HERE ARE THE LESSONS

10/01/2019

And I’ll say this once and once only:

When the glass ceiling breaks, I’ll use the shards to carve the victory in your flesh so that you never forget that I am a hurricane.

08/01/2019

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Yesterday I discovered that if you reach out in times of tragedy, people will always reach back for you because no one has had their lives untouched by hardness, and empathy for each other is all we have. I discovered what I know to be true; in times of tragedy, I am my father’s daughter. I will hold the wheel, keep the mast straight and not waver.

Me, in my truest form

Starlight

Knowledge

Company - the beautiful kind

Music

Endless adventure

Books

To breathe easy 

- Sleeping at last, Seven

03/03/2020

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I am trying to live for me and appreciate my own uniqueness without being proud. I guess I want to wow everyone all the time - by being competent, talented, kind - by bending over backwards. I think I enjoy the praise and ‘security’ it brings - until it doesn’t. When I have to stress about how I’m being perceived, what strangers think of me or if I’m spoken about in an ill manner, I become trapped. I become scared, and more importantly inauthentic. And that is the last thing I want to be.

I want to be real. That’s how I want people to remember me. When I die, I want people to say “She did great and horrible things. She helped more people than the hundreds she hurt. She succeeded and failed in equal measures. But she was kind, and she will be missed. She made all the difference.”

Because that’s the truth. I saved me. I rescued me. I made all the difference to myself and my life. I’m not perfect and I know that being perfect is so alluring because you think it secures love, admiration, approval and attention. But it removes you largely from dealing with failure and it gives you a fragile identity to cling on to. Curiosity, I’m told, is the only cure. Be curious - it’s the only way to be free. 

5 throwback songs for summer if you were born in ‘98/’99

1. How far we’ve come - Matchbox Twenty 

2. Closer to the edge - 30 seconds to Mars

3. About you now - Sugababes

4. Club can’t handle me - Flo Rida

5. I’m all yours - Jay Sean, Pitbull  

– My Friday Favourites (@ Herearethelessons)

5 awesome punk songs released in 2020

1. Into the dark -, Kellin Quinn

2. Trouble Is - All time low

3. Mindreader - A day to remember

4. Stupid for you - Waterparks

5. P.S. Missing You - Sleeping with Sirens

– My Friday Favourites (@ Herearethelessons)

5 songs for windows-down driving

1. Every Little Thing - Russel Dickerson

2. Forget me too - Machine Gun Kelly, Halsey

3. Lullaby - Sigala, Paloma Faith

4. I’m yours - Alessia Cara

5. Adderall (Corvette Corvette) - Popp Hunna

    – My Friday Favourites (Herearethelessons)

5 tracks for getting ready in the morning

1. Hollow - Tori Kelly ft Big Sean

2. Summertime in Paris - Jaden

3. Good Thing - Kehlani 

4. Suncity - Khalid ft. Empress Of

5. Easy breezy - Kiana Lede

     – My Friday Favourites (Herearethelessons)

1. The scent of rain before a night-long storm comes. 

2. Listening to a Ludovico Einaudi piece that takes you into another world of thoughts full of swirling colours and textures.

3. A post-it note left for you by someone else with scrawled writing that you can barely read.

4. Eating a bar of  your favourite chocolate at the end of the quiet night and washing it down with a bitter coffee. Especially when the flavours balance each other out. 

5. The aesthetic of dried wheat/flowers in tall glass vases and sprigs of baby’s breath.

6. An inbox at zero.

7. Picking up an old hobby from when you were younger and thinking to yourself, “I remember this. I recognise this.”

8. Hanging out a fresh load of washing and lingering outside to watch the sky and feel the sun on your face. You have enough pegs and feel accomplished when the task is over.

9. Sliding into warm sheets at night and tucking your leg over a pillow, as you fall asleep to the sound of crackling firewood and thunder.

10. Candles that smell of forest air or sugar cookies, burning on your desk as you work into the night.

     --  The Lists I Keep (Herearethelessons)