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Let me start by saying that I don't condone Violence, especially between highbloods when around lowbloods, and doubly so, not in a workplace, which should be professional.

I (purple, 40s, beforian) work in an office. A coworker of mine (purple, 30s, beforian) and I got into an argument in regards to another coworker. She is a larger bodied goldblood, who has issues with psionic usage. He suggested that eXercise might help with the matter. I cautioned him that telling a plus sized person to eXercise can be in poor taste, and brought up medicull discrimination as a supporting thesis.

He brought to my attention that his kismesis is a doctor, and a respectable one. I did try to add that I was not insulting all doctors, howeVer, it was too little, too late. He pushed me, and I responded by striking him, paired with some strong words.

Here is where I may be the asshole. We were standing in the break room, accessible to all workers in the office, including lowblooded staff. A lower leVel employee (oliVe, I belieVe under 20) who I was preViously Very friendly with became frightened by the action, as did some others. While most told me that they understood my outburst, he has become Very shy and nerVous around me. Where he used to say hello to me, he now rushes away, refuses to make eye contact, and frequently acts anXious around me when unable to leaVe quickly. I haVe attempted to apologize to him for my outburst, and specifically for frightening him, howeVer, he became flustered, and quickly ended the conVersation.

This is Very distressing to me. We had a cordial relationship before, and I do not want him to feel threatened by me. I understand that to some eXtent I haVe no control oVer his emotions, but I did haVe control oVer my own actions. Others tell me to let it go, and not question it. I'm not so certain. Am I the asshole?

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The two of them got into a physical altercation in the office, with the lowblood as the instigator. A third coworker (midblood as well) pulled me aside after and told me that in her eyes, I was somehow the one to blame, for not doing more to stop the mess. I told her that I did tell them to stay away from each other and not further complicate the office dynamics. She responded that I was being a (derogatory word here) and stated that I should have directly defended the lowblood, since she was the one being wronged (in her eyes), claiming that by taking no side, I somehow took one. I do not agree with this.

The workplace has already become very nasty and disagreeable. She will no longer speak to me, and due to her meddling, our lowblood coworker also will not speak to me. This is causing undue stress to our workload.

Am I truly the one in the wrong? I cannot see how. I believe she should not have struck a superior in the first place. Yet, somehow, I am the one being yelled at. So, am I right, or is she?

・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・This is so embarrassing… So, my friend {13, lime, alternian} came to visit me {12, fuchsia, beforian} for a sleepover and well >_< um…・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・

・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・Something happened in a scary movie and totally fightened me! I got scared bad, and he reached over and papped me with bits warm lime hands… Which was nice, but…・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・

・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・It scared me so bad that I punched zip without thinking…・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・

・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・I feel bad and apologized but I have strong fuchsia strength so I hurt them pretty bad.・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・

・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・AITA? Should I send more edible arrangements?・┆✦ʚ♡ɞ✦ ┆・

[+ i (ageanon, hemoanon, planetanon) ggot ssick for a wwipe or so and ended up mmissing the start of a nnew discourse ccycle, rrendering me completely unable to understand whhat these bbastards were arguing about -]

[+ naturally, i ppretended to be ddead for 5 pperigees or so to avoid having to engage. mmy (now ex) kismmesis attempted to rreach out to mme and ii ssaid nnothing. additionally, tto sell it, i mmade my (now ex) matesprrit "disappear" with me; hhis body still has not been ffound. thhis may seem extreme, bbut you must understand he was kkind of annoying. -]

[+ aannyway, mmy ex kismesis is ppissed, ffor some rreason. apparently ii am a "mmanipulative llowblooded bbarkbeast", eeven thhough i only wanted to avvoid grumblr ddiscourse (clearly stated in the title of the ppost), and am nnot a lowbllood, legally. AITA? -]

ok this is a wweird one for sure. i (m8, rust, secardic) livve alone wwith my lusus (unknowwn gender and age) in a small subgrub. my lusus tends not to stick around for more than three or so nights at a time, and im really anxious about leavving my hivve wwithout anyone in it. wwhen my lusus comes hivve, it gets nervvous if im not there. ivve done wwhat i can to keep it from getting so scared but it doesnt really do anything i suggest, but to be fair it has a vvery poor memory. i dont wwant to get a remote job because i just dont wwant to be at hivve all night, evvery night, because i get really anxious about being around my lusus (it doesn't clean up after itself due to aformentioned memory issues). i dont wwant my lusus to get scared wwithout me. wwould i be the asshole?

