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Hello Family! I am with you today to speak about some of the songs which I listen to when I am trying to manifest. I may suggest some *Some of these songs may fall into more than one category.* Feel free to add songs!

Love/Romance Magick:

Wonderful by Lianne La Havas

Serial Killer by Lana Del Rey

Lovefool by The Cardigans

Little Numbers by BOY

Love by Lana Del Rey

Romanitcise by Chelea

A Dream by Rachmaninoff - Sung by Dawn Upshaw

Morgen by Strauss - Sung by Barbara Bonney

Hey Now by London Grammar

Like I Can (Cover) by Jordan Smith

Golden Slumbers (cover) by Jennifer Hudson

Bittersweet by Ellie Goulding

Warm on a Cold Night by Honne

River Flows in You by Yiruma

L’heure Exquise by Hahn - Sung by Susan Graham

The Way I Am by Ingrid Michaelson

Giant Steps by John Coltrane

Red Arrow by Gem Club

Blue Skies by Ella Fitzgerald 

Long Time Ago by Trad/Copland - Sung by Nathan Gunn

Chi Il Bel Sogno from La Rondine by Puccini - Sung by Renee Fleming

Claire de Lune by Debussy - Performed by Xavier de Maistre

Che Gelida Manina from La Boheme by Puccini - performed by Vittorio Grigolo or Luciano Pavarotti 

Sex Magick:

Is It a Crime by Sade

I Put a Spell on You by Nina Simone

Teeth by Lady Gaga

All Night by Beyonce

Hey Now by London Grammar

Tear You Apart by She Wants Revenge

Hummingbird Heartbeat by Katy Perry

Pillowtalk by Zayn

Do What U Want by Lady Gaga

Off to the Races by Lana Del Rey

Money Magick:

Dog Days Are Over by Florence + The Machine

Feeling Good by Nina Simone

Coca Cola by Beth Hart

Digital Witness by St. Vincent

6 Inch by Beyonce

Money Honey by Lady Gaga

Beautiful, Dirty, Rich by Lady Gaga

National Anthem by Lana Del Rey

Million Dollar Man by Lana Del Rey

Luck Magick:

Tokyo by Lianne La Havas

Dog Days Are Over by Florence + The Machine

Feeling Good by Nina Simone

Primadonna by Marina and the Diamonds

Q.U.E.E.N. by Janelle Monae

Evergreen by Yebba

Right Place, Wrong Time by Dr. John

No Roots by Alice Merton

When the World Was at War We Kept Dancing by Lana Del Rey

Nagual by Trifolia 

Make Me Feel by Janelle Monae

Beauty:

La fille aux cheveux de lin by Debussy - perormed by Xavier de Maistre

Venus by Lady Gaga

L’heure Exquise by Hahn - sung by Susan Graham

Unstoppable by Lianne La Havas

Radio by Lana Del Rey

Bel Air by Lana Del Rey

Breaking my Heart by Lana Del Rey

Binding:

Paradise Circus by Massive Attack 

Work Song by Hozier

Summer Bummer by Lana Del Rey

In My Feelings by Lana Del Rey

Brother Sparrow by Agnes Obel

Wallflower by Agnes Obel

Avenue by Agnes Obel

Gold Dust Woman by Fleetwood Mac (good cover by Karen Elson)

Up in Flames by Ruelle

Body Electric by Lana Del Rey

Circle the Drain by Katy Perry

No Roots by Alice Merton

Hit Me Like a Man by The Pretty Reckless 

Backfire by Lana Del Rey

Goodnight Moon by Shivaree

Baneful Magick (Curses and such):

Paradise Circus by Massive Attack

Wallflower by Agnes Obel

Strange Fruit sung by Nina Simone

Sinnerman by Nina Simone

Seven Devils by Florence + The Machine

Power and Control by Marina and the Diamonds

Teen Idol by Marina and the Diamonds

Kill of the Night by Gin Wigmore

The Rake’s Song by The Decemberists

Humans by Sevdaliza 

No Rest for the Wicked by Lykke Li

Killing Moon by Roman Remains

Bones by Ms Mr

Limbs by Widdowspeak

Yubaba (Spirited Away Score) by Joe Hisaishi

The Raven by Alan Parsons Project

Neverland by Sisters of Mercy

Countdown by John Coltrane 

In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida by Iron Butterfuly

Bloodletting by Concrete Blonde

You Know that I’m No Good by Amy Winehouse

Power Gathering: 

