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If you tell someone to die, they could take it as proof those thoughts are right.

If you tell someone the world is better off without them, they might believe you.

There are a lot of transmeds that understress how much dysphoria you need, basically saying you barely need any at all to be trans (in which case you probably don’t have gender dysphoria, but another problem altogether) and that’s a serious problem in the community. There’s very little to not problem with any true toxicity though since transmeds cal lout shit and don’t tolerate it.

does it cause a level of distress and/or discomfort?

is it significantly impacting the quality of life you lead?

if you answered yes to both of these things, then oof. you fit the diagnostic criteria.

I know not every transmedicalist/truscum believes people need enough dysphoria—not just any dysphoria—to be trans, but enough do that it shouldn’t be remarkable that you’re seeing people objecting to it.

Being trans is not a medical condition.

Gender Dysphoria is, according to the APA in their definition of Gender Dysphoria and diagnoses. This is shared by other organisations around the world, such as WHO (as “Gender Incongruence”).

Gender dysphoria may be considered a symptom of being trans—it is the effect rather than the cause—but it is not true that it is “100% guaranteed”. That’s an unfounded claim that contradicts the evidence we have—the experiences of trans people.

At now time in history has there been a consensus among trans people that dysphoria is necessary to be trans, or that being trans itself is a medical condition. That dysphoria is not necessary to be trans is even reflected in our language—in ‘transgender’ and ‘transsexual’—though that distinction seems to have fallen out of use.

Nobody has “tried to water being trans down”, let alone for the sake of people’s feelings. Instead, transmedicalists (and HBSers before them) attempt to impose the requirement of dysphoria on trans people, for various reasons (some well-intentioned, some not).

People identifying as trans, but who don’t have dysphoria, are not lying about being trans, even if it was true that they’re not.

I find this comment deeply concerning. Being gay has, historically, been considered a medical condition, and I view your comment that it’s “fucked up” that “this attitude” is applied to being trans in much the same light as if you were defending homosexuality as a medical condition. Gender and sexuality are both part of the healthy variation among humans. Neither is a medical condition.

The idea that being trans could be diagnosed—even by something of such contentious validity and utility as “brain sex”—concerning because a precedent exists that the next step would be finding a cure for being trans. Finding a way to change someone’s gender. The thought horrifies me, and even if it was assured that this would not, or could not, be the case, this ties into the fundamental transphobia of transmedicalism: gender is not respected.

People have continuously tried to water down what it means to be trans. “You don’t need dysphoria to be trans” is watering it down. “You only need a little bit of dysphoria” is watering it down. There’s countless examples of this happening which is immensely disrespectful and insulting to trans people as well as incredibly dangerous to people who aren’t trans but who think they are. There are many medical conditions and psychological problems that can make someone think they’re trans such as body dysmorphia, internalized sexism or homophobia, trauma from sexual abuse, and more. Trans people make up less than 1% of the population (I believe it’s about 0.6%) - body dysmorphia on the other hand makes up 4% of the population alone - people are almost quadruple more likely to have body dysmorphia than they are to be trans, without even adding in the other medical conditions as well as the fact most “trans” kids grow out of it. And going on HRT/blockers when they don’t have gender dysphoria? Yeah, they’re going to screw up their body and possibly ruin their life, which will partially be on your hands for helping to spread this misinformation.

> People identifying as trans, but who don’t have dysphoria, are not lying about being trans, even if it was true that they’re not.

If they know they don’t have dysphoria then they sure as hell are lying about it. They could be misled by those who spread misinformation and if that’s the case then I do feel sympathetic towards them, but that doesn’t mean they should be going around claiming to be trans, same as any other medical condition.

As for your comparison to homosexuality, there’s a significant difference here. Homosexuality doesn’t cause any harm while transexuality does. Homosexuality is just an abnormal development, full-stop, with no side effects to mental or physical health thus it can’t possibly be a medical condition because there needs to be something wrong. The only time homosexuality causes any negatives isn’t because of being gay in and of itself but via homophobia and that’s obviously not the fault of gay peoples’ biology. Transexuality however is completely different. Even if every single transphobe became 100% accepting and all trans people were given full rights worldwide over night, we’d still suffer for being trans (unlike gay people), because while social views can and do contribute to the problem, the majority of the harm will still be there with or without acceptance. That’s the dysphoria. Conclusion: this comparison is illogical and completely moot.

As for curing transexuality, I severely doubt it can be done as it’s caused by the very shape of our brains - you can’t change that. Perhaps people could try via lobotomy or something, however that’s illegal so I severely doubt anyone’s gonna try to ice pick a trans person’s brain into being cis - it’s not possible. On top of that, if someone did develop a way to cure transexuality without any risks to the person (outside of your typical medical risk), that wouldn’t be a bad thing. HRT and transitioning only treats the problem and tries to get it under control, but it’s not a guarantee - it’s not a cure. Trans people, at least as it stands now, can’t become truly biologically male or female and I’m not talking about chromosomes here but via genitals and such which are often just poor imitations. If it could be cured so a trans person can be happy as they are in the body that they were born with, why would that be a bad thing? It negates all the risks of HRT, multiple surgeries, et cetera and so forth. Obviously forcing one over the other would be wrong - the individual should be able to choose, although again I doubt it’s all that feasible to cure it in the first place.