as it says. mmy (hemmoannonn, 10, a) ex mmoirail (inndigo, 12, a) of twwo swweeps (wwe broke uup beccauuse of her ccheatinng onn her ex mmatesprit, jade, forget age, alternniann too) reccenntly recconnnneccted annd wwe ccauught uup. after followwinng her onn soccial mmedia, i realized she wwas flirtinng inn the ccommmmennts wwith somme accccouunnts, i ccliccked onn a feww annd saww picctuures of her partyinng annd mmakinng ouut wwith other trolls, innccluudinng gettinng innto druunnkenn fights annd hate mmake-ouuts.

nnormmally i wwouuldnn't evvenn look twwicce, buut she also posted picctuures of her nneww kismmesis (bronnze, ??, a) annd i donnt thinnk he knnowws that she's doinng all of this, beccauuse she doesnn't post it onn her accccouunnt.

this isnn't the first timme she's ccheated, at all, annd i knnoww the signns. buut i'mm nnot her mmoirail annymmore, annd i donn't knnoww the guuy at all. i'mm nnot tryinng to start dramma. i feel bad for the guuy, honnestly. wwouuld i be the asshole if i reacched ouut annd told himm?

✱SO❉ ❉I❉ ❉(6,TRANSWHITEBLOOD,BEFORIAN)❉ ❉RECENTLY❉ ❉WENT❉ ❉OUT❉ ❉WITH❉ ❉MY❉ ❉CV113RR❉ ❉(13,TEAL,BEFORIAN)❉ ❉ON❉ ❉A❉ ❉"MENTAL❉ ❉HEALTH❉ ❉WALK"❉ ❉TO❉ ❉"MAKE❉ ❉(ME)❉ ❉ADJUST❉ ❉TO❉ ❉REALITY"❉ ❉OR❉ ❉WHATEVER,❉ ❉AND❉ ❉I❉ ❉NOTICED❉ ❉THAT❉ ❉THERE❉ ❉WAS❉ ❉A❉ ❉LOT❉ ❉OF❉ ❉SNOW❉ ❉ON❉ ❉THE❉ ❉GROUND.❉ ❉I❉ ❉GOT❉ ❉EXCITED❉ ❉(SINCE❉ ❉SNOW❉ ❉IS❉ ❉WHITE❉ ❉AND❉ ❉I❉ ❉AM❉ ❉TRANSMUTANT❉ ❉RADREBEL,❉ ❉IT❉ ❉REMINDS❉ ❉ME❉ ❉OF❉ ❉MY❉ ❉IDEAL❉ ❉WHITE❉ ❉BLOOD)❉ ❉AND❉ ❉TRIED❉ ❉TO❉ ❉JUMP❉ ❉INTO❉ ❉THE❉ ❉SNOW❉ ❉AND❉ ❉EAT❉ ❉IT.❉ ❉MY❉ ❉CV113R❉ ❉YELLED❉ ❉AT❉ ❉ME,❉ ❉TOLD❉ ❉ME❉ ❉TO❉ ❉STOP,❉ ❉AND❉ ❉SAID❉ ❉I❉ ❉NEED❉ ❉TO❉ ❉STOP❉ ❉BEING❉ ❉OBSESSED❉ ❉WITH❉ ❉SNOW❉ ❉AND❉ ❉ICE.❉

✱I❉ ❉TOLD❉ ❉HIM❉ ❉THAT❉ ❉HE❉ ❉WAS❉ ❉ABUSING❉ ❉ME❉ ❉AND❉ ❉BEING❉ ❉ABLEIST❉ ❉(I❉ ❉HAVE❉ ❉AUTISM)❉ ❉BY❉ ❉NOT❉ ❉LETTING❉ ❉ME❉ ❉PLAY❉ ❉IN❉ ❉THE❉ ❉SNOW❉ ❉(I❉ ❉AM❉ ❉ALSO❉ ❉TRANSHARMFUL❉ ❉AND❉ ❉HITTING/EATING❉ ❉SNOW❉ ❉HELPS❉ ❉ME❉ ❉WITH❉ ❉MY❉ ❉URGES)❉ ❉BUT❉ ❉HE❉ ❉SAID❉ ❉I❉ ❉NEED❉ ❉TO❉ ❉"SNAP❉ ❉OUT❉ ❉OF❉ ❉THIS"❉ ❉AND❉ ❉REFUSED❉ ❉TO❉ ❉LET❉ ❉ME.❉ ❉HE❉ ❉PULLED❉ ❉MY❉ ❉LEASH❉ ❉AND❉ ❉FORCED❉ ❉ME❉ ❉AWAY❉ ❉FROM❉ ❉THE❉ ❉SNOW❉ ❉AND❉ ❉BACK❉ ❉ONTO❉ ❉THE❉ ❉SIDEWALK,❉ ❉SAYING❉ ❉THAT❉ ❉IT❉ ❉WOULD❉ ❉BE❉ ❉DANGEROUS❉ ❉TO❉ ❉PLAY❉ ❉IN❉ ❉THE❉ ❉ROAD❉ ❉(EVEN❉ ❉THOUGH❉ ❉THE❉ ❉SNOW❉ ❉WAS❉ ❉CLEAN❉ ❉AND❉ ❉NO❉ ❉ONE❉ ❉WAS❉ ❉AROUND)❉ ❉AND❉ ❉I❉ ❉TOLD❉ ❉HIM❉ ❉HE❉ ❉WAS❉ ❉AN❉ ❉ABLEIST❉ ❉PIECE❉ ❉OF❉ ❉SHIT,❉ ❉AND❉ ❉I❉ ❉WISH❉ ❉I❉ ❉HAD❉ ❉ANOTHER❉ ❉CV113R❉ ❉AND❉ ❉HOPE❉ ❉HE❉ ❉GETS❉ ❉HIT❉ ❉BY❉ ❉A❉ ❉CAR.❉ ❉I❉ ❉KNOW❉ ❉THAT❉ ❉WAS❉ ❉BAD❉ ❉OF❉ ❉ME❉ ❉BUT❉ ❉I'M❉ ❉LITERALLY❉ ❉TRANSHARMFUL.❉

