FightingTheMelody

A messy list is an agreement or boundary list you have of who you don't want partners to date or you won't date. To clarify it's not about control (like, "don't date Jessica because I don't like her"), but rather to eliminate potential conflict. I would be uncomfortable if my partner dated my sister, or a coworker, or my best friend because that dynamic would impact my life and relationship in a negative way. My partner didn't say I couldn't date the girl he was saying, but they if made him uncomfortable and he doesn't like that conflict that can come with two of his partners are dating.

We broke up, remained friends. My hubby started dating the same girl I'd been interested in. I asked him the same thing and he said go for it - but the agreement was to keep our relationships with her separate/parallel. Each relationship deserved its own space to evolve on its own. There was definitely quite a bit of jealousy and envy floating around in that situation. I'd talk about him, she'd feel envious, he'd talk about her, I'd make comparisons I didn't want to. We worked through them, but when those relationships naturally came to end we decided not to date each other's partners ever again.

Meanwhile I did have a long relationship with my other partners gf for a while. But he's a comet (isn't around often) so it wasn't like we were so entangled with each other that there was any crossover.

Every angel uses the name Deanna. Deanna Winchester, the righteous man. Alastair taunts him with with it. Deanna, daddy’s little girl. Cas is the only angel to call him Dean. He doesn’t understand why names have a gender, but respects Dean’s wish.

John uses “Deanna” when he is mad at Dean. At that, Dean shuts down, and Sam tries his best to comfort him. Sam understands how much the name means to him. Usually, Dean doesn’t let anyone degrade him using that name, doesn’t allow people to call him names and snicker. With John, he goes quiet, obedient. Sam hates to see him so defeated.

Dean has a complicated relationship with his name. It’s girly, it’s embarrassing, but it is also one of the only things he has left of his mother. Everyone seems to think it’s a weakness to exploit, a psychological weapon to use against him. He doesn’t know what to make of it.

When Mary comes back, he lets her call him Deanna. From her mouth, it doesn’t sound malicious at all. Instead, it’s full of love, rememberance for her own mother she lost, and for the new life she created. To her, Deanna is not a girl’s or boy’s name, it’s just a name — the name of her son.

I miss Supernatural

I should rewatch Supernatural

Supernatural was such a good show

lesbian

gay

bisexual

transgender

queer

pansexual

demisexual

ace

hopeless romantics

cis-men

cis-women

non binary folks

the whole spectrum etc…