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Even if you try to de emphasize it in your theory and explicitly reject the identity policing side of discourse.

The detectives who “investigated” the crime had over 500 complaints lodged against them. The lead detective had a complaint against him for using homophobic slurs against a Black man.

I think the CPD wanted to close this case and they didn’t want Chicago to be seen as a city where something like this could happen.

There were TWO witnesses that saw the white men that attacked Jussie. One witness was brought in for a line up in which all pictures were of Black men.

if you are alloromantic, it is important for you to examine how you interact with aromantics, the stigma you place upon them, the way you are taught to see them, and how you view their identity. i do not care what your sexual orientation is, including if you're asexual, this process is important.

Asexuality is something I feel so deeply and it's impacted my life in huge ways (often negative), and I need media that captures those huge feelings ya know? I read an article or smth recently where it was singing praises about some character that's asexual but their orientation isn't their whole identity or the main focus, and that's great! But for many people it is a huge deal! And I just feel like that's not all that groundbreaking for an asexual character, when thats also every asexual character ever, just one small little sidenote that won't be explored much.

And assuming its chill for me to talk about my own personal hatred of sex...as a sex repulsed ace whos experienced SA, sex is not a neutral thing to me. To me, sex is horrifying, not just "ew gross", but something I can never experience safely. And I cant stop thinking about a horror story that explores those feelings of being a sex repulsed suevivor in such a sexualized world. Experiences of someone that where others see a beautiful or desirable physical act, they see body horror. What others see as the ultimate declaration of trust and intimacy, they can only feel a deep violation.

Sex positivity, as a movement, has several structural problems that make it ill-equipped to represent the needs of non-favorable asexuals or people who simply do not want to be sexual for whatever reason. Starting with the name, which can be and is interpreted in practice as mandating positive feelings about sex and which places itself in opposition to any other emotion on the subject. Yes, I know that isn't the party line. It still gets read that way because that is how human brains fucking work.

The ideology of sex positivity positions those who do not want to be sexual as necessarily either in service to sex or enemies of it. Either you're a cheerleader for others' sex lives or you're a Republican senator. I don't want to be either, I just want to live, and the Republican senators are trying to legislate what I do with my body too.

Being attracted to any kind of body is normal. Fat bodies. Trans bodies. Disabled bodies. All normal. Being extra attracted to a specific kind of body is normal too. Totally normal to have a type.

Not unlearning the societal stigma attached to those kinds of bodies, the people who inhabit those bodies, and the people who fuck them, to the point where you do any of the following:

Only want to date/fuck the person in secret.

Reduce the person to the feature that you desire and ignore the rest of who they are as a person.

Expect the person to be a walking porn fantasy instead of a real person with their own sexual preferences and boundaries.

Would no longer love the person if the stigmatized aspect of their body changed.

Consider yourself superior to the person, think the person should be 'grateful' that you love their body, etc.

See the person as a temporary adventure while planning to eventually settle down with someone whose body isn't stigmatized.

Is bad and harmful and you shouldn't be dating anyone until you've worked on your shit, because this makes you a very terrible partner. This doesn't mean you are a bad person with bad-fetishist-desires who can only desire people badly, it means you need to unlearn societal stigma so you can be a better partner to the people you desire.

(and I’m not calling that drawing sexual, but that is the implication he was making in that interview)

And idk if it sounds weird to you but it’s such a standard attitude in France. Reactionary celebrities writing seething editorials about their right to be perverts amount in the hundreds. Reactionary "sex-positivity" is not hard to come by, you just have to turn on any radio station or TV channel owned by far-right billionaires (which is a lot of channels).

Anyways where I’m getting at with this is that no amount of sex(ualization) is a proxy for progressivism.

There is a tendency in the asexual community to assume that if sex is made to be less of a taboo, everyone will automatically become more normal about us. That those are the same fight.

And I can’t stress this enough: they are NOT he same fight, not inherently. They are not opposed, just separate. You need to be vocal about ace issues explicitly because they won’t solve themselves automatically if you solve "allo issues" first. This will literally never happen.

I know this because I have a tumblr account.

June is my month, and to celebrate it I'm making it all about me.

Unapologetically

I am going to insert myself in every discussion I judge fit.

This is a no disclaimer no caveat space.