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So, you've been on the Internet for a bit longer than me, and it sounds like you've used your full name as your net-facing identity for a good part of it. One thing heavily instilled in me as a child is that I should watch what I post online, since employers may find it (and do still remember how awkward it was to get called into a supervisor's office and shown a series of my inadvisable Facebook posts that said supervisor did not have direct access to).
But right now I'm starting to get tired of juggling pseudonyms and taking care to remember who knows which of my identities link to each other. And seeing you post about furry dicks and whatnot under your legal name seems like it's rather liberating in comparison.
Which brings me to my actual question: have you experienced (or suspected you've experienced) any employment-related downsides to such openness online, particularly in IT?
Honestly, if I wasn't a published author, I probably wouldn't be posting under my real name, either. I wouldn't recommend it in general; I'm in a position of considerable privilege employment-wise because I happen to be operationally indispensable to some fairly critically placed systems, so I can basically do whatever I want online short of openly committing felonies without any consequences. Most people don't have that luxury!
just like, if there's a history at your institution of disabled kids not being able to make it you realise that's your fault right. like why don't you fucking do something about it. i guess they tried to do something about it with me and it failed so they let me go. crazy. nice work. why should we try to do any better.
only 5% of people with adhd who go to college finish a degree. FUCKING. FIVE!!! PERCENT!!!!!!!!!!!
that should disgust and enrage you.
if any other demographic of students had a 95% failure rate, we would be demanding reform and studies to understand why that’s happening
when i was at my first university, trying to get accommodations for my ADHD, they just kept asking me what accommodations i wanted, and refused to answer when i would ask what was available to me. how the Hell am i supposed to know what i can have? what’s available???? also, i don’t know!!!! i’m an adhd sufferer, not a fucking disability expert for the fucking college, unlike you, DISABILITY EXPERT WHO WORKS FOR THE COLLEGE.
but because the us is OBSESSED with making sure no one gets anything “”for free””, she literally would not tell me what my options were until i broke down in tears and asked her why she was refusing to help me. and then she did a big sigh, like i was fucking up her entire career by *checks notes* asking the disability center in my university to help me, a disabled student
at the second uni i went to, i tried to explain to a dean that i was literally two gen eds that had nothing to do with my degree away from graduating and that i was burnt out and broke and exhausted and suicidal and i just needed to be able to finish my degree without the gen eds. and this. fucking. guy. looked me right in my face and said in the most patronizing tone he could muster “if you can’t handle it, then maybe college just isn’t for you.” keep in mind that up until that semester, i had been an honor student who made Dean’s List every semester and didn’t get below Bs. if it hadn’t been for my mental breakdown, i would have graduated cum laude, maybe even summa cum laude.
but this dean of students looked a disabled person right in the face and said well i guess you just can’t do it, short bus
Pulled these from a couple articles really quick but yeah the statistics are not kind. I remember writing a scathing essay about my issues with ADHD and college as part of an assignment for academic probation. I got back an email calling me entitled and lazy. Somehow, this thread helps me feel a lot better. I still have about a semester of school unfinished that I’m unsure if I’ll finish but… yeah. Makes me feel better to know it’s not just me.
PSA: The Job Accommodation Network maintains a searchable database of accommodation suggestions for a wide variety of disabilities.
The full database can be accessed here and the ADHD page is here. The full database can be filtered by disability, by limitation, by work-related function, by topic, and by accommodation. Many of these accommodations are applicable to academic settings as well as the workplace.
Here are the section headers for ADHD accommodations ideas to give an overview of what the page contains - this post would become Do You Love the Color of the Accommodation if I attempted to list them all here
The ADHD page linked above also includes case examples and strategies for determining what sort of accommodations might be necessary. More broadly, the JAN website as a whole is a treasure trove of information related to the Americans with Disabilities Act and resources for both individuals and employers.
The head of disability accommodations at my college just kept ablesplaining to me that “accommodations are to level the playing field, not give you an advantage,” and that her job is to “protect the school’s rights” rather than help disabled students. The only accommodations they would offer me were 1. extra time on tests, and 2. an alternative test-taking location - neither of which I needed. I ended up getting (most of) what I actually needed by unofficially asking the individual professors, but it should have been legally protected.
oh my goddd yes. i remember in high school when i had a meeting to get a 504 plan it was so terrible. it took MONTHS to even get the meeting, and then they also did not tell me what accommodations were available, they talked down to me the entire time like "you know this isn't gonna just get you out of doing your work, right?", and thats not even MENTIONING the fact that i only found out about the existence of 504 plans in my sophomore year, and i found out about them from other students, not the school!
