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i keep thinking about this comment and I just wonder why you keep thinking of something you don't enjoy while reading something you do enjoy (general you ofc) how does one not get sucked in by the story so much they forget they were even reading in the first place, it's just a little odd to me, that's all, what do you think?

seems like a miserable way to live a life lmao. I mean I know we’re only talking about fanfics on ao3, but if this person has to deliberately make themself miserable by thinking about the fact that the things they dislike exist, I can’t help but wonder if this is also how they live their daily life: just being miserable because, in real life, somewhere out there, there are things that they hate too.

the unfortunate truth is that the things that you (general you) hate will always exist. the things I hate exist. not just when it comes to fanfics but anything in general. the world does not revolve around you or your personal preferences. so you can either choose to ignore things you cannot change or control and focus your time and energy on something you enjoy, or you can make yourself miserable by focusing your time and energy on the fact that people like the things you hate, the things you hate exist, and there’s nothing you can do about it.

I personally dont particularly engage with dark fiction most of the time, but thats just my taste, and i dont make a big deal about it. And i feel like more people need to do that instead of going out and harassing people for their writing/artwork. Honestly, even when it comes to ppl who are into, idk like noncon roleplaying or age play or whatever shit like that, is completely harmless aslong as it is kept in a safe and non-abusive environment. Do i still think its weird? Yes, but that is just my personal opinion and i am fortunate to be mentally mature enough to not bullshit people with my opinions. And i wish more ppl were like that, and would just leave ppl alone instead of bullying them off the Internet.

If it says, dead dove do not eat, you have no right to complain about eating the dove of your own accord.

sounds hot. I’m in. cnc is already what my partner and I do in bed every night (I play his victim) so

also in all seriousness this is the type of ask someone who claims to be “the good guy” and “morally superior” sends a stranger while hiding behind anon — because they don’t like that said stranger writes about fictional taboo stories by the way.

no, this type of asks do not affect me. I’ll still continue writing whatever I want, however I want. and I’ll do so unapologetically. they can’t stop me. because I know my kinks stay 100% a fantasy. I don’t harm anybody with what I enjoy in fiction and I don’t force anybody to read what I write.

I do it too, I’m not going to pretend I don’t make jokes about the hets, or the down with cis bus, or whatever

But I recently befriended a cis, straight dude and I have watched him be dismissed, degraded, and unambiguously insulted for the perceived “crime” of being straight — all in queer environments where he is allegedly “completely welcome” and surrounded by “friends”

This guy is not a toxic person! But I have seen him be made to feel so small and like his comfort and safety in those spaces are conditional on his silence and acceptance of being treated like a human dunk zone, and I think that some of y’all have had so much shit from straight/cis people that the second you feel like you’ve got an inch, you want to luxuriate in the perceived catharsis of bullying someone who— actually —doesn’t deserve it

And until he very, very carefully mentioned to me in private that it makes him feel bad, I didn’t even clock that I was involved in doing that, that it had become so instinctive for me to make casual jokes like that, and that— well meaning or otherwise —I had been contributing to an environment that made someone I really really like feel like shit

I’m gonna say this point blank— you’re a tar pit if you think this way

Your suffering does not make you special, you are not granted brand new permissions to be belligerent and cruel because you have been treated poorly, straight people aren’t an oppressed class, no, but they’re people who are entitled to the same amount of basic decency that you, yourself, are entitled to

This is a form of backdoor bigotry from both normative facts (there are more straight than gay relationships) and well represented bigoted beliefs (men are superior to women).

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so, ways to get around this:

turn off AI results. they're literally nonsense to us

don't use pinterest because the sources/provenance is often hard to trace

a standard internet search can be okay, but museum collections are the top tier (list of collections below this list)

instead of broad terms like victorian, regency, tudor, renaissance etc. try using the decade you're looking for. if you're not sure of what decade it is but have a vague image in your head, look on the fashion history timeline and just jump around until you find it. but even changing to e.g. 19th century will give better results than victorian

including terms like womenswear/menswear, daywear, formal wear, evening wear, court dress should increase the value of your search too

including "fashion plates" in your search can give you a nice impression of the intended silhouettes of the era. some of these might be a little stylised but will show you what was considered in vogue

for pre-fashion plate eras or things like makeup and styling, you'll have to look at portraiture or manuscripts. these are harder to actually find what you're looking for, but searching museum collections and limiting results to specific date ranges will be your friend

when looking at art, do bear in mind sometimes artists would paint fabric extra flow-y to show off their skills. it might not have been exactly like that in terms of fabric weight or drape. so, a pinch of salt required!

if you find something on image search where the provenance is dubious, reverse image search and you might find a source! i've been able to trace random pinterest images to real sources, but this does take a lot of time and effort and is often not worth the headache

some online resources and museum collections:

fashion history timeline is an invaluable resource if you're trying to get a feel for everything and should be your first port of call. it'll also link to good examples

the met has a vast number of extant examples of clothing, as well as fashion plates

costume institute fashion plates is a subcollection of the met for fashion plates (1800s-1922)

v&a also has many extant garments, fashion plates, and incredible articles on clothing and aesthetics. read the details of the objects because they'll often reveal a lot about the piece

lacma is good for C19th-20th pieces

nypl digital collection for photographs

national portrait gallery or similar for portraiture, or literally any museum in your country that has historical art

national museums scotland can be useful situationally but might be oddly specific

stout style history is a great collection for finding image references for fat people wearing historical clothes. survival bias of a lot of museum pieces tends towards smaller clothing that couldn't be repurposed, but this aims to counter that. it's not sortable, but is still a really nice resource

wikimedia commons is surprisingly handy! and the images, if you should need to link/repost them, are public domain

auction websites sound like a funny one to recommend. some won't have mannequins and some will. just look up historical garment auctions and you'll find some!

It's rude. You're making someone take their time to read something you couldn't bother to write. You're telling them they were so unimportant you couldn't be bothered to actually take the time to say something yourself. And frankly, you're lying about it while you're at it.