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The 10 Characteristics of Those Who Grew Up With Childhood Emotional Neglect

Feelings of emptiness

Counter-dependence

Lack of self-knowledge

Poor compassion for self (probably plenty for others)

A tendency toward guilt and shame

Self-directed anger and self-blame

A deep sense of being flawed, or different from everyone else

Struggles with self-care

Struggles with self-discipline

Difficulties identifying, naming, and understanding how emotions work in oneself and others

How Did You Get This Way?

So you grew up with parents who ignored your feelings. You realized very young that your emotions were not welcome in your childhood home. How did you cope? Your young brain knew just what to do. It built a wall to block off your feelings. That way you could ignore and squelch them. That way your anger, hurt, sadness or need would not bother your parents or yourself.

Now an adult, you are living with your feelings on the other side of that wall. They are blocked off, and you can sense it. Somewhere deep down you can feel that something is not right. Something is missing. This makes you feel empty, different from other people, and somehow, deeply flawed.

Having gone to your parents for emotional support and validation as a child, you too often walked away painfully empty-handed and alone. So now it’s hard for you to ask anyone for anything, and you are afraid to expect support and help from anyone.

Since you grew up with little awareness of emotions, you are now uncomfortable any time strong feelings arise in yourself or anyone else. You do your best to avoid feelings altogether, perhaps even positive ones.

Feeling flawed, empty and alone and out of touch with your feelings, it’s hard to feel you belong anywhere. It’s hard to know what you want, feel or need. It’s hard to believe that it matters. It’s hard to feel that you matter.

As you read the 22 statements below, please think about whether you say, or feel, them often. If so, do not be alarmed or discouraged. There are answers and solutions to this problem!

Childhood Emotional Neglect is not a one-way street to nowhere. In fact, it is just the opposite. You can reverse it from the inside, and it will change your view of yourself and your life forever.

20 Things People With Childhood Emotional Neglect Often Say

I don’t want to intrude.

I don’t need any help.

Whatever you want is fine with me.

I don’t have anything to say.

I don’t feel anything.

I’m sorry.

I’m lazy

What’s the point?

I don’t need anything.

It doesn’t matter to me.

I don’t need anyone.

It’s my fault.

I don’t know how I feel.

I can do this on my own.

I can handle it.

I’m not as smart/attractive/capable as other people.

I don’t fit in anywhere.

Why can’t you just be happy?

Just stop feeling that way.

shower. not a bath, a shower. use water as hot or cold as u like. u dont even need to wash. just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. sit on the floor if you gotta.

moisturize everything. use whatever lotion u like. unscented? dollar store lotion? fancy ass 48 hour lotion that makes u smell like a field of wildflowers? use whatever you want, and use it all over. 

put on clean, comfortable clothes. 

put on ur favorite underwear. cute black lacy panties? those ridiculous boxers u bought last christmas with candy cane hearts on the butt? put em on.

drink cold water. use ice. if u want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

clean something. doesn’t have to be anything big. organize one drawer of ur desk. wash five dirty dishes. do a load of laundry. scrub the bathroom sink. 

blast music. listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.

make food. don’t just grab a granola bar to munch. take the time and make food. even if it’s ramen. add something special to it, like a hard boiled egg or some veggies. prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something. 

make something. write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. even if you don’t think you’re good at it.

go outside. take a walk. sit in the grass. look at the clouds. smell flowers. put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin.

call someone. call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. talk to a stranger on the street. have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. if you can’t, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. even if you don’t say much, listen to them.

That's where you live.

In an explosion.

Also, we absolutely don't know what living is.

Sometimes atoms arranged in a certain way just get very haunted.

That's us.

When an explosion explodes hard enough, dust wakes up and thinks about itself.

yoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

FUCKIN YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

no BULLSHIT I KID YOU NOT! Look what I found while walking Home…..

OH MY GOD

OH MY F*CKIN GOD

THIS POST FUCKIN WORKS?!?!?! THIS IS PAST A COINCIDENCE NO WAY!??! NO FRIGGIN WAY!!! 

(guys this is an extra tip for manifesting your ideal body!)

✼　h e a l t h y – h a b i t s ✼

When trying to manifest something, attach a healthy habit to that, if you don't understand, here's some examples below !

↳ "every time I drink water, my waist shrinks"

↳ "whenever I drink tea, my legs get thinner"

↳ "when I drink water, my thigh gap gets bigger"

↳ "my nose becomes narrower every time I drink peppermint tea"

↳ "whenever I eat an apple, my skin becomes softer"

It's important that it's a healthy habit that you associate with whatever you want to manifest rather than a unhealthy habit (smoking, drinking alcohol etc.),

It's important that you actually convince yourself and believe that [drinking water] will [shrink your waist] or whatever it is you want because in manifestion, belief is key!

This is called the placebo effect, I'm sure most of you heard of it, but if you haven't, I'll just explain it by summarising a placebo experiment ; some time ago, in the hospital, one patient was given a real pill for wherever they needed, and the second patient was given a fake pill that looks, smells and feels exactly the same as the real pill except its made out of sugar, starch and some other thing(s). And during the experiment, the person with the fake pill didn't know their pill was fake, and after taking the pill, both of the patients said they felt a lot better, despite one of the pills being fake. There has also been scientific research done and proof has been show that placebo actually can cure some diseases, so pretty much, if you believe hard enough, it'll happen!

Once you actually believe it, just do whatever the healthy habit you came up with is, for example, I'm drinking water rn which is what I put as my healthy habit!

Reblog if you’re determined to lose 15-20lbs by Halloween.