This is gonna be poorly written because I'm tired, but I don't care. It's been almost 20 years since AtLA ended and Azula still lives in my head rent free.
Like she's so interesting on a psychological level yet a lot of the fandom just... ignores this complexity and writes her off as a sociopath. Azula is heavily traumatized by their father, just in a vastly different way than Zuko. She was the "golden child" while he was the "scapegoat". This damaged Azula in so many different ways and ultimately led to one of her biggest fears being Ozai treating her like Zuko. She says this herself and the finale novelization backs up that she is actually deeply afraid of her father.
But this quote likely has a deeper meaning than just being afraid of her dad.
Their father's way of parenting combined with Ursa leaving (and the comics confirm she didn't wake up Azula like she did Zuko) led Azula to have such a deep fear of abandonment. We see this at various different points throughout the series until it's outright confirmed in the finale.
And how does she deal with this? Rage. Pure, unadulterated rage.
We see this first with Ty Lee.
The script outright says Ty Lee ran off to join the circus. Obviously, Azula knew enough to be able to track her down. However, it's the first look we get at just how Azula treats people she views as having "abandoned" her.
After Ty Lee claims to be happy at the circus, Azula literally does the worst thing she can imagine to punish her. She requests for the safety net to be set on fire.
It puts Ty Lee in a perilous position that shows how angry Azula is with her. To protect herself from Azula's wrath, Ty Lee decides to join her.
Azula's far less angry with Mai as well and Mai even seems happy to see her.
I think the difference here is not only did Mai readily agree to travel with her, Mai had to move away due to Ozai assigning her father to govern Omashu. She didn't leave without warning like Ty Lee might have. It's also possible unlike with Ty Lee, Azula and Mai were able to stay in regular contact, though there's not enough evidence to confirm this.
Azula does value her friends and she clearly treats them well when they're in a good place.
I don't know much about royal norms, but I highly doubt having your friends elevated to a position just below you is common. We can also read this as Azula having them equal to her, but that's clearly not the case since they defer to her judgment. Though she does trust them enough to separate and make their own calls as seen in "The Chase".
Then in "The Beach" it's made more clear just how much she values them through her conversation with Ty Lee. She admits to being jealous of how Ty Lee has such ease with talking to boys and tries to take her friend's advice to heart. Then she... fucks it up by being Ozai's daughter.
Even still, Azula looks out for those she cares for in her own way. She literally manipulates things to get Zuko back in good standing with Ozai so he can come home with his honor restored. Then she watches his back while he adjusts.
When she has a hunch about him visiting Iroh, she doesn't snitch on him. In fact, it's not even on her radar to tell anyone. She just wants him to be careful.
Why?
Not only does she not want her hard work of getting him home to go to waste, she doesn't want to lose him again.
I don't like the argument that she solely kept him around in case Aang survived. She had no reason to believe that other than perhaps extreme caution/paranoia due to fearing their father. Azula didn't have knowledge of the spirit oasis water and not even Zuko knew the full extent of its properties, just a guess based on what Katara told him and he didn't even confide in Azula about it. She likely only began to suspect because of his reactions in "The Awakening" whenever she mentions the possibility.
She's calculating and manipulative, yes, but I do believe she would have at least considered helping him with their father after "The Day of Black Sun" after she spent time looking out for him. Whether she actually would help him or not is up for debate, but since she genuinely fears Ozai, I don't think she'd make herself a target.
Azula tells him to stop being a baby and attend the meeting in "Nightmare and Daydreams" and she goes to their old house in "The Beach" to grab him.
Then he just... leaves. Likely without even leaving her a note since we only see Mai with any type of correspondence.
His leaving is very likely the start of her mental break with Mai's defection pushing her further then Ty Lee protecting Mai sealing it.
You can see by her face here she never anticipated both of them betraying her. She clearly didn't even think Mai would, especially not after Zuko abandoned them during the eclipse.
This is wild of her to say even by her own standards. Yes, she said some awful things as a child, but what kid isn't just outright mean sometimes? Especially when favoritism is involved? This is different than her going to warn/bully Zuko about Azulon ordering Ozai to kill him when they were kids. This is her saying she's going to do it and she's going to be happy about it. It's absolutely unhinged.
Then when Ozai says he's leaving her behind, she's visibly upset and frightened. Her mask has fully fallen.
It's after her father betrays her and leaves her behind does she fully crack. She's afraid everyone's out to get her. She banishes everyone so no one can hurt her further. Well... except for one of her tutors. Which one? Who knows?
Then she hallucinates her mother who is arguably her deepest wound and, ironically, the first person who ever abandoned her. Both when she was present from Azula's perspective ("my own mother thought I was a monster") and then by actually leaving in the middle of the night.
Don't know how to end this, it's 5:30 AM. But her parents fucked her up so hard and it's tragic.



















