eilulles

GONE GIRL (2014) dir. David Fincher

Composition VIII, 1923, Wassily Kandinsky

I was tagged by @theauthor97

1. I do color guard

2. Every day I get together with one of my friends, solely to do the daily crossword

3. I watch The Nightmare Before Christmas every year on the night before Halloween

4. I have a dog and a rabbit

5. I sometimes accidentally solve compsci labs by being lazy

1. I love that first taste of the gum stick in your mouth (orange trident is the best y’all)

2. I bite my nails

3. I haven’t practiced my flute in so long but I’m going to play the Downton Abbey theme when I get home today

4. I like Voltaire

5. I hate all pie except for my nana’s sweet potato. Also I’m not the hugest fan of cheesecake.

1. As of today, i am 18 years old ☺️☺️

2. Andrew Scott is my favorite actor

3. I drink way too much tea

4. I kinda speak french, oui oui

5. “Johnny Boy” by Kite has been stuck in my head for the last three days and i have a hard time getting over “And then we danced”, which is an amazing movie i just saw. Recommended!!

1. I have a PowerPoint presentation about platypuses that I made for fun when I was in 4th or 5th grade

2. I feed the crows my leftovers if I happen to have any when I see them

3. Whenever I drop something, I look at it, shrug and say “I put it there”. I’m not sure where this habit comes from

4. I’m pretty sure the norse god Loki is watching over me personally, don’t ask because I can’t clarify

5. I always have warm hands, despite living in the north of Norway and never wearing gloves or mittens

Um,

1. I’m currently teaching myself Egyptian heiroglyphics.

2. I like reading Stuff written by Scott Fitzgerald.

3. I have a dog that is a miniature schnauzer maultese mix.

4. I now have a girlfriend, as of today.

5. I cannot physically snort. Yes, I’ve tried, yes I can sorta do it but only with deep concentration. (Like when you imitate pigs or laugh too hard? Can’t do it.)

@arsonist-in-her-pastime @laurenpatricia @wethepotterheads0214 @eilulles @everythingfox

I don’t really do this kind of stuff but you’re always really nice to me so here it goes :)

1. My favorite book is Wuthering Heights by Emily Bronte.

2. I feel like I don’t belong to this world and I’m somehow incapable of living this life like a normal person.

3. I am vegan.

4. I suck at sports and I’m a terrible dancer.

5. I speak French. 

I’ve been observing an interesting conversation elsewhere about whether self-acceptance comes from within (Fi) or without (Fe), so I’ll use that as an example (there’s also plenty of other posts comparing the two in the archives).

Every FJ I’ve ever spoken to can be ‘perked up’ with external affirmation (and every Fe-user I’ve ever met, for that matter); them being told it’s okay to be themselves, that what they are doing is productive and useful, that they need not adapt or hide but can simply self-express and that it’s okay… is what their Fe likes and needs to hear. A few simple kind words can perk most of them up.

A Fi’s job is harder, because external affirmation may be nice, but it cannot quell the internal monologue until the Fi comes to a place of self-acceptance. You can hear all kinds of nice, affirming, reassuring things, and yes, it’s lovely, but it will not make a dent in your mental state until YOU decide you are okay. This is one reason Fi’s are often accused of having “intense internal angst.” Because they are continually struggling against themselves, often measuring their deeds up to a set of internal values (and if perfection is involved, watch out), and no amount of external reassurance or affirmation can pull them out of it. Only THEY can pull themselves out of it. They cannot hear you, until the inner voice stops.

It’s the difference between saying “being around all these accepting people and seeing them be brave enough to be honest about their true selves made me accept myself and stop hiding behind a false front” (Fe) and “I had to come to a quiet place of self-acceptance and realize I could not live without being authentic, but it was my own fault that I had gotten so deep into this lie and caused this mess before I could move forward” (Fi).

Core

1: Goody two shoes….

2: Clingy helper….

3: Narcissist….

4: Emo artist….

5: Nerd….

