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secondly, that women are socialized to view eating as an indulgence and their bodies as something that must be denied, made smaller, minimized. disordered eating is so common in women as to be almost universal, and girls who already try to go as long as possible without eating, to eat as little as possible when they do, are going to be especially susceptible to the vegan/vegetarian rhetoric that says eating meat is an indulgence, that eating meat is selfish and not something the body really needs–exactly what women already think about food–that it isn’t something they really need, that their body wants these things and if they are strong, they will deny it.

the school does not have good vegetarian options (and of course, precious few things for vegans) and they still choose to become vegetarian/vegan in the middle of term, knowing this. they choose because they already wish to eat less, they say it’s about “getting healthy” or because “the food’s so bad anyway’s so what difference does it make.” they choose because it feels good to be validated in what you’ve always suspected–that your body doesn’t deserve to feel full, that you’d be happier if you had more willpower, that your body is wrong and if only you could finally make this change, you’d be worthy.

these girls’ health is at stake. i see lots of radfem proselytizing about veganism/vegetarianism, and very little discourse about how veganism can harm girls’ health, exactly during a time in life when their body needs adequate nutrition the most. yes, yes, you’ll say veganism can be healthy if you do it properly. but the majority of people don’t have the time/money/resources to do it properly. these girls eating nothing but white rice for dinner are not doing it properly. but the vegan activist still congratulates them on their moral superiority, and says well, at least no animals had to die. 

It’s been many years and I am a vastly different person in a vastly different situation who could not starve myself if my life depended on it, thankfully. But despite knowing with 100% certainty that the person I am now could never relapse, I will NEVER risk attempting veganism again. It’s dangerous for so many women and girls. I have underlying health issues that were already exacerbated by my anorexic past, and as such, the needs of my body do not match up well with a vegan lifestyle. These health conditions exist almost exclusively in women. It can also be a very slippery slope into disorder and restriction for many. And as OP said, it reinforces the femsoc mindset surrounding guilt and food and waste.

The want to detransition us, force us to accept our “role” as women, make us proud of the parts of ourselves that often make us the most uncomfortable in our own skin. 

If the trans person in question is white, they want to use our wombs to produce more white babies. Because don’t forget, you can never part the racist from the sexist. 

And if someone’s too far gone, if they’re too loud and brash and wield their words like a baseball bat. If they can’t be silenced, then they want to kill us. Demean us, dehumanize us, use us as a warning to younger, closeted trans people. 

Look at them. Look at what testosterone has done to their bodies, the personalities, their souls. You don’t want to be like that, do you?

TERFs say the want to save us. They don’t.

shut the fuck up, you lying psychopath. genuinely, nothing enrages me more than seeing pathetic white people use the spectre of white supremacy, baselessly, to scare others into agreeing with their beliefs. as a female-partnered black female, i experience more material oppression than you could ever begin to grasp, and some of the most racial anxiety-ridden and miserable fucks to be around are the white queers and trans people. fair-weather allies to BLM, but usually so nervous around non-white people they can’t even speak to us. but they’ll tell everyone we’re pals behind our backs, because, you know, social cred. constantly tokenizing us. using black intellectual labor and the black lib movement to legitimize the new trans and queer ideology. every single one of you is a fucking user.

They are blowing smoke over their fickel and fraigile glass ideology because there is no consistent ideas which unite them that has a basis in reality. Remember, in order to be something all you have to do is claim to be that thing. Therefore, I claim that I am a dragon, and there is nothing you can do to disprove I am a dragon because a dragon is anyone who identifies as a dragon.

“The want to detransition us, force us to accept our “role” as women, make us proud of the parts of ourselves that often make us the most uncomfortable in our own skin. “

It's long, but you can watch it in segments. Watch it whether or not you support the LGB Alliance. Watch gay people host panels and speak openly about protecting gay rights. If you're worried it's heavy or depressing to watch, it's not. It's very uplifting. It's not tumblr essays and arguments over tiny minutiae. It's gay humans speaking, defining where we are, how we got here, and where we're going next.

One, there was more than one rapist.  Police investigations revealed several suspects and during interrogation of the main rapist, Nathan Sutherland, revealed that he was confident that DNA would show he was not the father, as he was not the only rapist and he believed that he had not personally fathered the child.

Two, the doctor in charge of the comatose woman had not examined her in over three years when she gave birth.  When it was noted in her charts that she was gaining weight, her genitals were swollen, and there was a hard mass in the abdomen, she was placed on a diet and the calories she was given were reduced.  Her calories were reduced, while she was pregnant.

