Flightbound.

Understanding the difference between "learned helplessness" (a form of trauma/disability inflicted when outcomes are disconnected from actions) and "weaponised incompetence" (intentionally doing things badly having decided that you don't want to be asked to do them) is all very well but it's not gonna stop ableists from using the latter to DARVO disabled partners.

is that thing really true of all humans or have you just forgotten about disabled people

Anxiety is sort of like when you're walking around in Skyrim and the fight music starts playing out of nowhere and you have no idea why but now you're on edge except that feeling is constantly

the best analogy imo for ocd is mosquito bite. its so itchy its driving you crazy and you know scratching it will make it itch so much worse later but you need it to stop right now and scratching it feels so good and even when you dont want to scratch it and you feel like you could handle the itch you cant even stop your hand from scratching the second you stop focusing on not scratching. except ☝️ what if it was inside your brain and instead of an itch it was terrifying overwhelming distress

reminder to all disabled people that you’re allowed to tell people “i can’t do that” about stuff you can ‘technically’ do but which harms you or requires a period of recovery or preparatory rest etc. you don’t have to explain the complex nuances of your condition to anybody who demands it. i’ve found it’s honestly better to give the least amount of info about your symptoms unless you trust a person a lot. you hold the power over your health information. you choose whether or not to share the details of your condition with people who might not understand.

mobility aids and glasses should be free for everyone

people need those to live

MEDICATION SHOULD ALSO BE FREE ACTUALLY. PEOPLE ALSO NEED THAT TO LIVE

ok i get the sentiment from people in the notes and i do agree with it but this is specifically a disability post

you have to understand that my body does not work by default. “ohhh so many medications means so many chemicals inside you. i could never” well if i did not take these things i would not be able to function. i respect and have made peace with the chemical. Get out of my face

you know what, "because i'm in pain" is a good enough reason as any. why do you want to take meds? in pain. why do you wanna cancel? in pain. why didn't you want to talk? in pain. yeah don't be a jerk to everyone you meet and expect them to welcome that. but why were you being a jerk? in pain. it's a reasonable explanation. being in pain should be enough of an explanation. it should be considered an immediate problem that we try to fix as soon as possible instead of expecting the vast majority of people alive to just get on with it.

can this apply to emotional pain too

yeah like. pain is pain

people with medical issues are not “putting a strain on the medical system”. that’s what the medical system is for. yes this includes people with substance use related medical issues and other people considered “undeserving” of help

“putting a strain on the medical system” = politicians

When I suggest people go to the doctor for something a lot of them seem to assume I don’t know what it’s like to have doctors that don’t listen to you. Yeah I do actually. I still think you should go to the doctor.

I genuinely think abled people don’t understand how disability works. it’s not a “I don’t feel like working so I’m going on disability” because getting disability is one of the most challenging aspects of being chronically ill and disabled. you have to prove you’re sick, you’re fucked if you’re young or if you haven’t “worked enough hours” it doesn’t matter how much you “prove” you’re disabled, 9x out of 10x, you’ll be denied. you could be trying to get disability up to 5 years. you’ll be denied for months, years, and how are you going to earn any money if you’re not working? you can get an attorney but once you get your disability and that’s a strong if, you’ll owe them a shit ton for fees. what’s the bitter pill you have to swallow? disability money usually isnt that much. it’s not enough to survive. how are you going to afford your treatments, meds, shit that you need to survive and function IF YOU ARENT GETTING PAID??????! it’s really not this “hey they don’t want to work so they’re going on disability” it’s a we’ve lost the ability to work, we can’t function, working is too taxing on our bodies physically and mentally. trying to get disability feels like a last resort for me. oh, I’m struggling so much that I can’t even sit down and type? my hands are hurting that much? am I really in that much pain?disability, it’s not some holiday you take. getting disability is not the easy task ableists think it is

what is it with abled people and giving advice when they learn you're disabled? like i've been this way for a very very long time do you really think i haven't already tried the first thing you come up with

i know that sunscreen is important. the sun is a deadly laser etc. etc. but like if you're disabled and cannot put sunscreen on or have others put it on you then there has to be some better advice other than "suck it up and put it on anyway" or "use a spray!" my best advice is to just cover as much skin as possible + use an umbrella or parasol if possible. a loose head scarf also works

I think at bare minimum all medical professionals need to make sure they are treating patients with more kindness and respect than grifters. if you go to a doctor and they treat you like shit, humiliate you, and send you home without any information on your body or access to treatment, then health-grifters' offers will start to feel more tempting by simply giving the most basic performance of taking you seriously and caring about your well-being. grifters should be condemned for manipulating and exploiting sick people, and doctors also play a role in whether grifts thrive or are successfully identified and rejected. genuine baseline human respect, and beginning a relationship with a patient by earning (rather than demanding) trust, goes a long way.