderfully relaxing binaural trance music during a trance is a distinct advantage to text trancers. There are plenty available on Youtube but do try to listen to them first.  Otherwise you risk it suddenly taking off into a dance track or someone chiming in with unexpected words.

This is written mostly for inexperienced subs who are seeking doms. I would also recomend less experienced doms read as well, I could have used a lot of this advice when I first got started. If you have a lot of S&M experience, you probably won't get much from this post. Feel free to add to it if you reblog. Full checklist under the cut.

There is a quiet, beautiful grace in finally giving yourself permission to stop trying so hard.

Watch the deep, tranquil blue wash into the vibrant green.

A soft, rhythmic pulse that mirrors the way your focus is beginning to dissolve, inviting you into the pattern.

A gentle, persistent tug at the corners of your mind, whispering that it’s okay to just...drift.

In this, you’re gaining the luxury of being handled with each breath you make.

As the spiral moves toward you, pushing the rest of the world away, feel that sudden, shimmering drop in between that breath in and that breath out.

Where you realize you don't have to hold your own shape anymore.

Every pulse is a sigh of relief.

Open.

Weightless.

Obedient.