i have a post where i mentioned "don't marry a man who won't do dishes" and someone added "dont marry ANYONE who won't do dishes!!!!" and like. hey. do you think there is a historical cultural context for why, specifically, men who refuse to do housework and expect a wife to also act as a live-in maid for him are more of a problem than the reverse.

on tumblr, it's more important to remind everybody that women who refuse to do housework are immoral

one of the many problems with 'listen to x voices' rhetoric is that in order to be in the diaspora & gain citizenship in the first place your family often has to conform, to some degree, to western policy regarding our home countries & then those are the most plentiful voices in the west who talk about our countries. they will try to convince you that this is "the true voice" of the people of that country but they will gleefully advocate for foreign interventions that result in the widespread destruction and looting of their home country + they will position themselves as the greatest victims in all of this. but they clearly do not view the people back home with any kind of genuine solidarity or kinship only as pawns in their own personal narrative (revenge for an imagined alternative life back home, one where you still owned land or a held position of power there) and an opportunity to seize power for themselves. & then people in the diaspora develop a complex when people back home don't like them and don't agree with them & start claiming that everyone in the home country is brainwashed and the only way to free them is by invading and bombing everyone. they don't even view their cousins and family back home as real people, in this type of person's mindset simply by coming to west you are made real in a way that the rest of the world is not, it's sickening. and i know this song and dance very well like i'm in the western diaspora and the amount of ppl i meet who position themselves as progressive people but on the topic of foreign policy re: the home country sound like they work for radio free asia and are on the cia's payroll and chomping at the bit begging canada and co to bomb their country of origin is completely insane & if you even try to push back against this you're socially ostracized. same people will do land acknowledgements and then shun you for not supporting our government warmongering overseas it's just maddening

daily affirmation i do NOT have a secret disgusting evil hidden within me that will some day make its way out

it’s nice seeing other people starting to open their eyes to what i’ve been saying for a while in that the current use and proliferation of the term “gooning” is an outright tool of fascism

the second “gooning” stopped referring to a specific sexual practice and started to be used as a replacement for “masturbation” we needed to kill it immediately and sadly we didn’t

demonizing human sexuality and treating masturbation and sexual activity as deviant and disgusting are straight up fascist tools and it’s startling how successful this aspect of it has been the last few years

some crazy good fanfic in my google docs. whatever guy started writing it i hope he finishes it