Death Defying Acts by Angus & Julia Stone

Django Jane by Janelle Monae

The Curse by Agnes Obel

Superpower by Beyonce

Spectrum (Song and Album) by Florence + The Machine

Sinnerman by Nina Simone

Edge of Seventeen by Stevie Nicks

Four by Miles Davis

Twice by Little Dragon (Lianne La Havas also does a beautiful cover)

Sarajevo by Max Richter

Retrograde by James Blake

Personal Jesus by Depeche Mode

With You In My Head by UNKLE

Out Alive by Ke$ha

Ninth Gate: Vocalise performed by Diana Damrau

Sunrise by Yeasayer

Castle by Halsey

Breath of Life by Florence + the Machine

Healing:

Dreams by Fleetwood Mac

Who You Are sung by Jordan Smith

Stevie’s Dream by Janelle Monae

Hunger by Florence + the Machine

Life Goes On by Fergie

Wonderland by Haley Reinhart 

Twice by Little Dragon (Lianne La Havas also does a beautiful cover)

Alive by Sia

Unbreakable Smile by Tori Kelly

Arabesque No. 1 in E Major by Debussy - Performed by Xavier de Maistre

Im Here from the Color Purple 

Meditation: 

Death Defying Acts by Angus & Julia Stone

Icarus by White Hinterland 

Love Drought by Beyonce

Twice by Little Dragon (Lianne La Havas also does a beautiful cover)

Sarajevo by Max Richter

Cranes in the Sky by Solange 

So Much More Than This by Grace Vanderwaal

Arabesque No. 1 in E Major by Debussy

La fille aux cheveux de lin by Debussy

Protection:

Safe & Sound by Capital Cities

Florets by Grace VanderWaal

Sarajevo by Max Richter

Alive by Sia

Ständchen  D.957 by Schubert - Performed by Evgeny Kissin

C’est L’extase Langoureuse by Debussy - Sung By Elly Ameling

The Fire by Kina Grannis

The Bird by Duke - Sung by James Taylor

Arabesque No. 1 in E Majoy by Debussy - Performed by Xavier de Maistre

Confidence:

Fashion! (Artpop) by Lady Gaga

***Flawless by Beyonce

Bodak Yellow by Cardi B

Raining Men by The Water Girls

Sugar Pill by Kovacs

Q.U.E.E.N. by Janelle Monae

Oh No! by Marina and the Diamonds

Sisters Are Doin’ It For Themselves by Aretha Franklin

Land of Lola from Kinky Boots

Sex Is In the Heel from Kinky Boots

Screwed by Janelle Monae

I like that by Janelle Monae

Bad by Michael Jackson

Check it Out by Will.i.am & Nicki Minaj

Happiness/Just Good Vibes:

Blood (Album) by Lianne La Havas

Blue Skies by Ella Fitzgerald (or anything she sings)

Origami by Capital Cities

Pocket Full of Sunshine by Natasha Beddingfield

Rumors (Album) by Fleetwood Mac

Young Volcanoes by Fall Out Boy

Don’t You Worry ‘Bout a Thing (cover) by Tori Kelly

Seven Wonders by Fleetwood Mac

Happy by Pharrell 

Feel it Still by Portugal. The Man

Let’s Get Together by Beth Hart

Arabesque No. 1 in E Majoy by Debussy - Performed by Xavier de Maistre

Tightrope by Janelle Monae

I hope y’all find this useful! Feel Free to add songs! Also, email me at [email protected] for any questions, follow my YouTube @ Mojo Magick for some Magickal content, and Be Blessed! 

Love, 

text and layout by me

models:  K, @tardiscunttreasures, @camdamage​, @ropebaby​, @jewelryandfire​

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

I started this series in order to depict the start of a D/s relationship in a more realistic way than one typically finds in Porn videos, 50 Shades-esque novels, etc.  It’s slow going at times, but the Beginning series continues.  Here’s a little cheat sheet on the order of the story:

A First Meeting  (Part 1)

A Second Meeting  (Part 2)

The Task  (Part 3)

A Third Meeting  (Part 4)

The Box  (Part 5)

A Fourth Meeting  (Part 6)

A Morning Call  (Part 7)

The Definition  (Part 8)

A Picnic in the Park  (Part 9)

The First Card  (Part 10)

The Second Card  (Part 11)

The Date (Part 12)

A Simple Request (Part 13)

A Question  (Part 14)

The Smile Task (Part 15)

A Day of Rest (Part 16)

Sunnyside Up (Part 17)

Each piece of the story is tagged  “#beginning series”, so you can click the tag on this post to find them all.

