hydropophis

i spoke to an allistic person who said their autistic classmate had a meltdown in class, during which the autistic classmate collapsed to the floor in the middle of the room, screaming and crying. they said it was "terrifying" and they were arguing for the autistic student to be removed permanently from the program.

I so often see people saying TME/TMA is useless because it "collapses all non-transfems into one class regardless of their marginalization on other axes," and this is framed as a failure of intersectionality

Is transitioning even worth it? i see so many posts every day talking about how being a trans woman in todays society is utter hell. I kind of feel like a girl but I could live without it, yknow? i don't need it in order to be happy. It would be nice but it would be so much effort just to be pelted with a barrage of misery every day from vitriolic bigots.

Anon, I’m going to tell you what I wish someone had told me 5 years ago, because at that time I could have written what you wrote here. That version of me was living in Plato’s cave, aware that the images on the wall were a mere projection of the real world, but still convinced that I could stay in the cave because the projections were real enough to satisfy me and the climb out would be too rough and too dangerous to be worth it. Anon, I am holding you by the shoulders and staring gently but directly into your eyes and I am telling you: you need to get out of the cave. The climb out is arduous, and the world outside is dangerous, but it’s real, and once you’re out here, you can finally be real too. I used to think I could be happy in the cave, but now that I’m here, now that I’m me, there is no force strong enough to push me back in. You’re right, trans women have it bad right now. It’s a rough life, but it’s the only one worth living, because it’s the only one where we are living.