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we gotta get back to torrent distribution, i just watched someone eat eight grand in bandwidth charges because they ran a direct-download piracy site with local file hosting through cloudflare. torrents were invented literally for this exact reason
i have a file or folder on my pc that i want to share with other people. let's call it gayshit.mp3
unfortunately gayshit.mp3 is 750mb and im not paying for discord nitro so i need another way to send it
i put it into qbittorrent and it makes a torrent file. this is essentially a very small file that points to gayshit.mp3 so other computers can find it. kinda like a treasure map
i send this tiny file to my friend, who loads it into qbittorrent. their computer takes a moment to find mine over the vast expanse of cyberspace and then (as long as my pc is running and the file is still where it should be), it gets copied from my hard drive to theirs
this is the cool part: if somebody else loads that tiny file, they can download it from both of us. if i'm offline but my friend is on, the third person can still get it. this also means that if two people have separate halves of the file, they can download the other half from each other. as long as some combination of people have the pieces between them, they can all have the whole thing.
crucially this does not require a server!!! you can just upload the file to a few people and as long as they keep it, it's still accessible. as long as somebody, somewhere is still connected, it's available forever. the only way it goes away is if everybody disconnects from it.
ok so this is another long shot but a few years ago there was a twitter post (in japanese i think?) that had measurememts for how to make this book stand thing out of cardboard that you could use to double up books and use up more space on shelves
back then i made a bunch of these but by now i lost the pic and dont know how to find the original post anymore
if it comes down to it i can just take one apart and get the measurements from there but i would be very grateful if anyone happens to have the original post or something similar??
don't mind how long it's been since i made this post, anyway i realized that i don't even need to take one apart to get the measurements when i can literally just unfold it and refold it /FACEPALM
so anyway here is the diagram for anyone else who is interested!!
this requires pretty big carboard pieces, if you have a really big box or something you can make it from one piece, but if you don't, you can also just make each of the pieces individually and then tape them together
and then in the end you put it together like this!!
and then when you make a bunch you can put them all next to each other and stack your books like crazy
EVERYONE START GETTING MORE USE OUT OF YOUR SPACE NOW!!!!
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a personal zine about gender, nonhumanity and a little bit of liomoqai (it's all linked, anyway)
Finally getting comfortable with my identity as a genderless yet also xenogender nonhuman; my gender and nonhumanity are inextricably linked.
Tagging @radiomogai because I think it also archives experience posts, and @alterhuman-art as I'd like this to be reblogged there.
Thank you so much @soporine for making a term I identify with so deeply.
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A zine with 9 pages, all off-white with black text, typically in a monospace font with a white background, but sometimes in quotations, larger with a serif font and also with a white background
i've spent a lot of time trying to figure out my gender.
(in doodled thought bubbles) am i a boy? am i a girl?
(next to doodled symbols) nonbinary, genderfluid, transmasc, demigirl
all words i've used to describe myself at some point in my life.
i got myself in a rut about it
introspecting, introspecting, introspecting.
i started looking into the core of it
(circled) "But what is gender, anyway?"
i didn't know the answer.
(next to handwritten and crossed out she/her, he/him, they/them) "Gender is the pronouns you use"
but gender doesn't equal pronouns. but pronoun non-conforming people exist.
"Gender is the way you present yourself to others"
but gender non-conforming people exist. but closeted trans people are still trans.
"Gender is what you want your body to look like"
but what about trans people that don't medically transition?
but what about nonbinary and genderqueer identities that don't have a base for the gendered body?
(cut off) but what about-
so gender doesn't mean anything?
"Guess you'll have to define gender for yourself the way it is for you"
(handwritten and crossed out who am i, anyway? drawing of anthro cat facing away)
(cut off) "Let's start with some questions, then-
"What pronouns do you want to use?"
(next to handwritten and crossed out there are more pronouns than just he, she and they?) i don't really know, nothing feels quite right.
"How do you want to present, to be percieved by others?"
i don't really care, people percieve me as whatever they want regardless of what i think, anyway
i don't put effort into presenting myself in any particular way.
"What would you want your ideal body to look like?"
i mean, i guess, i guess
does it have to be (underlined) human?
i think i'd want to be a cat.
does that count? does that count as 'gender'?
i've been identifying with 'xenogenders' as metaphors, ideas
just describing feelings i'm not sure are gendered feelings at all
does this count? this feels more certain than a metaphor
i mean if we're talking about animals,
they don't have gender, this human (repeated, underlined) social construct
(next to drawing of cat facing away, tail overlapping text) they're just flesh and blood and instincts and biology
can i be that too? nonhuman? all the way down to gender?
(handwritten and crossed out 'it/its is dehumanising!' isn't that the point?)
i got deeper into the liomoqai community, the alterhuman community, too
i found terms, genderNH, kingender, acreaturic
(acreaturic is circled, the arrow leads to the text) "a label for when you are just a creature/being, perhaps with no concept of gender, and simply pretending to be a certain gender for fun."
that makes sense. gender is so meaningless to me.
i don't think cats are a fan of gender, really
i think i'm using gender to describe other things in my identity!
i can do that!
i can do that :)
(drawing of cat, finally facing forwards, eyes closed in a pleased manner)
