girl help they are making me do my job at work

i don't know who needs to hear this, but guilt, self-hatred and shame are not sustainable sources of growth and healing. you can't hate yourself into feeling better, or being better. you can't repeatedly punish yourself for your flawed humanity and expect wholesome results.

Remember when I was going crazy 5 minutes ago [chuckle of fond remembrance] amazing how time changes people

sometimes i forget aromanticism isnt normalized until im listening to family friends complain about how relationships suck and never last and i chime in with "yeah im kinda glad im not interested in romance." and suddenly all of them turn into "oh no EVERYONE needs romance its human nature. if you think you're not interested you just need to try again." . like okay i thought we were commiserating here. i was agreeing with yall. cmon.

straight people will spend all their time making relationships sound like a chore and normalize the concept of hating your wife but if you say "idk id rather be single" you're the weird one i guess.