Cultivating an Alluring and Intriguing Aura:
A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.
A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.
A fool's mouth is his ruin, and his lips are a snare to his soul.
Always say what is necessary, never speak more than the occasion demands, be mindful of the things you say, and always take a moment to think before you speak. These are all attributes that have been revered as belonging to people of high character throughout history and cultures. The truth is that a lack of control in the way in which we express ourselves taints our image and makes us appear foolish in front of other people, it may lead us to lose opportunities because people in positions of power are not interested in relating with people who lack self-control.
It is important that you become highly mindful of the spaces and the people you are with and adjust your degree of comfort with the topics you decide to engage in and the ways in which you discuss them with others. Knowing your audience will make you appear more tact, proficient, and well-educated when speaking with them and others will revere you on higher grounds.
Once you've established the sort of audience you will be engaging with, remember to only hold opinions and speak on things that you have researched and have proficiency on. Few things are more embarrassing than hearing a highly-opinionated person speak on things they know very little about, and frankly, it is very unpleasant to be around those people. Showcasing your ignorance in public can taint your image in the eyes of others very deeply, so know when it's appropriate to give an opinion and make sure it's an educated one.
Lastly, never overshare, especially in regards to your personal life. This circles back to knowing your audience and therefore how comfortable you can feel around them. Details about your personal life should be kept secret in formal settings, and especially, in work settings. Not only does oversharing about your personal endeavors can make people lose respect for you, but it also can put you in vulnerable and compromising positions that others can take advantage of. By knowing crucial and sensitive information about you, hostile people may try to sabotage you.
Speak only when necessary, make sure what you say has substance and can edify and elevate a conversation, only share details of your personal life with close confidants (close friends, family, romantic partners, mentors, etc.), and ensure that the way in which you communicate is eloquent and refined, smart and successful people will be drawn to you as a result of portraying security, education, and wisdom in the way that you communicate. Your words have power, make sure you leverage that power to mold your character in positive ways.
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