I hope you are enjoying it as much as I am enjoying writing it!

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I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

This detailed list comes from The Pagan Cottage.

Baked Goods & Grains

Baking is a wonderful opportunity to create magick in your kitchen. Especially when kneading bread, you have a great chance to infuse your food with your magickal intentions. In fact, bread making itself is considered by many to be a sacred act and can be a ritual in itself.

With many baked goods, such as breads, muffins, pies, cakes, or pastries, you can change the energies of your food by changing flavors or fillings. Several examples are given below, but the possibilities are endless! With things you can form into different shapes, such as cookies, pancakes or breads, you can further strengthen your intentions by forming them into a shape or symbol of what you are looking to achieve.

Barley ~ fertility, grounding, healing, love, lust, pain control, prosperity, protection Bread ~ (in general) kinship, sustenance Dill ~ bread love Egg ~ bread fertility Garlic bread ~ protection Pita bread ~ spirituality Seven-grain bread ~ prosperity Twisted bread ~ protection Brownies ~ love Buckwheat~ grounding, prosperity, protection Cake ~ (in general) celebrations, hospitality; also varies by flavor Birthday Cake ~ prosperity Wedding Cake ~ fertility, love, luck Cookies ~ (in general) nurturing, love Sugar Cookies ~ shape to determine goals Crackers ~ grounding Gingerbread ~ love, prosperity Corn ~ cycles, eternity, luck, protection, spirituality Lentil~ peace Millet~ prosperity Noodles ~ long life Oat ~ grounding, prosperity Pancake ~  luck; can be made from different ingredients or in different shapes for different goals Pie ~ (round–in general) spirituality (square–in general) prosperity Apple pie ~ healing, love, peace Apricot pie ~ peace Banana ~ cream pie prosperity Blackberry pie ~ lust, prosperity Custard pie ~ spirituality Chocolate cream pie ~ love, prosperity Coconut cream pie ~ spirituality Cherry pie ~ love Key lime pie ~ love, purification Lemon pie ~ love, purification Mince pie ~ luck, prosperity Peach pie ~ happiness, healing, love, wisdom Pecan pie ~ prosperity Pineapple pie ~ healing, love, prosperity, protection Pumpkin pie ~ healing, prosperity Raspberry pie ~ happiness, love, protection Rhubarb pie  ~love, protection Strawberry pie ~ love Pretzel ~ protection Rice ~ fertility, lust, prosperity, protection Rye ~ fertility, love Tortilla ~ protection, spirituality Waffles~  friendship Wheat ~ fertility, grounding, prosperity

Fruits

Apple ~ element of earth, happiness, healing, love, peace, success Apricot ~ love, lust, peace Avocado ~ beauty, love, lust Banana ~ fertility, love, luck, potency, prosperity, spirituality Blackberry ~  healing, lust, prosperity, protection Blueberry ~ peace, protection Cherry ~  female sexuality, happiness, love Cranberry ~ protection Date ~ spirituality, strength Fig ~ lust, prosperity, strength Grape ~ dreams, fertility, mental powers, prosperity Grapefruit ~ cleansing & purification, healing Guava ~ love, purification, relieving sorrow Kumquat ~ luck, prosperity Lemon ~ faithfulness, friendship, happiness, longevity, love, marriage Lime ~ cleansing & purification, healing, love, peace, protection Mango ~ love, lust, protection Melon ~ healing, purification Mulberry~  fertility, protection, psychic awareness, strength, wisdom Nectarine ~ love Orange ~ fidelity, healing, love, luck, peace, prosperity, purification Papaya ~ love, protection Passion fruit~  kinship, love, peace Peach ~ happiness, healing, fertility, longevity, love, wisdom Pear ~ longevity, love, luck, lust, prosperity Persimmon ~ happiness, healing, luck Pineapple ~ chastity, healing, love, luck, prosperity, protection Plum ~ love, lust, protection Pomegranate ~ creativity, fertility, fruitfulness, hospitality, luck, prosperity, wishes Prickly Pear ~ protection Quince happiness, love, protection Raisin ~ mental powers, sun energy Raspberry ~ happiness, love, protection, stamina, vigor Star fruit ~ protection Strawberry~  intensity, love, luck, romance, success Tangerine ~ protection Watermelon ~ healing

