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⚠️(dubcon hypnosis)

"Eww y'all are disgusting!" "Hand me the bleach" "Y'all are degenerates" "How do people like this?" "This is wrong." Motherfucker, you come into MY HOUSE uninvited while the door was locked, and then have the audacity to insult MY FURNITURE?

When you're talking about the design of the boat, you say "it".

When the boat is still being built, your say "it".

When the boat is nearing completion, you can say "it" or "she".

When the boat is floating in the water you probably say "she", unless there is still a lot of work to be done (e.g. no engine yet) then you say "it".

When the boat is officially launched and operating, you say "she". If you continue to say "it" at this point you are not incorrect but suspiciously untraditional. You are not playing the game.

If you are referring to a boat you don't really know anything about you may say "it" ("there's a big boat, it's coming this way"). But if you know its name, it's probably "she" ("there's the Waverley, she's on her way to Greenock").

If you are talking about boats in general, you say "it" ("when a boat is hit by a wave it heels over")

If you speak about a boat in complimentary terms, it's "she" ("she's a grand boat"). If you are being disparaging it may be it, but not necessarily ("it's as ugly as sin", "she's a grotty old tub").

If she has a boy's name, she's still she. "Boy James", "King Edward", "Sir David Attenborough"? The pronoun is she.

If it's a dumb barge (no engine), you say it. But if it's a rowing boat (no engine), you say she.

a weird question: not sure how to phrase this, but if I have a sadist partner, how do I measure when they’re going overboard? I’m not a masochist in general, so it’s hard for me to see where’s the line between simply pleasuring yourself and harming your close one is drawn. I want us both to enjoy the experience as much as possible, so how can we make that work? sorry if it doesn’t make sense.

thanks again!

Hi! You're very welcome, I enjoy it so much and I'm glad it's helping!! <3

Interesting question! So, it sounds like you need to figure out where your boundaries are. This shouldn't be focused on having a sadist partner or whatever, you need to decide what you are okay with with your body.

This is something that can differ depending on who you're with, or the time, or how you feel! But I can't draw a line for you of where "overboard" is because that's what you have to do. There is no universal line; its your body, you have to decide where the lines are.

There is also not a line between pleasuring yourself and hurting someone else. Someone can hurt someone and enjoy themselves. Sometimes that is the point! You just have to decide whether that's okay and if so in what scenarios.

That said, I can help a little, I think. Let me start with a very simple question; you don't like pain! Have you considered genuinely whether you actually want to be doing scenes involving sadism? Because that's not something you have to participate in just because your partner likes it.

You can say 'no, can we try something else', you can say 'that's not for me'. You don't owe your partner that, it's perfectly fair to say no even if you're just uninterested. If your partner doesn't respect that or isn't kind in response, well, it doesn't sound like they would've been safe to be doing pain play with in the first place.

If you do want to try something like that, make sure you've done some research first! Consider different types of pain play, what sort of things are immediate "no's" for you. You could even start with something that seems outrageously simple, like "no breaking bones", or "nothing that leaves marks", or "no hitting".

Hard no's like that are things you are not even considering. You simply do not want to do them. You can change your mind later or think about them later but right now, it's just a no. Anyone who questions your hard no's is not respecting your consent, period, so keep that in mind.

Also, see what type of sadism your partner is even interested in! Listen to their hard no's as well. Discuss if they have any tools or toys they prefer (and if they do, check them out! You could even feel out the sensations of them first!), what type of fantasies they have.

You might not be interested in masochism but you might still find some of the things they talk about interesting or like something you'd try; if that's the case, hash it out further! Make sure they know what not to do, figure out a safeword, consider trying some small scenes to start and/or playing around with their tools/toys if they have any outside of scenes just to get used to them.

Make sure you're both on the same page and most of all, if you find it really uncomfortable/just don't enjoy it, whatever, say stop/your safeword.

Your body is your own, Anon. You get to decide what's overboard. It could be as simple as slapping your ass and you don't like it. If you say no, that's overboard. And if you can't figure out some basic, hard lines for yourself, wait and look more into it and/or say no or "I need time to think" for the moment.

Those hard lines are for protecting yourself and even your partner(s), they're a necessity for safe play and if you don't have them, y'all are in free fall to violating consent and likely won't enjoy yourselves.

Love you

Palestinian students from the Democratic Front for the Liberation of Palestine (DFLP) burn israeli and U.S. flags, at An-Najah university in the West Bank city of Nablus October 11, 2002.