half agony and hope

Obi-Wan fell in love with Satine first, but she fell practically moments behind him.

If standing barefoot, they are the same height.

She's older by a few months.

They were each other's first.

At the end of their year on the run, Satine came close (like, razor thin margins close) to asking Obi-Wan to stay, but Qui-Gon sensed it and had a conversation with her that changed her mind. Because of his intervention, Satine never asked, and for the most part, she never regretted it - but there were fleeting moments of doubt when she wondered if Qui-Gon had overstepped his place. (She'd never admit this, though.)

At the end of their year on the run, Obi-Wan came just as close to leaving the Jedi Order and asking Satine to make him her personal guard (with the hopes of her being just as in love with him as he was with her), but again, Qui-Gon intervened. In TPM after Qui asked to take Anakin as his padawan, Obi-Wan was upset and briefly second-guessed his master's instincts on a lot of things - including the guidance to leave Mandalore years earlier - but obviously, shit went down and he didn't dwell on it too long.

They were ABSOLUTELY friends with benefits, and when their schedules aligned, they had little trysts.

Again, this is just my head canon, but I don't think Obi-Wan is an open, casual, or careless type when it comes to sex. Yeah, he's flirtatious and charming on the surface, but on a deeper level, he's very guarded about this part of himself and his life. He's more inclined to see acts of intimacy as being somewhat spiritual and he's got a romantic side that few ever see.

And while I think Satine is more pragmatic in how she views sex and she has a healthy appetite for it, she was never willing to "entertain" suitors or love interests once she began her reign because she saw them as risks she couldn't take or vulnerabilities that could be exploited by her enemies. Trust is something she longs for, and it's hard to find as the Duchess of Mandalore.

That being said, they often found comfort in each other's beds (or, more so hers since I can't see Satine ever sneaking into the Jedi Temple for a one night stand). They knew they could trust each other and it was a guaranteed safe situation since they both understood the risks to their careers (life paths? callings? lol) and that duty always came first.

Obi-Wan's boots have beskar on them - a gift from Satine - and he kicked Jango on Kamino, and that's how the helmet got dented.

She's a Taurus sun, Aries moon, Scorpio rising.

He's a Cancer sun, Scorpio moon, Virgo rising.

Obi-Wan can be downright cruel with his words and mean behind closed doors. Not that he is, necessarily, but that he is capable of viciousness even to the people he loves most.

Satine has a bit of a martyr complex that stems from a lack of autonomy over her own life as she's been preparing to die for her cause for years. Not that she's cool with that, but you know, she made her peace with dying a long time ago.

They send each other transmissions on their birthdays (lifedays).

When Satine would speak at the Senate, Obi-Wan would find an excuse to be there, just to watch her.

They took little Anakin to Dex's Diner many times when she was on Coruscant. (Anakin didn't like her taking Obi-Wan's attention from him.)

If they had settled down at the end of the year on the run, their relationship would have imploded into ruin. Satine would have been stretched too thin with rebuilding Mandalore to prioritize their partnership, and Obi-Wan would have grown insecure of himself and his place being a former Jedi in a world that didn't look upon him kindly.

While I love the ways others in the Obitine fandom see them with lots of kids, my head canon is that if they'd ended up together, there would have been maybe 2 biological children (both boys), and some foundlings. I don't see them with a daughter, but I think that's because I have such vivid ideas about Auntie Satine and Uncle Ben being close with Leia and Ahsoka. Like, all my Obitine daughter thoughts go there, I guess. But I don't see them with a lot of offspring.

In a modern setting, Obitine are totally the childless (or "one and done") couple who have a beautiful home, luxury cars, financial stability, and vacation in wonderful places. They're the backbone of the friend group, always saving the day when something happens, there to help everyone through every crisis, and frequently babysitting their many godchildren or nieces and nephews. They love it all, but they're always relieved to return home together, to a quiet, peaceful home.

He calls her cyar'ika, she calls him cyare.

For discretion's sake, some of their arguing is just to keep up appearances. It's a lot easier to sneak around when everyone thinks the last place you'd be is with each other.

When he was little, Satine often told Korkie bedtime stories about the brave Jedi Knights who saved her life many times in the year on the run.

They are the kind of people who share the same goal but see different ways to get there.

When Obi-Wan was first entrusted with the care of Anakin, in the worst of moments when he doubted himself, he reached out to Satine for support or to vent. He could have gone to the Council or his fellow Jedi, but he feared they would only reaffirm his inadequacies and reassign the boy to a more experienced mentor, but he knew she would listen and then offer some very blunt advice.

