eclecticallylyn.

hey everyone, today things are going to get a little heavy, at least for me. I’ve lived with depression since I was 15 and it hasn’t gotten any easier to deal with; at any moment it can consume me and there isn’t much I can do about it. what I have learned in that time is how to recognize the signs and know when it’s coming. one of the greatest things about being alone for a few years and not…

love languages play a major part in the health of our romantic relationships. once we learn the way our partners love to be loved, it is easier to navigate our relationships and continue to build a strong, lasting bond with one another. for those of us who struggle with depression and other mental illnesses, love languages look different when we are in our mental illness and when we are out of…

dear depression diary, yesterday was a rough one for me. if I’m being honest, the last three months have been a slow decline back into my depression. I’m recognizing the signs my body and mind give me before the depression consumes me, and I’m trying my best to stay outside of it. but everyday, it gets a little harder to fight, and there’s not much more I can do about it except prepare the…

I was still struggling, but I did my best to put on a brave face my nights were spent silently crying as I called my brother’s phone over and over again just to hear his voice. there are no words that could accurately describe how much I missed him. & my days? – well, my days were spent masking that pain, because I felt like I needed to be strong. as much as I was hurting, my mother was hurting…

2022 was a rollercoaster ride. my partner and I learned hit a new milestone as partners and as parents when we added our third — and final — child to our family. finding time for ourselves and one another was difficult with two kids, and now our entire dynamic has shifted. from the time we found out I was pregnant, my SO jumped into dad mode and supported me wholly through it all. he picked up…

a look back at 2022

to say that 2022 was full and fulfilling is an understatement! I learned a lot about myself, worked hard to become a better version of the one that stepped into last year, and watched things happen around me in ways I could only ever imagine. each month brought its own ups and downs, but there are definitely highlights that made this year one to remember and makes me welcome 2023 with open…

making room for me in 2023

what a year it has been! 2022 was full of laughter, love, loss, new life, great memories, and reminders that life is short and every day should be cherished as if it’s the last. as a Black woman in America, the events that kicked off the summer really took a toll on my mental and emotional health. it was hard to just be knowing that the world was in a state of heightened chaos, especially as a…

I've never had anxiety but I imagine it would be similar to this feeling that consumed me as I walked up to the grocery store and then stopped because the only thought running through my mind was 'is today the day that I'll be shot' feeling forced to look my kids in the eyes and tell them sugar coated lies about why they can't come along with me when in reality, I'm just afraid of the…

riddle me this how does a white supremacist, I mean racist, I mean terrorist, kill ten innocents and walk away without a scratch? how is he apprehended peacefully after posting a live stream of his terrorist crime and why did it take 120 seconds of time to shut it down so that the end of these beautiful lives weren't televised for the world to see? how was he allowed to plead 'not guilty' and…

TW: racial language we were your nigger. your colored. your nightskin. dehumanized disparaged denigrated valued not by who we are at our core but for what we could do for you. you freed us but we have never been free you see us but you really don't see you hear us but there's a cognitive dissonance that you sprinkle with pretty little lies so that it's sweeter on the tongue you kill our…

Shows You Should Watch If You ‘d Insecure

Admittedly, I don’t think there will ever be a show that will top Insecure for me – and that’s mainly because I literally had my season of growth with Issa Rae – but there have been some shows I’ve discovered over the last couple of years that come close to giving me those same feelings of validation and representation. Harlem | Amazon Prime now while I DID find some of their personality traits…