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do not read the article titled "dump your puppygirl", if you're in a bad mental state, are mentally ill, like anxiety, depression, fear of abandonment, prone to spiraling etc.

Meanwhile, Testosterone:

Black trans women aren’t monolithic; there are black trans women who are super badass and high femme but there are also black trans women who are butch, who are punk, who are a nerdy girl who hasn’t gone outside in weeks just like how white trans women are.

Ever wonder why trans memes only ever feature white girls? And rarely feature black girls? I certainly know a few black trans women who would love memes for them. It doesn’t need to be about the black experience to be for black trans women. You can have your little puppygirl memes with a black girl, they don’t need to be consigned to memes about natural hair or locs or racism or rap music.

Black people exist beyond the confines of anti-racist talking points. Black trans women exist beyond the confines of transfeminist talking points. If you don’t personally know any black trans women, analyze why that might be; are you making your presence a safe and comfortable place to rest for black trans women that you KNOW face tons of hardship? Or do you not care about actually giving them a safe harbor in your company and instead only care to use them as a cudgel in arguments.

And yes, if you call yourself a misandrist you are not only unsafe for trans women, you're unsafe for ANY trans person. Yes this includes trans men. Yes this still applies if you're also trans.

Making fun of a group of people that are privileged over you is one thing, but wishing non-cartoonish violence and death on them ("they should fall off a cliff" vs. "they should be wiped out"), wishing sexual violence on them, dehumanising them, claiming that they're less capable of creating art or living meaningful lives, saying that their relationships are inherently shallow and fake - these things are fucked up. I understand venting and saying extreme things when in pain, but when you find yourself regularly posting about wanting certain people tortured and killed, you need to examine that.

specific examples include but are not limited to

why is an evil timeline character design disabled? (why do the heroes go through equally punishing battles and never lose an arm, a leg, an eye?)

why are the futuristic scifi terrorists uniformly darker skinned? (why are the heroes so much lighter?)

why is the greedy boss fat? (why are the heroes skinny?)

why is the criminal mastermind heavily scarred? (why is the brooding, traumatized hero unscathed?)

why is the predatory creep a bearded person in a dress and makeup? (why are none of the heroes trans women?)

who taught you that this is how things are?

A group of trans women protesting outside Scottish parliament to condemn the UK Supreme Court’s bioessentialist ruling on sex, and the response of the Scottish government. All are wearing black pants, black tape across their mouths or a black KN95, and their right arms are painted red as "a mark of solidarity with anti-fascist feminists across Europe." | May 17th, 2025

“This ruling, and the subsequent EHRC guidance aims to segregate trans people from safe spaces that they have for used for decades without issue. We are demanding that the Scottish government stand up for its trans citizens by fighting this ruling and appealing to the European Court of Human Rights.”

One of the demonstrators, Sugar, described the protests as "a public act of grief, resistance and solidarity to highlight the hypocrisy of the ruling. If the Supreme Court can see these woman legally as men, then they’ll have zero issue with them going tops off.”

“If you don’t like being treated like a traitor or a predator, you shouldn't have transitioned” is victim blaming and transphobia.

“If you can’t handle the bigotry that comes with being transgender, you must not be a real man” is victim blaming and transphobia.

"I've decided that I have it worse than you and that the pain you feel isn't real or important, so just suck it up and get over yourself" is victim blaming and transphobia.

Bigotry against trans men is just as real and just as wrong as bigotry against any other marginalized person. Being a man doesn't mean that you won't ever be hurt when people refuse to treat you with basic human decency. It doesn't mean that you'll never need help and support. It definitely doesn't mean that you deserve other people's hatred.

It started with the comment "lets not pretend like cis men are discriminated against", in the assumption that I was a trans man. I know that they assumed this because when I told them that it was "brave" to post this under the post of a cis intersex man, they became very upset and asked why I, as a cis man, was posting about the experiences of trans men.

I proceeded to tell them that I am talking about these experiences, because I have had the same or very similar experiences due to being intersex.

At that point they decided to tell me, that I was not actually cis then, but trans, and that I just didn't understand my own identity.

I had told them multiple times at that point, that I originally had been AMAB, and only reassigned AFAB to enable my IGM. This user was pretty much saying: trans means transitioning away from your AGAB, you have trans man experiences, so you are a trans man, so the doctors were actually right to reassign you AFAB. They were at this point agreeing with my abusers just because my experiences did not match their expectation of what experiences a cis man can have.

And that is the danger of TME/TMA and why it will never have any validity in my eyes. You are assuming the amount and type of oppression a person experiences based on their AGAB. And if that doesn't match up in your eyes, you assume that a) they are lying or b) that they are to stupid to understand their own identity.

They also half way implied that I no longer identified as trans because I was transphobic and not because I learned about circumstances of my birth and lifelong medical treatment that had been maliciously hidden from me.