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Here’s a transitioning starter pack for all my trans folk out there! Happy pride month!

Transfeminine resources:

Presentation:

Tucking

Chest area

Voice

Broad shoulders tips

Hair removal

Feminine walk

Curves

Waist training

Growing out your hair

Clothing

Makeup

Passing

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Estrogen & anti-androgens/testosterone blockers FAQ

The types of surgery available

Surgery: A guide for transfeminine people

Pumping (Silicone injections)

Facial Feminization Options

Breast Augmentation

Other:

Representation

Transfeminine period dysphoria

Yes, Transfeminine People Can Get Period Symptoms

Slipping into masculinity

Women’s restroom etiquette

Transfeminine people can breastfeed

Having sex or masturbating

Transmasculine resources:

Presentation:

Binding FAQ

Clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

If you can’t start T

Lowering your voice

Packing and standing to pee

Passing as male

Not shaving legs

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Testosterone FAQ

Top surgery

Facial masculinization surgery

Body masculinization surgery

Hysterectomy and oophorectomy

Bottom surgery (genital surgery)

Other:

Periods and related things

Help! I need to see a gyno

Pumping

Masturbation and sex

Using the men’s bathroom

Hudson’s FTM Guide

Height dysphoria

Hip dysphoria

More resources:

What gender am I? A brief intro to questioning

Trans 101 for trans people

What is the transgender umbrella?

How do I choose a name?

How do I come out at work/school or to family/friends?

Dysphoria info and tips page

Mental health coping page

Being trans in school

Non-binary resources

Resources to send allies/friends

A page to send to parents/guardians

Convincing someone to respect name/pronouns 

Here is how to get hormones in the US

Here is how to get hormones in the UK

The NHS’s Guide For Young Trans People in England

Here’s a US resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker 

Here is a UK resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

What are the WPATH-SOC guidelines?

How to save money

How to buy a trans-related item online without parents knowing

I have to go swimming, what do I wear/do?

Trying to sleep when you have dysphoria

Airposts and traveling by plane

Gender neutral bathrooms

Getting insurance to cover your transition

Does transitioning help mental health?

Trans teen’s experiences with inpatient hospitalization

Trans identity isn’t a mental disorder

Vaping prevalence

Being religious and LGBT

Transgender Lives: Your Stories (to see trans adults) 

Gender neutral pronouns in Spanish

Gender Variance Around the World Over Time

A map of gender-diverse cultures

American LGBT history by the National Parks Service

Crisis help: Suicide and crisis hotlines

-I want to pass all the time. When I’m in public I hope to goddess I will pass, that someone will call me sir, that I will go to the bathroom and some woman will look twice at the bathroom label

-I don’t want women to be afraid of me in the bathroom or anywhere at all

-I low key don’t want women to see me as a man because of that. Because I want them to see me as a dude but not a real dude I guess because real men are fucking scary and rapey and all that

-I don’t know what I want

-I crave the passing and the recognition as a dude, but also feel insulted when people insult me by saying I’m essentially a man because of what I look like. Both of these feelings exist at the same time, tumbling over each other.

-someone could joke ahahaaybe you should go into the brothers/nephew group photo, clearly making a jab and that will piss me off but the craving and delight at the possibility of actually being in the photo, being a guy is strong

-I want to have a deeper voice, but that is the only thing that allows me to let women know in the bathroom that I am one of them and that I’m not a threat. This makes me hesitant but not enough to not want a deep voice and T

-I say this and want this so much but trying to truly imagine myself with a deep voice and a changed body is scary. I can’t control how my voice and body will change. What if I don’t like it?

-what if my family notice and question me?

-what excuse will I make up?? What could I possibly convince them of that isn’t the truth?

-maybe I should wait until I move out? No! I can’t do that. I’m an adult already and by the time I finish uni and get a job and save up enough money to buy or build a house too long will have passed

- will I even be able to go through uni and finish it while having these debilitating waves of dysphoria wash over me every few weeks?!?

-what if my gf isn’t attracted to me anymore?

What if she’s pretending to be supportive but she’s actually really fucking scared and going through shit and hesitant and trying really hard to get through my shit

-what if my voice changes and face changes and they both leave me unrecognisable? I won’t be the same

-what if my mind changes and my personality is just fucked up? I need to still be me after all this

-ok that last one might be a little dramatic but I can’t confirm that it won’t happen. Others have talked about it happening and I’m scared