Three, doctors who examined her after she gave birth are not even sure this is the first time she has been pregnant.  “The examination found lacerations that were old and already healed that were not caused as a result of this delivery,“ the court document says.  This women, who was 29 when she gave birth in 2018, was two years old when she went into a coma.

Four, the woman’s mother had previously filed paperwork requesting that her daughter only be cared for by female employees. The state and the facility agreed to honor the mother’s wishes, but did not follow through.  The mother requested this because in 2002, she was told that her daughter had been raped.  In 2002, her daughter was 13 years old!   Police investigating the matter said there was insufficient evidence to warrant a criminal complaint against employees.

Five, she is able to feel pain and she went through the entire birth without care or pain reduction of any kind.  The nurse who reported the birth noted that she had suspected something was wrong because the victim “was moaning.”   One doctor at the hospital, Dr. Marchand, was quoted as saying  “[She] could have been in active labor for hours or even days. This easily could have resulted in a fetal death.”

Racism is a disservice to women. If you prioritize white women over woc then your feminism is worthless.

If you specifically target moc as "thugs" or inherently worse than white men then you need to unpack your racist biases, especially when you start excusing police brutality against Black men.

Misogyny is an ALL men problem. Not a moc issue. ALL men. Stop signaling out poc

Moc are still oppressed on the axis of race. Don't forget that misogyny is not the only form of oppression we need to be fighting against

So when women would argue against it on tumblr, I would be the girl yelling “consent tho” and “what if I want to be hurt??” And guess what… being laughed at or mocked or called gross definitely isolated me further into the hands of those who “understood” me, a.k.a older men.

And I’m not saying you have to personally save those girls. I’m saying that if you can stomach it, the best thing you can do for them is reply thoughtfully or even go into their inbox and tell them that sex doesn’t have to be a painful test of how much you can take.

First, I saw the comic/art I’ll post below that hit me like a ton of bricks, it deals with self objectification. Which made me start searching for what about my partner of four years (who was also my ‘dom’) I found attractive. Turns out what I found attractive about him is that he found me attractive. I realized my entire relationship to sex was this; did I enjoy pain or did I enjoy my partners reactions to hurting me? And how did this all play into my childhood insecurities, traumas, and need for male validation?

I wanted, like I presume many women do, to be the best partner and lover I could be. And an easy way to be that was to be the one that was okay with the most. Who was a “freak” in bed. Who didn’t say no. These are dangerous notions for a teenager, for any woman.

So I wondered, could I enjoy sex without objectifying myself? Could I separate the two? I started reading heavily into self objectification, anti ddlg, anti bdsm, anti kink. I quietly read anti porn and pro women blogs who didn’t shame the women involved, didn’t call them handmaidens, but simply offered another way of existing that was painless and pleasurable.

I ended my relationship and pursued partners who I was attracted to, regardless if I believed they would be attracted to me. I had sex with the ones who were interested and focused on my pleasure and boundaries. I stopped ‘performing’ in bed, and instead just followed what felt right for my body. It turns out there are plenty of men and women who are passionate, tender, gentle, and excellent lovers who didn’t need to hurt me to get off. That I could have slow and intimate or energetic and rough sex with, all without once pushing any boundaries.

For the first time, I had an orgasm with a partner. I wasnt faking. I didn’t have to, because I wasn’t self harming.

Reading materials that didn’t blame me for my self- harm, didn’t accuse me of being a weak woman who catered to men, and instead just gave me perspective and asked me honest questions… that allowed me the space and mindset to ask myself why without needing to be on the defensive.

That, and again, this specific comic. It’s a long answer, but I hope it helped.

That comic was a big eye opener for me too

Although I do have a list of racist radfem blogs I wasn’t sure if I should post urls or not so I quickly made a list of things to look out for in the white radfem community here.

I welcome anyone to add anything to the list Ive left out and if it looks a little weird, keep in mind I posted this on mobile 😌

1. Ignores and/or mistrusts WOC •centers their feminism around white women(prioritizes them) •puts animals before WOC and POC in general •only follows/reblogs other white women •uses WOC for their own gain

2. Accuses POC for being racist against white people(reverse racism, just doesn’t outright call it that) •claims WOC are racist against white women •claims WOC don’t care about white women for making posts about specific WOC issues •claims WOC exude more misogyny than white women against white women •derails a post about WOC to say,“all women not just WOC”

3. Defends cultural appropriation/ doesn’t see the harm/ just doesn’t care

4. Against intersectional feminism •claims intersectional feminism hasn’t helped WOC •claims intersectional feminism is only about males •claims it should be abolished

5. Claiming anything said in a different language is misogynist without google translating what was said first •(reminds of white people who don’t allow poc to speak any language besides English in their restaurants/ place of business.)