Vegetables

Alfalfa sprouts ~ prosperity Artichoke ~ growth, protection Asparagus ~ lust Bamboo ~ luck, protection, psychic awareness, wishes Bean ~ decision making, grounding, love, lust, prosperity, protection Beet ~ beauty, love, passion Broccoli ~ leadership, protection, strength Brussel sprouts ~ endurance, protection, stability Cabbage ~ luck, prosperity, protection Carrot ~ fertility, grounding, luck, lust, vision Cauliflower ~ protection Celery ~ grounding, lust, mental powers, peace, psychic powers, weight loss Chives ~ breaking bad habits, protection, weight loss Cucumber ~ chastity, fertility, healing, peace Eggplant ~ prosperity, spirituality Endive ~ love, lust, physical strength Kelp ~ weight loss Leek ~ love, physical strength, protection Lettuce ~ chastity, peace, prosperity, protection, relaxation, sleep Mushroom ~ psychic awareness Olive ~ fertility, healing, lust, peace, protection, spirituality Onion ~ endurance, healing, lust, prophetic dreams, prosperity, protection, weight loss Pea ~ love, prosperity Pepper green ~ growth, prosperity Pepper red ~ energy, strength, vitality Pepper yellow ~ empowered creativity Pickle ~ weight loss Potato ~ compassion, grounding, healing, protection Pumpkin ~ healing, prosperity Radish ~ lust, protection Rhubarb ~ fertility, love, protection Soy ~ protection, psychic awareness, spirituality Spinach ~ prosperity Squash ~ spirituality Sunflower ~ protection, success Sweet potato ~ grounding, love, lust Tomato ~ healing, love, prosperity, protection Truffle ~ love, lust Watercress ~  fertility, mental powers, protection

Nuts

All nuts ~ fertility, love, luck, prosperity Acorn ~ fertility, healing, luck, prosperity, protection Almond ~ healing, prosperity, wisdom Brazil nut ~ love, prosperity Cashew ~ prosperity Chestnut ~ love, metal powers Coconut ~ allure and confidence, chastity, diversity, flexibility, protection, psychic awareness, purification, spirituality Hazelnut ~ fertility, luck, mental powers, wisdom Macadamia ~ prosperity Peanut ~ grounding, prosperity Pecan ~ employment, prosperity Pine nut ~ love, physical strength, prosperity Walnut ~ healing, infertility, mental powers, protection, wishes

Dairy, Eggs, & Meat

Some people view the consumption of animals and even animal products as a violation of the Wiccan Rede, so there is not much to be found on the correspondences of these types of food. However, for those of us that do consume these products, there is no reason that they cannot be used to put some extra oomph into a magickal meal.

Beef ~ grounding, prosperity, protection, strength Butter ~ smoothing relationships, spirituality, tenacity Caviar ~ lust Cheese ~ grounding, healing, joy, things coming to fruition Chicken ~ grounding, healing, protection, strength Crab ~ lust, protection Deer ~ elegance, grace, protection, refinement, strength Egg  ~fertility, lust, protection, spirituality, strength Fish  ~love, lust, psychic powers, strength Ham ~ dramatic energy, grounding, protection, theatrical flair, strength

Ice cream depends on flavor :

Butter pecan ~ employment, prosperity Chocolate (including chip, fudge ripple, etc.) ~ love, prosperity Coffee ~ mental powers Neapolitan ~ love, prosperity Praline pecan ~ prosperity Strawberry ~ love Vanilla~  love

Lamb ~ sensitivity, kindness, strength, warmth Milk ~ Goddess energy, love, nurturing, spirituality Pork ~ grounding, fertility, strength Sausage ~ grounding, protection, variety, zest Shellfish ~ lust, psychic awareness Turkey~  family gatherings, grounding, protection Whipped Cream ~ prosperity Yogurt ~ healing, spirituality

Beverages

•Alcoholic

This is not to say that if you don’t drink, you should start, but if do anyway, this information may be useful to you. Remember, to use moderation if you do drink, and keep in mind that getting drunk will impair your ability to perform magickally. If you are under the legal drinking age, don’t drink, no matter how mature you think you are. AND NEVER, EVER, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES DRINK AND DRIVE!

