inhale sunshine

I don't care if your headmate's done the worst shit I can imagine, traumatized you repeatedly, and laughed in your face about it. They've still got a reason for doing it. And if that reason is "they find it fun," then what's going on in their life that makes hurting other people (and being hated by them) their best option for entertainment? Sounds like they're struggling to feel good at all if hurting people for a quick fix is the only time they're happy, or like they've learned that other people deserve to suffer (and where did that belief come from?).

They think that they're pure evil and act the part? Damn, that's a lot of self hatred they've got going on. "I'm irredeemably bad" isn't really a nice way to see yourself. I wonder when they learned to see themselves that way. I wonder how they learned that "acting evil" was something they had to do. I wonder if anyone ever respected or listened to them when they were "good", how "being evil" might've protected or helped them at some point when all the "good" people were failing them.

They're pissed off constantly for "no reason" and make it everyone else's problem? Where did that anger come from in the first place? Who's helping them deal with it? No one? Being nice and punching a pillow doesn't always make a dent in that kind of anger, especially if it's decades of everyone else's "I can't feel this right now" rage. That sucks to deal with. It's not like you taught them any better coping skills while you were shoving them away for having those feelings at all, though. They're stuck trying to cope with overwhelming rage alone. Lashing out makes it feel better.

They're shredding your body and forcing you to watch? Threatening suicide? It's their body too. They're willing to shred or kill themselves just to hurt you. Doesn't sound like it's just about hurting you for shits and giggles at that point. Lack of control over their own life, trauma re-enactment, self-hatred, overwhelming emotion, terminal boredom, whatever. There's a bigger problem going on.

They're not "pure evil"; every other person in their life is actively failing to understand and support them.

If you experience any changes in body control (switching, possession, etc.), then establish some form of consistent, asynchronous external communication with your system. External communication has a major benefit: you can still talk to each other across switches (asynchronously) even if the inside of your mind is a mess.

You might set up a journal, whiteboard, calendar, a "single user, multi-account" app like Mytter or Antar, sticky notes, etc. Anything goes as long as your system knows to check it occasionally (or at the least, in an emergency).

We recommend choosing an analog method for your fallback communication method if possible, as a power outage could take out a lot of digital methods. A spur-of-the-moment piece of paper left on a table is better than nothing, but it's less likely to work than a pocket notebook or bulletin board that every system member knows to use for communication if needed. You can always add an app or program once everyone knows where to go for your analog fallback.

Discuss how you want to treat each other. Keep it loose and informal for now- don't make any absolute Laws just yet. Think of it more like the quick agreements that roommates make with each other for practical reasons: "I'll do the dishes if you do the laundry".

A few classics: "try not to die, don't kill anyone else, don't get any tattoos as an impulse decision, and don't throw out things that don't belong to you."

Don't force agreements on anyone. If someone disagrees, then stop and discuss their concerns to find a better agreement. See: Consensus Decision Making.

Map your system, if it feels right. This can help you learn about each other, but it can also be soothing to feel like you have some understanding of who's in your head when you're being flooded with new system members.

Again, keep it simple. What do you actually need to know? What would help you in a practical sense? Start there, then branch out if you'd like to get to know each other better.

Consider making a simple guide to your life. If someone had to handle a day in your life with little to no prior knowledge of it, then what would they need to know?

Where should they check to see if you have any appointments? Are they responsible for feeding any pets? Where can they find money if they need it, and how do they know how much to spend? Do you have a job, and do they need to work it? Etc.

Hopefully you never need this guide, but it's a lifesaver for any unexpectedly amnesiac system members.

Let’s just say, episode 9 changed my perspective of episode 5 and 6. It explains Ragatha’s behaviors towards Jax getting close with Pomni and she said “Jax is corrupting her”. I thought corrupting meant Pomni changing for bad, not literally

So she has been trying to protect her, to not let the history repeat

and he paused for a second and then said, “when you’ve been taught from a young age that crying is weak and you should train yourself never to cry for any reason, you assume that everyone else has trained themselves too, so anyone who cries has to be doing it on purpose. it took me a long time to realize that wasn’t true.”

But anime and video game boob jiggling is like. The most uncanny valley shit I've ever seen nine times out of ten. You would think people this horny about tits would have actually looked at some but I guess not.