6. Uses the term “racefem”

7. Reblogs from obviously blatant racist, neo nazis, white nationalists without criticism •unsourced info •racist undertones go unquestioned •chooses to let the op slide for their support of white supremacy for whatever reason8. Claims men of color are more violent/sexist/misogynist than white men •claims MOC are the majority of rapists •claims MOC only or mainly rape/abuse white women •says things like,“we don’t talk about Muslims or MOC in general because we don’t want to be accused of racism”.

9. Posts or reblogs something low key racist or is accused of racism then all of a sudden starts reblogging “Black Lives Matter” type of posts or anything POC related to cover up the previous racism

- constantly expecting woc to defend them from racism accusations from libfems while being blatantly racist themselves.

- trying to “educate” woc on the oppression we face in our own individual cultures as if we don’t know already and have a lot more nuance then they ever will.

- dragging woc for no gotdamn reason but staying silent when their mutuals are reblogging from literal white supremacists (yes I’m talking about catgate)

trans women only face misogyny if they pass, and even then it’s misdirected. this isn’t to say they aren’t oppressed, they obviously face transphobia/gncphobia for being gnc males but the misogyny they face is conditional and misdirected.

no matter how many years a trans man is into his transition he is still susceptible to misogyny. his transition status will never change this.

#KINKISNOTQUEER

UPDATE: I had to remove all the links on this post as it won’t get listed in the search results otherwise

So HuffPo nixed their “Gay Voices” page in January and replaced it with a seemingly much more inclusive “Queer Voices” page. Unfortunately, the Executive Editor Noah Michelson decided that he wanted to abuse his position for his own disgusting ends. 

On March 21st he posts an article in the Queer Voices page as such

Of course, the idea that diaper fetishists are queer didn’t exactly go over well with LGBTQ people, who tweeted their anger at the official twitter, @huffpostqueer. Michelson, seemingly in complete control of the Queer Voices social media pages, began offering increasingly absurd justifications for his actions as well as retweeting from his personal account repeatedly.

Of course, not content with merely redefining Queer as anything “non-normative” when it comes to sex and sexuality, Michelson also saw it fit to post an old article from Jillian Keenan.

This article is of course hugely homophobic, redefining the experience of homosexuality as being purely an act of sex (while also throwing in some classic lesbophobia). Being gay or bisexual being something that is carried with you outside the bedroom everywhere you go doesn’t seem to register with Keenan or Michelson, as well as seemingly implying that LGB asexual people, or any LGB person who still has their virginity, cannot be LGB because they do not engage in sexual acts.

Of course, people had more issues with this line of reasoning than just the abysmal broadening of “Queer” to include any cishet individual who doesn’t do it in the missionary position. The language used reminded many of the attempts by NAMBLA and other pedophile groups to have pedophilia considered an acceptable sexual orientation.

They may try to backpedal on that issue, but it is unquestionable that Michelson’s actions pave the way for hopeful child rapists to “fight for their rights” under the Queer label.

A clarification was posted last night that contradicted itself hard by essentially stating “kinksters aren’t necessarily queer, but kinksters are queer”

Shining beacons of logic, surely.

Now to what you can do to put a stop to this garbage

There’s no point tweeting to @huffpostqueer because Michelson holds all the keys to the kingdom. He’s decided this is how it is going to be and our protesting isn’t going to disuade him. Instead, consider tweeting to these accounts and consider using the hashtag #KinkIsNotQueer

@huffingtonpost​ 

@ariannahuff - This is HuffPo’s Founder and Editor-in-Chief

@katepalms​ 

@katienelson 

Also consider emailing these emails with “Queer Voices” somewhere in the subject line, asking fetish material to be moved and Michelson removed from his position.

[email protected] - Editor-in-Chief’s active email

[email protected]

[email protected]

BTW, if you haven’t already, read this book. It’s all about the “mannosphere” (incels, pickup artists, MGTOW, etc.). The audiobook narration is also good if you prefer audiobooks.

Book description:

Imagine a world in which a vast network of incels and other misogynists are able to operate, virtually undetected. These extremists commit deliberate terrorist acts against women. Vulnerable teenage boys are groomed and radicalised.

You don't have to imagine that world. You already live in it. Perhaps you didn’t know, because we don’t like to talk about it. But it’s time we start.

In this urgent and groundbreaking book, Laura Bates, bestselling author and founder of The Everyday Sexism Project, goes undercover to expose vast misogynist networks and communities. It’s a deep dive into the worldwide extremism nobody talks about.

Interviews with former members of these groups and the people fighting against them gives unique insights on how this movement operates. Ideas are spread from the darkest corners of the internet – via trolls, media and celebrities – to schools, workplaces and the corridors of power, becoming a part of our collective consciousness.