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Trauma doesn’t always look like flashbacks or panic attacks. Sometimes it looks like exhaustion. Sometimes it looks like irritability. Sometimes it looks like avoiding things you don’t even know why you avoid. However it shows up, it’s real.

Sometimes we expect healing to mean peace, calm, or constant strength. But often it looks like crying, being angry, setting a boundary, or saying no for the first time. Healing doesn’t always feel pretty but it’s still healing.

Needing reassurance doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t erase your strength. It simply means part of you is still learning that you are safe and loved.

You’re not “too sensitive” for needing calm. You’re not “too damaged” for craving stability. Wanting to feel safe isn’t a flaw, it's a human need. You deserve calm. You deserve softness. You deserve people who don’t make you feel like you have to apologize for existing.

Accepting that maybe even the best version of you would be hated by some people can really set you free like life doesn't have to be making other people comfortable or being the most lovable and fair person in the universe like actually the satisfaction you seek is beyond judgment and lies within your own interests and desires fr

You’re allowed to grieve the childhood you didn’t get. The safety you were denied. The peace you had to earn the hard way. Grief doesn’t have to mean that you're stuck. And it’s okay if it takes time to let go of something you never even got to have.

It turns out that you can become the person you’ve always envisioned but you’ll still have the person you were before inside of you and you have to treat them with as much forgiveness and love as possible

trans men being safe is so important to me

Replace "I should have known" with "now I know better." Forgive yourself, because self-shame is self-sabotage.