At Senate galas or events, it was quite common for the Duchess of Mandalore to be seen bickering and dancing with Jedi Master (and) General Kenobi, so much so that the gossip rags in Coruscant didn't even report on it. This strategy was Satine's, and Obi-Wan hated to admit she was right when he found that by normalizing this, curious eyes went elsewhere and they could sneak off together without being noticed.

His ability to sense her and how she's feeling in the Force has always annoyed her. (Secretly though, she kind of loves it. She doesn't understand it, but as faith-oriented as she is, she doesn't feel a need to pick it apart and question it. It just is.)

Her cheeky way of calling his Force abilities "magic" has always annoyed him. (Secretly though, he kind of loves it. He knows she's not minimizing or belittling it, and sometimes it amuses him to think that maybe it is like magic - being able to sense she needs support before she even needs to humble herself and ask for it.)

They both are touch starved people, to the point where the act of keeping it professional in public is an exhilarating game of mental foreplay. When he makes the frequent mistake of touching the small of her back or holding her hand in public, she loses her train of thought for a moment. And he knows this.

Physical stuff aside, one of their favorite things to do when together is watch the HoloNet News and bitch about it and to each other. They might argue, but they're just blowing off steam.

When Obi-Wan finds himself in Mandalore, Satine keeps Sundarian clothes for him and they sneak out together without her guards and go wander around.

While Satine respects weaponry (because she's a Mandalorian and I think that's just ingrained in them from birth), she has only handled Obi-Wan's lightsaber hilt maaaaaaybe less than 2 or 3 times (one being the scene in TCW where they're in Coruscant and she tosses it to him). He told her once about the way kyber crystals have something close to sentience, therefore, she avoids handling it out of both dislike of weapons and a respect for Jedi culture.

As individuals, both Obi-Wan and Satine are bored by most others. Sure, they like people - they love others, really, and they have endless wells of compassion and love for the worlds around them - but ultimately, they find it thrilling to be challenged. The frustration of biting their tongue, of formulating every word of their next argument in conversation, of being dared, of being questioned - it's exasperating, but it's fantastic at the same time. (They would have been a killer duo on a debate team.)

The argument that if Satine had asked Obi-Wan, he would have left the Jedi Order is both a merciful move on her part and a cop out on his. I could write an essay on how this admission from Obi-Wan put all of the accountability for their lives on her shoulders, and how Satine could have resented knowing this.

I have a whole other head canon about Satine not having biological children at all because of infertility issues after weapons attacks in the Mandalorian civil war, combined with genetic issues from carrying a Force sensitive's child, but I'll spare you all.

Both Satine and Obi-Wan are people who suffer deeply for the well-being of others, and they are burdened with this love and this need to do the right thing, even if it puts them in the line of danger and it puts everything they know in jeopardy. Because of that, they understand one another in a way that few others can.

Not to be explicit, but they're both pretty kinky people. *shrugs*

He's a light sleeper, she's a heavy sleeper, and she snores.

When the year on the run ended, they exchanged small tokens to remember the other by. He gave her his favorite Jedi robe. She gave him a stone of Draboon lapis that was in a bracelet of hers. They keep these items their whole lives.

The box in which Obi-Wan buries his and Anakin's lightsabers in the sand of Tatooine is a box made of Mandalorian veshok wood, and that box was Satine's.

The name of his eopie, Akkani, is inspired by his memory of the Mandoa word for "fight," akaanir. When Ben purchased the eopie, his gruff nature put off the animal who fought being saddled. He was forced to be mindful, to let his compassion and his kindness guide the way so that she would trust him. The eopie reminded him of Satine (which made him snort knowing she'd take offense and assume it was some kind of insult about her appearance), so to call the animal a fighter, he decided on Akkani. (He misspelled it, which would have tickled Satine to correct him on his improper usage of her language.)

I don't care how delusional this sounds, but we never saw Satine's burial, so as far as I'm concerned, someone threw her in a bacta tank and she's hanging out on Tatooine slathering SPF on Ben, keeping up with Bo-Katan's series of failures, and making periodic transmissions from Mos Eisley to Bail and Korkie. *shrugs*

Aaaaaand I'm gonna cut myself off here because if not, I will do nothing but list a ridiculous more number of head canons about them. :)