All My Jokes Are Cries For Help

the humanity of the AIDS crisis: the ward by gideon mendel

If they’re not making it a big deal, you shouldn’t either.

If they’re really nervous or emotional, respond with compassion.

If they’re excited, be excited with them.

I’ve seen a lot of things that seem to imply that it’s always best to be really super amped about someone coming out, but that kind of energy can be embarrassing or uncomfortable if the person doesn’t feel the same way.

On the flip side, if you respond with indifference, you might think you’re being s good friend by not caring whether they’re gay or straight or whatevs, but that can be extremely invalidating if this is a monumental or exciting moment for the person.

If you haven’t seen this story, look up his name: Francisco Galicia. 

Galicia says he lost 26 pounds during that time in a South Texas immigrant detention center because officers didn’t provide him with enough food.

He said he wasn’t allowed to shower and his skin was dry and dirty.

He and 60 other men were crammed into an overcrowded holding area where they slept on the floor and were given only aluminum-foil blankets, he said. Some men had to sleep on the restroom area floor.

Ticks bit some of the men and some were very sick, Galicia said. But many were afraid to ask to go to the doctor because CBP officers told them their stay would start over if they did, he said.

I would remind you that concentration camps are actually real. 

“I told them we had rights and asked to make a phone call. But they told us, ‘You don’t have rights to anything’,” Francisco Galicia said.

I want a book about a girl who falls in love with another girl over a school project and they kiss at their lockers and hold hands in the library. I want a TV show about a small-town girl who moves to the Big City for university and meets a girl there and they start dating and come home to the little town to visit and Funny Shenanigans ensue. I want a movie about a woman who has everything, a career, a house, friends, but something still doesn’t feel right so she goes Soul Searching and finds the love of her life. I want a rom-com about lesbian mums raising their problematic but lovable children. I want a sitcom about a group of LGBT friends and the two lesbians of the group deny they’re in love but everyone can see it and more Funny Shenanigans ensue as they try and set them up. 

All I want is some happy-fucking-lesbian-media that doesn’t revolve around one dying, or leaving their husband or getting together with a man in the end, or they can’t be together for whatever dramatic cinematic reason or they get fucking hate-crimed by the entire town. 

I want the lesbian media for young lesbians today that I deserved when I was thirteen and fourteen and the only thing I could find was ‘Blue Is The Warmest Colour’ at the video store and trying to sneak it past my mum and seeing the disgust on her face when she read the rating ‘R-18+, High Impact Sex Scenes.’