6: Anxious normie….

7: Perpetual child….

8: Scary tough guy….

9: Chill boring person….

Wing

w1: ….who has a stick up their ass

w2: ….who only wants to be loved

w3: ….who wants to be noticed

w4: ….who wants to be special

w5: ….who is pretentious and intellectual

w6: ….who is anxious

w7: ….who likes to have fun

w8: ….who sometimes starts fistfights

With the lower functions, it’s often a ‘relief’ to have other people step in and do it for you, since you are sometimes aware (and often not) of an enormous blind spot in your cognitive stack. Maybe it’s useful to think of inferior function typing in terms of what causes you to feel anxiety / stress and relief when others more competent in that area can step forward and either help you or do it for you?

Under this theory, you’d feel relief (especially when young) when:

ENXP: someone fact-checks and remembers details for you, they step in and provide detailed information to discussions so you can get it right, rather than you trying to rely on a faulty memory / broad generalizations / non-specifics (the person who ‘brings the accurate details’ and/or examples to the table).

ESXP: someone who can help you intuit and read between the lines, to form single conclusions, and/or who can help you decide on a futuristic vision for your life and help you ‘work backward’ to know how to ‘make it real.’

EXTJ: someone better versed in emotional dynamics who understands their motives and how emotions motivate others can explain others’ decisions to you and/or help bring out your own emotions through elimination of ‘the facts’ (in other words, someone who could edit and soften something you wrote, in order to avoid offending someone else and/or make your point sound kinder).

EXFJ: someone with an instinctive knowledge of how things work, and what rational systems are, who can problem-solve and fix broken machines for you, or teach you how to do so yourself, so you can free your Fe up to socializing and core motivational interaction with others and not need to analyze as much.

IXFP: someone steps in to help you verbalize what you want, and come up with a workable plan on how to accomplish it, or helps you reason out the factual consequences of your choices, so you can better understand the impact.

IXTP: someone better versed in dealing with emotional dynamics helps you to soften and/or mature your emotional approach, and/or becomes a barrier between you and the external world, automatically helping you soften your approach in order to gain the approval you seek; sometimes, this can be as simple as telling you what is ‘expected from you in this social situation,’ so, with relief, you can fulfill whatever role the people around you need.

INXJ: someone who pays attention to the outside world, who can remember where you keep objects and help you find them when you (inevitably) lose them; who has better reflexes than you and is confident in engaging with sensory reality, and who can help you navigate through it successfully.

ISXJ: someone skilled with coming up with ideas on the fly, who can easily look beyond the surface and help you consider multiple positive potential outcomes, and who can help you brainstorm in order to come up with your own ideas.

ISFJ

- main comfort in familiarity; strong sense of duty

- overwhelmed by/uncomfortable with new experiences they are unprepared for

- wish for harmony (happiness of the group as the base of society); (often reluctance in taking charge of it)

- possible over-reliance on what they (believe to) know to be true

ISTJ

- main comfort in familiarity; strong sense of duty

- overwhelmed by/uncomfortable with new experiences they are unprepared for

- wish for structural organisation (knowledge as the base of society); (often reluctance in taking charge of it)

- possible over-reliance on ego and “paralysed” by hurt feelings

INFJ

- careful thought processes to find how everything in life is connected

- uncomfortable with/quickly overwhelmed by too much sensory input (as it makes careful focus on thought more difficult)

- wish for harmony (happiness of the group as the base of society); (often reluctance in taking charge of it)

- possible over-reliance on what they (believe to) know to be true

INTJ

- careful thought processes to find how everything in life is connected

- uncomfortable with/quickly overwhelmed by too much sensory input (as it makes careful focus on thought more difficult)

- wish for structural organisation (knowledge as the base of society); (often reluctance in taking charge of it)

- possible over-reliance on ego and “paralysed” by hurt feelings

ESFJ

- creating and maintaining harmony as main drive (happiness of the group as the base of society)

