Edennn !!!!!!!!

always assume the person you’re talking to knows more about their own gender than you, no matter if they’re dysphoric or not. you don’t know their life story, the introspection they’ve done, or their own feelings. and while this is a nuanced subject, just treat people with respect and compassion. 

people who are looking for sources, here are nineteen (alternately bolded for accessibility):

source 1 // source 2 // source 3 // source 4 // source 5 // source 6 // source 7 // source 8 // gendered brains are fake // neopronouns 1 // neopronouns 2 // neopronouns 3 // another source // and another // source // medical treatment/definition/etc of gender dysphoria // source // source // here’s a masterpost!

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At this point, the guy who had reeled him in had literally fallen over in shock, and the other people with him were scared shitless. The warden whipped some citations out of a plastic bag in his wetsuit, made the trespassers sign them, asked if they had any questions, and then gathered all of their fishing gear. And he just. Walked back into the river. And quietly swam away, without another word.

The paranoia Alivebur had in Pogtopia? Where he was constantly afraid that people weren’t on his side, that people were going to betray him or that they didn’t respect him? That was there in his presidency too! So much so, in fact! Even weeks before he made the decision to hold a rigged election, even back when he was just a new president, you could see the paranoia creeping in, in his actions, in his words.

Alivebur getting visibly upset whenever members of his nation would associate with members of the Dream SMP, particularly Eret. (His feelings regarding Eret and Eret’s kingship was such a big part of his presidency arc, as well, and I don’t see enough people talking about it). Like, when he saw Niki hanging out with Eret, he got noticeably upset, even to the point of nervous. He started talking about all of the good qualities of Eret that he himself didn’t possess (”I’m a president, I’m an elected official, they can always get rid of me, but Eret is king.” “I’m not going to tell you not to hang out with the attractive, tall, silky-smooth, British man,” “Niki, do you know what jealousy means? (as he looks at Eret),” etc.) He kept comparing his own traits to Eret’s, saying that Eret had better builds, Eret had more power, Eret was more attractive, and so on.

Point being, Alivebur was extremely fixated on all of the good qualities of Eret and the Greater Dream SMP that he, himself lacked. He kept getting extremely paranoid when he saw Niki hanging out with Eret, and being visibly uncomfortable and nervous that she was going to be disloyal to him and L’manberg, even going as far as actively making her promise to remain loyal to L’manberg. It’s also interesting to note that when Niki says she’ll be loyal to him, he starts to mix up his words again and try to state that he doesn’t want her to be loyal to him, but to L’manberg. Only to L’manberg. As we know, this isn’t true, as many of Alivebur’s issues stemmed from the fact that he wanted people to care about him and be loyal to him, and he was always terrified that they weren’t. But this is also extremely in character, because as we know, Alivebur never wanted to state outright that he was struggling with something, he never wanted to open up about his own personal issues and struggles, his own personal mental health issues. He always made it about L’manberg, used the idea of L’manberg to get what he wanted. A case in point being how he was later so insistent on destroying L’manberg, when in reality, this action was a lot more about destroying himself and using the destruction as a way, as an excuse, to commit suicide. Another case is how he held an election to “consolidate power for L’manberg officials,” when in reality, he wanted to make sure his people liked him and respected him.

But, yeah. He was extremely paranoid. Paranoid that his people would leave him and his country, and in this case, specifically that Niki would leave him and his country.

“I need a minute…it’s fine! It’s fine. She doesn’t..she doesn’t…she’s, she’s loyal to L’manberg! She’s loyal to L’manberg.” (Wilbur Soot vods, August 10th).

Alivebur’s trust issues were definitely pretty bad during his presidency. They were much tamer back then, and he didn’t act on his paranoia so drastically as he would later, but they were still there, underlying. He actively has to assure himself, while still in a pretty panicked state, that Niki won’t leave him or L’manberg, despite Niki reassuring him numerous times that Eret was just her friend and she loved L’manberg. It’s clear that a lot of his paranoia stemmed from Eret’s betrayal, which started him down a downward spiral that was present in his presidency. He was constantly afraid that his citizens would betray him, or leave him. He mentions how Eret “betrayed his trust,” noticeably not saying “L’manberg” but “his trust.” These trust issues and paranoia ended up bringing him a lot of stress, and later downright depression as we learned from Ghostbur. All of this would eventually culminate in him attempting to hold a rigged election to consolidate his own power and make sure his citizens respected his leadership (even though they already did, but his mental state convinced him that they didn’t).

Eret went to Wilbur to help him fight when they were dethroned during the battle against Manberg, and were upset that Ghostbur couldn’t remember anything about them at all. They were just gone from his memory completely. They were excited about Alivebur possibly changing the anthem of L'Manberg to something other than “fuck Eret”.

And during the botched revival stream, Eret talked about one of the reasons why they wanted to bring Wilbur back to life: because as much as they wanted to be a good leader, they felt like they couldn’t bring people together like Wilbur could.

For example my most recent deleted spam comments was "Tell Tubbo to stop replacing Tommy with Ranboo. Tommy was there first" and "KYS you wanted ____ dead"

Main ways to tell if someone's a minor is them spamming chats with DreamSMP lore that the person isn't canonically supposed to know, Spamming DreamSMP related comments during non SMP streams, Sending death threats for something their character did or didn't do and mentioning DreamSMP to content creators who aren't apart of the SMP.

For example Phil being spammed about Tommy dying(like most members weren't watching the stream or went on twitter) Hbomb gets spammed sometimes during vault hunters(don't do that), Niki gets so many death threats but recently Sam has also been getting spammed, Scott, Velvet and Sparkles often get comments about the DreamSMP like "Who's your fav character?" "You should be on the DreamSMP"

DON'T PUT YOUR AGE IN TWITCH CHAT ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A MINOR(UNDER 18).

DON'T TELL OTHER STREAMERS TO JOIN THE SMP. IF THEY'RE NOT IN THE SMP DON'T MENTION DREAMSMP UNLESS THEY BRING IT UP FIRST.

DON'T BEING UP DREAMSMP DURING ANY NON DREAMSMP STREAMS. ALSO DON'T SPAM IT DURING SMP STREAMS. If a streamer wants to talk about lore or needs to be caught up they'll say something trust me.

DON'T ASK STREAMERS TO REACT TO THINGS. THEY'RE CONTENT CREATORS NOT REACT CHANNELS. For example Hbomb watches Manhunt on stream, this isn't an invitation to request reaction.

Also don't put any sort of personal details such as timezones. It's honestly super easy to track people based on timezones. This isn't us gatekeeping or being mean it's people trying to prevent y'all from predators especially minors. Especially if your username is your actual name.

NOBODY CARES WHAT COLOUR EACH SUBJECT IS.

DON'T SELF PROMO OR PROMO OTHER STREAMERS

DON'T TELL STREAMERS WHO TO RAID OR WHAT TO DO