Apricot brandy ~ lust Beer ~ purification Blackberry brandy ~ lust, prosperity Champagne ~ lust Cognac ~ lust Crème de cacao~  love, prosperity Crème de menthe ~ purification Kirsch~  love Kummel ~ health, protection Mead ~ love Rum ~  lust, protection Tequila ~ lust Wine red~ celebrations, joy White wine~  love

• Non-alcoholic

Chocolate Milk ~prosperity Cider ~ healing, weight loss Coffee ~ mental powers, physical energy, strength Juice ~ energy, psychic awareness, purification, rejuvenation, vitality, can also vary with type of juice Cranberry ~ juice protection Grape juice ~ weight loss Orange juice ~ purification Lemonade ~ love, purification Milk ~ love, nurturing, spirituality Tea ~ courage, mental powers, prosperity, restfulness, strength Tisane ~ varies depending on specific herbs used Water ~ purification

Cooking Herbs and Spices

Herbs and spices not only add flavor and an extra kick to the flavor of your food, they can add a lot of energy to your magickal workings as well.

Allspice ~ determination, energy, harmony, healing, prosperity Anise ~ love, protection, psychic powers, purification Basil ~ love, peace, prosperity, protection, understanding Bay ~ healing, protection, psychic powers, purification, repels negativity, strength, success Black Pepper ~ banishing, cleansing and purification, protection Caraway ~ anti-theft, healing, love, luck, lust, mental powers, prosperity, protection, trust Cardamom ~ increases strength of unions, love, lust, peace Celery seed ~ grounding, lust, mental powers, peace, psychic powers Cinnamon ~ healing, love, luck, lust, peace, protection, psychic powers, strength, success Cloves ~ courage, love, lust, money, protection, repels negativity Coriander ~ healing, love, lust, mental powers Cumin ~ anti-theft, happiness, fidelity, peace, protection Curry ~ protection Dill ~ love, lust, mental powers, prosperity, protection (especially of children), weight loss Fennel ~ healing, protection, purification, strength, weight loss Garlic ~ anti-theft, banishing, cleansing & purification, healing, lust, prosperity, protection, repels negativity Ginger ~ adventure, cleansing, healing, love, lust, power, success Horseradish ~ protection, purification Lemon grass~  lust, psychic cleansing and opening Licorice ~  fidelity, love, lust Mace ~ mental powers, psychic powers, self-discipline Marjoram ~ cleansing & purification, happiness, healing, prosperity, protection, repels negativity Mint ~ communication, energy, healing, love, lust, prosperity, protection, travel Mustard seed ~ courage, endurance, faith, fertility, mental powers, protection Nutmeg ~ confidence, emotional openness, fidelity, healing, luck, prosperity, social interaction Oregano ~ energy, joy, peace, strength, vitality Parsley ~ domestic tranquility, energy, luck, lust, prosperity, protection (especially of the home and from accidents), purification Peppermint ~ change, healing, love, lust, psychic powers, purification, sleep, strength Poppy Seed ~ abundance, fertility, love, luck, prosperity, sleep Rosemary ~ cleansing & purification, healing, love, lust, mental powers, protection, sleep, youth Saffron ~ abundance, happiness, healing, leadership, love, luck, lust, prosperity, spirituality, strength Sage ~ cleansing & purification, healing, longevity, mental powers, protection, psychic powers, wishes Sesame Seed ~ fertility, love, lust, prosperity, protection Thyme ~ courage, healing, love, psychic powers, purification, sleep, strength Turmeric ~ purification Vanilla ~ joy, love, luck, lust, mental powers

Other Ingredients & Miscellaneous Foods

Herbs and spices not only add flavor and an extra kick to the flavor of your food, they can add a lot of energy to your magickal workings as well.

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Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Education is 🔑 Knowledge is 💪🏻

TEMPERATURE PLAY - is a form of BDSM sensual play where objects and substances are used to manipulate/stimulate the body’s neuroreceptors for heat and cold for sensual effect. Blindfolds are often used to intensify the effects, and bondage can also amplify the experience.

WAX PLAY - can be one of the most tantalizing types of play on the skin that can produce marvelous, stimulating pleasures. But it can also be the cause for an extreme burn if applied improperly. Because of the dangers that are inherent to burning temperatures, some may categorize wax play as “edge play”. By learning basic knowledge and techniques will enable you to safely play with wax. Remember, safety must always be the primary focus when dealing with unpredictable mediums, such as hot wax.

SAFETY - Different types of candles and different crock pot temperatures produce different temperatures of wax that can range from warm and soothing to dangerously hot wax. There is significant difference between individuals’ tolerance for heat, which can vary depending on exactly where the wax is applied.

