Leigh whats being 30 like 🥺 cause you seem to be so happy about it and people are always acting like you can only peak in your early 20s like.. horrible
oh god, i mean i can only speak from personal experience but i certainly did NOT peak in my 20s, your twenties are mostly about the total destruction and rebuilding of the self over and over, finding all of the bits and pieces of yourself that fit and those that don’t, figuring out what you want your “place” in the world to look like, reconciling with your childhood wounds and learning tools to heal from that, it’s a largely painful transformation period where you grow in learning and finding what love means and how you want to bring that into the world. for me as i have gotten into my 30s yes i am still like hey what the hell am i ever doing and there are definitely many moments of hardship and pain but i feel like my toolbelt is full up of healthy coping mechanisms and genuinely loving and caring relationships to lean on, and i think as you learn who you want to be in this world and how you want to exist in it, you find more and more spaces and people to allow you to actually go out and decide to belong in it, so yes, i am very happy because, despite all of the flow throughs and peaks and valleys of life, i feel completely true to myself, i embrace all of me, i pursue what moves me what i love what brings me joy without hesitation, and that is a gift of turning 30 in my experience that i believe only grows and blossoms with age. you stop letting ego driven insecurity and fragility knock the weight off of you and know that you are inherently worth loving and you will be the one who will always love yourself. this kind of freedom of knowing you can make new pathways, find loving community, that all those stumblings and heartbreaks of your twenties and your childhood did not kill you truly propel you forward to dream and imagine and blossom. i wish for everyone to find this. there is still so so so so so much life and time and magic to be had after your twenties, in fact you have barely scratched the surface. good luck :)