✱ALSO❉ ❉HE❉ ❉REALLY❉ ❉OVERREACTED,❉ ❉HE❉ ❉WON'T❉ ❉TALK❉ ❉TO❉ ❉ME❉ ❉AND❉ ❉IS❉ ❉FORCING❉ ❉ME❉ ❉TO❉ ❉GO❉ ❉TO❉ ❉A❉ ❉THIRD❉ ❉TERRORPIST❉ ❉EVEN❉ ❉THOUGH❉ ❉I❉ ❉SAID❉ ❉THE❉ ❉LAST❉ ❉TWO❉ ❉WERE❉ ❉LITERALLY❉ ❉PR0SH!PP3RS❉ ❉AND❉ ❉ANTIRADREBEL❉ ❉ABLEISTS❉ ❉WHO❉ ❉WERE❉ ❉ABUSING❉ ❉ME.❉ ❉I❉ ❉CAN'T❉ ❉BELIEVE❉ ❉HE'S❉ ❉SO❉ ❉AWFUL,❉ ❉AND❉ ❉HE❉ ❉KEEPS❉ ❉SAYING❉ ❉IT'S❉ ❉MY❉ ❉FAULT❉ ❉FOR❉ ❉CALLING❉ ❉OUT❉ ❉HIS❉ ❉ABLEISM.❉

✱I❉ ❉TOLD❉ ❉ONE❉ ❉OF❉ ❉MY❉ ❉ONLINE❉ ❉FRIENDS❉ ❉(34,VIOLET,ALTERNIAN)❉ ❉AND❉ ❉SHE❉ ❉TOLD❉ ❉ME❉ ❉THAT❉ ❉ON❉ ❉ALTERNIA❉ ❉THEY'D❉ ❉"PUT❉ ❉ME❉ ❉DOWN"❉ ❉AND❉ ❉I❉ ❉NEED❉ ❉TO❉ ❉STOP❉ ❉BEING❉ ❉UNGRATEFUL,❉ ❉BECAUSE❉ ❉ONE❉ ❉OF❉ ❉HER❉ ❉FRIENDS❉ ❉DIED❉ ❉FROM❉ ❉BEING❉ ❉A❉ ❉REBEL❉ ❉ON❉ ❉ALTERNIA,❉ ❉AND❉ ❉RADREBELS❉ ❉AREN'T❉ ❉OPPRESSED❉ ❉ON❉ ❉BEFORUS❉ ❉BECAUSE❉ ❉IT'S❉ ❉NOT❉ ❉AS❉ ❉VIOLENT❉ ❉TOWARDS❉ ❉REBELS❉ ❉AS❉ ❉ALTERNIA.❉ ❉SHE❉ ❉ALSO❉ ❉TOLD❉ ❉ME❉ ❉THAT❉ ❉I'M❉ ❉"NOT❉ ❉A❉ ❉REAL❉ ❉REBEL"❉ ❉AND❉ ❉HAVE❉ ❉TO❉ ❉APOLOGISE❉ ❉TO❉ ❉MY❉ ❉CULLER,❉ ❉BUT❉ ❉I❉ ❉DISAGREE.❉ ❉SO❉ ❉AITA?❉

ii dont know where ii am…………. bluh

Since she is far above me in caste, it could result in me being terminated, however, our boss {older, indigo, a} told me to "h/\ndle it however you think best" and I think a punch to the face is best. Another coworker {older, jade, a} told me that I would be "overreacting and overreaching" if I did, so I'm asking here.

Would I be the asshole for punching her the next time she grabs my hand?