Wax can splatter into the eyes. Wax that is too hot can cause serious burns. Crock pots and wax therapy spas almost always have heat controls, not temperature controls; temperature will vary over time. Wax may be difficult to remove, particularly from areas with hair. A flea comb or a sharp knife may be necessary for wax removal; use of a knife for this purpose requires special skills, though a plastic card can work as well. Oiling skin before waxing makes removal easier. Remember that some oils will conduct heat and prolong the extreme temperatures from the hot wax. Mineral oil is generally used to oil skin.

Wax may pool and concentrate heat. Wax heated in any sort of pot must be stirred vigorously or there can be dangerous temperature variations. Some people may be allergic to perfumes and dyes. Whatever is above a burning candle can get very hot, even at distances that may be surprising. Temperature can be varied based on the height from which you drip, drop, or pour the wax. Check temperature by dropping some on yourself, using the back of your hand and your inner forearm. Keeping the candle 18 inches from the skin is considered a safe distance. Some fetish garments will melt or burn, sticking to the skin and causing serious burns. Anything with nylon, vinyl, PVC, patent leather, or other synthetic fabrics can be a problem.

TYPES OF WAX

Paraffin – most common, inexpensive, burns at low temperatures (115°F - 145°F) and therefore recommended best for wax play. Soy – becoming popular, more expensive, burns clean at a low temperature (120°F - 150°F) and therefore recommended for wax play. Always ask your bottom beforehand of any allergies they have. Beeswax – less common, burns at a very high temperature (142°F - 150°F) and therefore not recommended for wax play. Bayberry – the rarest and most expensive, it is also known as “myrtle wax”. Although it has an extremely low melt point of 116°F, it is an excessively hard wax.

If you are using candles and are not sure how hot they are, cut a piece off and rub it in your hands. If, after a little bit, it becomes like putty, it is a low temperature candle. If it stays hard, it is high temperature. Also, another sign is how long do they burn during normal use. Religious candles are some of the lowest temperature candles available. They are normally about 124°F melting point.

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION

Colour – Dye coloured candles hold a slightly higher temperature of only 1°- 3° and is not a problem for use in wax play. Because pigment colour, can separate once melted, it will also affect the temperature of the melted wax by 3°or 4°. Warning: the pigment itself can hold much higher temperatures once separated and can cause burns. It makes good practice to use pure paraffin as the first coating on the skin. An easy way to add colour to plain wax is to add a crayola crayon to the wax pot. One small caution is there is a chance that the dye colour may stain skin.

Scent – Scents added to wax will only have a temperature burn difference of 1°- 2° and is not considered to significantly affect application techniques. Be aware that some people are allergic or sensitive to certain fragrances; so ask ahead of time to prevent mishaps.

CANDLE TYPES

Taper – They are tapered at the top and wider at the bottom allowing for even burning. Because the wax is coming directly from the flame, no pooling is allowed to form (cooling), thus producing the highest temperature of all the candles; therefore extreme care should be taken when using them. The melt point can be 140°F and higher depending on the wax used: paraffin, beeswax, or bayberry wax.

Pillar - They can take any shape and size but always form in an equal diameter. Melted wax is allowed to pool in the surrounding area of the wick, allowing cooling of the wax. Nearest to the wick can be a temperature as high as 250°F as it is drawn up into the wick for fuel. As wax moves away from the flame (about 1¼”), it pools and the radiant temperature cools to about 140°F. From 1¼” to 1½” away from the flame, the wax can cool to 127°F. Moving more than 1½” away from the flame, the wax cools to ambient room temperature. A common problem found is the hot area around the wick starts to sink and the outer rim of wax never gets hot enough to melt causing a tunnel effect. To prevent this from happening, while the candle is still warm after extinguishing, push and turn in the sides using your fingers/thumb to get the outer wax closer to the centre, bring down the column of wax.

Voltives – poured into moulds and can be any shape, but size is usually limited to allow it to be placed in votive glass containers or allowed to float in water. Usually paraffin wax is used. The melting point can vary from 128°F to 134°F. The ease of use makes this the most popular.

Tealights – poured into thin metal cups using paraffin wax. Pooling does not occur and therefore the temperature can be 136°F or higher. Better used as ambiance to a room rather than for wax play.