- ignoring of/uncomfortable with reveal of “the truth”/objective fact if it interferes with sense of group-harmony

- wish for feeling of familiarity as it is comforting to them

- seek novelty as a way of getting away from their usual life (although often scary); (often avoidance behaviour)

ESTJ

- creating and maintaining structure as a main drive (relevant knowledge as the base of society)

- uncomfortable with/overwhelmed by own deep emotions as they are irrational and “are bound to create mistakes”

- wish for feeling of familiarity as it is comforting to them

- seek novelty as a way of getting away from their usual life (although often scary); (often avoidance behaviour)

ENFJ

- creating and maintaining harmony as main drive (happiness of the group as the base of society)

- ignoring of/uncomfortable with reveal of “the truth”/objective fact if it interferes with sense of group-harmony

- wish to figure out how everything is connected; use their conclusions as a tool for their main drive

- seek physical excitement as a way of getting away from their usual life (often avoidance behaviour)

ENTJ

- creating and maintaining structure as a main drive (relevant knowledge as the base of society)

- uncomfortable with/overwhelmed by own deep emotions as they are irrational and “are bound to create mistakes”

- wish to figure out how everything is connected; use their conclusions as a tool for their main drive

- seek physical excitement as a way of getting away from their usual life (often avoidance behaviour)

INTP

- main drive to know and understand everything that might be interesting; knowing everything means knowing the truth

- dislike of people’s harmony-focus as it might dispute their search of objective truth

- wish to explore everything extensively and leave no possibility out

- avoidance behaviour by sticking to the comfortable and familiar

ISTP

- main drive to know and understand everything that might be interesting; knowing everything means knowing the truth

- dislike of people’s harmony-focus as it might dispute their search of objective truth

- wish to constantly (be able to) be physically reactive to the world 

- possible over-reliance on perceived hidden connections and “recognising” bad intentions

INFP

- main drive to have an extensive understanding of the human (emotional) experience and their own selves

- uncomfortable with people ignoring the complexity of the human mind in favour of cutting something down to the necessary  

- wish to explore everything extensively and leave no possibility out

- avoidance behaviour by sticking to the comfortable and familiar

ISFP

- main drive to have an extensive understanding of the human (emotional) experience and their own selves

- uncomfortable with people ignoring the complexity of the human mind in favour of cutting something down to the necessary

- wish to constantly (be able to) be physically reactive to the world 

- possible over-reliance on perceived hidden connections and “recognising” bad intentions

ENTP

- main drive to freely explore all possibilities without immediate subjective filtering

- uncomfortable with routine and micromanaging as it limits them in finding new topics to explore

- wish to learn and understand everything they might find interesting (possible reluctance in taking time for it)

- possible avoidance behaviour by convincing other people they’re always right/bringing their point across by resorting to personal (emotionally effective) attacks

ESTP

- main drive to constantly (be able to) physically react to and keep up with the outside world (“tennis hop”); objectively observant

- uncomfortable with intense focus on finding out how things connect on a purely theoretical level as it takes away from focus on physical reality and ability to be reactive

- wish to learn and understand everything they might find interesting (possible reluctance in taking time for it)

- possible avoidance behaviour by convincing other people they’re always right/bringing their point across by resorting to personal (emotionally effective) attacks

ENFP

- main drive to freely explore all possibilities without immediate subjective filtering

- uncomfortable with routine and micromanaging as it limits them in finding new topics to explore

- wish to have an extensive understanding of the human (emotional) experience and their own selves (possible reluctance in taking the time for it)

- possible avoidance behaviour by reacting aggressively either verbally or physically (slamming doors more often than physical violence); appearing impersonal and “cold”

ESFP

- main drive to constantly (be able to) physically react to and keep up with the outside world (“tennis hop”); objectively observant

- uncomfortable with intense focus on finding out how things connect on a purely theoretical level as it takes away from focus on physical reality and ability to be reactive

- wish to have an extensive understanding of the human (emotional) experience and their own selves (possible reluctance in taking the time for it)