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thinking about pregnancy it's kinda crazy how as a girl and woman you're actually not taught how to be pregnant or what to do or anything. it's like there is all this pressure to get pregnant, but everyone waits for you to actually get pregnant to pass over the tome of knowledge to you. and I know like cynical women, whom I love, will tell you it's to not deter women by keeping the unsavory details from them. And sure, maybe some of that. but even basic shit is obfuscated by euphemism. when you find out you're pregnant it alluded to that you should "go to your doctor." okay but that's actually an obstetrician, who don't typically see women until they're actually pregnant. I didn't fully understand this until a few years ago when I looked up myself, because of considering pregnancy. It's like culturally we're still stuck in this modesty mindset of pregnancy. This is something to discuss quietly with your mother once you've actually fallen, dearie. You will learn as you go by trusting your big brain doctor and listening to the grown women in your life kind of guess with you based on all the cockamamie ideas they've pick up along the way. It's all natural so why should you wonder now about calories and food scheduling and sleep goals when you're not even pregnant even if, uhhh, the way you're living now that might be huge adjustment. idk I've just been thinking about it a lot, that even though it works out fine for most it seems like this old school mindset is pervasive in this passively insidious way. am I making sense? women should be the experts in this topic but most women are mildly underinformed at best.

we read a book in one of my classes where they described the late victorian mindset around birth control and pregnancy/sex. drs would purposefully obfuscate how pregnancy occured to their female patients, like to the point of women directly asking/begging how it happened so they could avoid it and the drs refusing to tell them. this is despite the science of how it occurred being mostly understood by then, and purely a reflection of victorian perspectives on the immorality of sex or even technical discussion of it between men and women. they certainly werent trying to help them empower themselves. while obviously now all anyone talks about is sex, i absolutely agree that pregnancy maintains this strange air of mysticism surrounding it, and i believe it traces back to that victorian mindset of tension between the sanctity and impropriety of pregnancy. i believe the book was devices and desires: a history of contraceptives in america by andrea tone if anyones interested

its always back to the drawing board

literally everyone loves heated rivalry until lena dunham makes a gay porn joke at taylor swift's wedding

anthony fantano acting like an arbiter of culture is so funny because the biggest impact he has had on my life was that one comment on his fetch the bolt cutters review calling him a misogynist