Wax Bath – an electrical vat or fondue pot containing paraffin wax. A ladle can be used to collect the wax and pour it on the body. Use only vats that have a temperature thermostat, which can be regulated. Stir the wax often. Turn the heat up high to initially melt the wax. Then turn it down and allow a skim coat to form on the top. Stir the bath of wax and adjust thermostat for the correct temperature setting.

Dripless – this usually applies to formal taper candlesticks . During the dipping process, a special harder outer layer of wax is applied, which makes a “cup” that holds the melted wax. This prevents the liquid wax to run down the candle sides. These candles are not recommended for wax play because of the high heat content.

Drippy - additives are combined with the wax to allow the wax to soften quickly and drip. They have a low melting point and are great for wax play.

APPLICATION

Safe temperatures to use when applying wax are 110°F - 139°F depending upon preparation within the scene. Less sensitive areas are the back and chest. Proper area lighting is important to be able to see the amount of wax you are distributing. Once the wax is removed, the skin is ultra-stimulated and the slightest touch will have him/her squirming.

If you are going to use different types of candles, it is best to have a layer of pure paraffin on the skin first as a barrier layer. This will diffuse the heat over a larger area. Give time between drops to allow that wax to cool and the bottom to react to the sensations. Placing a wax drop on top of another drop creates a penetrating deep heat and requires a longer cooling period, so take your time. Apply a steady series of drops and spread the drops out around the entire area. Rotate candles around while dripping so they burn evenly.

Pillar candles’ pool of wax is what is useful for wax play and should be allowed to regenerate as often as needed. To apply, hold the lit candle directly over the body and tilt it to drip the pooled wax while moving it over the body.

Taper candles require much more care while using because they burn at a much higher temperature. The old school thought is to adjust the height of the drop by raising your arm & varying the distance. This allows the drop of wax to cool as it falls downward hitting your target. Latest tests show that the degree of cooling is so negligible that this method is not needed. Besides, dripping wax from those distances causes splashing of wax everywhere; getting onto clothes, hair, face, shoes and surrounding areas. Skip all the mess, build your protective barrier layer of wax first and then have fun sending your bottom into ecstasy.

Votives can be placed directly on your subject if a thick layer of wax is applied beforehand to help insulate the skin from the higher temperatures. Warning: Peel label off bottom of candle first and melt bottom to assure a sturdy placement. As the votive wax melts, the spilling will add to the bottom’s sensation with each breath they take. This may remind the bottom to stay still during this fun play, or not. Imagine your canvas topped with coloured votives slowly spilling wax down the sides of body, chest, and waist. Votives can also be placed in glass containers and allowed to pool and then be poured on the body for a heavenly warm sensation.

Container application is accomplished by tilting the holder enough that the wax pours out of the top. Try not to allow the flame to touch the opposite side of glass, which will produce soot on that area. If this happens, just wipe with towel after is cools. It is important to allow time for the wax to pool, therefore it is recommended to have numerous container candles.

Wax Bath/Vat application is accomplished by using a paintbrush, a ladle, or even your hands. Have a drip plate available to catch extra wax dripping off the brush. To create darker colours apply multiple layers of wax; allow each layer to harden before applying the next. The ladle allows for more flow of wax. For a full hands on play, use your own hands, cupped, to scoop up the wax and spread it onto the skin of your partner. Having your hands sensually exploring, pinching, and rubbing.

CLEAN UP

Using a wet ice cube to chill the wax on the skin is an easy way to remove wax. It is also a nice double sensation of mediums. To peel the wax off, use a knife, scraper, or a fine edge to loosen the edges and then grab it with your fingers and gently pull the wax over itself. A plastic scraper is useful to get the small areas of wax left over on the skin. The scrubbie will also get off the small bits of wax remaining by gently rubbing it over the skin. To get wax out of hair, use a flea comb. It is not a good idea to use a leather flogger or whip to remove wax – it gets everywhere and also on your expensive toy. Besides, you just gave a pleasurable, relaxing, sensual, erotic, and luxurious play scene. Leave the stingy ouchies for another time.

Clean up is easy if you used plastic to cover any area beforehand. Do not re-use any wax you have taken off of skin. It is contaminated with skin flakes, oils, and dirt.

If wax got on your clothing, boil them in a large pot to release the wax from the fabric.

I want to try wax play, but I’ve heard that different types of wax vary in heat and safety?

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Great information worth a reblog to help with this question (I’ve referred back to it with my own play a few times).

Have fun!!!!! 🕯🕯🕯

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