Of course people are not respected enough to know their gender when it comes to being trans - it’s a medical condition, one that is extremely rare and much more likely to be something else entirely. That’s akin to saying “people aren’t trusted to know if they have cancer” or “people aren’t trusted enough to know if they have schizophrenia” - of course they don’t! Even doctors and mental health experts aren’t even allowed to diagnose themselves and they went to school for years and are the experts on the matter, so why the hell should regular people be able to do as such? Especially with personal bias and all the misinformation that’s rampant, especially when it comes to transexuality?

The only disturbing thing here is all of your misinformation that you’re spreading. It’s contributing to so many problems - vulnerable people thinking they’re something that they’re not and possibly harming themselves, making trans people look ridiculous so transphobia spreads, undermining health care professionals which breeds mistrust so people think they know more or they just won’t go which is obviously dangerous, and so much more. Thankfully though most of the medical world knows better than this and is keeping things on track, even if it does negatively affect trans people but I can’t fault them for being careful since it’s literally their jobs to ensure people’s well-being at all costs.

Lastly, as for your lovely little comment of “besides being factually wrong” and your hilariously ignorant “bad science” tag, I’m not and it’s not:

http://the-defiant-pupil.tumblr.com/post/174119090988/no-offense-but-everything-down-to-your-hair (this contains 50ish sources)

First Home in the U.S. specifically for sex-trafficked boys is set to open in late 2016. Of course neighbors pulled a stink and tried to get the house shut down before it even opened. 

People are worried about their property values when these young boys have literally been sold as sex slaves and raped and abused in who knows how many other ways. They just need a safe place to heal and protection while they testify against their abusers so we can put the actual criminals in prison.

In late Fall last year, the area of North Carolina where this house is set to be opened experienced a lot of very bad flooding. This has set them back. They wanted to be open by now, but they have finished restoring the house and are now working on furnishing it so they can open soon. 

The link above is broken, so here is an updated one. You can see they  now have a registry for Target and Walmart open. If you want to donate by buying items they need to furnish it, you can do so this way. 

After details of his planning application were reported in April, Sheeran took aim at a tabloid newspaper, saying: “Your story is b——s, I have done lots of work in the past for Crisis and Shelter and would never build railings outside my home for that reason. The reason was to keep the paps that you employ from being on my doorstep.”

wouldnt it be nice if more news articles were like this

The brain is the most powerful organ in the body.

Daniel and Cindy are young parents whose world has been turned upside down because Daniel is transgender. He transitioned over a decade ago when he was 19, and few people know that he is transgender. When Daniel and Cindy decided to have children, they told Cindy’s parents that Daniel is transgender because they were conceiving in vitro with donated sperm. And, I suppose, they must also have trusted that her parents would continue to accept their son-in-law.

This was a mistake.

Cindy gave birth to healthy twins 2 ½ years ago, and Daniel and Cindy and the twins have been very happy – except for one problem. Cindy’s parents make rude comments about Daniel being transgender, and they do it in front of the twins. Requests for them to stop are met with mirth. Daniel and Cindy put up with this behavior for a long while, but as the twins are getting older, they worry that the negative comments are harmful, and they don’t want to be forced to try and explain concepts to their young children that are beyond their ability or need to understand – in vitro, transgender.

Daniel and Cindy made the difficult decision that the grandparents are no longer welcome in their lives. The grandparents got angry and sued for custody of the children. The twins have two loving parents. Child Protective Services have never been called; there have been no police reports of abuse; neither parent has a criminal record.

Last week, a court removed the twins from their home and gave custody to the grandparents. The reason? Their father is transgender.

Daniel and Cindy are working with a lawyer to try and get their children back. Will they get them back? Who knows? What we do know that the children have pulled out of their home and are living with two people who demean and ridicule their father.

And if they do get the children back, their lives will never be the same. Everyone in town either knows or soon will know that Daniel is transgender, and he will likely lose his job. If the children are gone too long, they may not trust their parents when they return. Daniel and Cindy will either spend savings or go into debt to pay legal fees. And they go to bed every night distraught because their children are not with them. They don’t know if their children are crying for them, but surely their children must be confused.

This isn’t a story made up as an example of what might happento someone who is transgender. This is really happening to a young couple and their twins. I’ve changed the names because the case hasn’t hit the news, so perhaps the family will be able to maintain some privacy.

The take away? While it may not be discrimination for the grandparents to be hateful to their son-in-law; it certainly is discriminatory for the Court to make a custody decision based on the father’s transgender status. Transgender non-discrimination laws would give these parents and their children better legal protections to be a family free from government interference. Also, if Courts are permitted to take children from otherwise good parents because one parent is transgender, who’s next? 

25 years old, in jail for god knows what, cops bring him in with a lac to his forehead from banging it on the wall repeatedly. He is already handcuffed so we put him in an isolation room, with sliding glass doors. Because he is in custody we take everything but the bed out of the room. 

Patient is screaming the whole time he doesn’t want to be there (same bro) with blood everywhere from the head lac. 

5min later, I hear this sickening crash, I’m pretty sure someone has just run head first into the glass doors, because mate I’ve done that before those curtains are assholes, so rounding the corner I see blood all over the glass door, patient still screaming he wants out but is now banging his head on the glass. 

It takes 4 security guards to hold this guy down, he is absolutely losing his shit, screaming and flailing and has no idea whats going on. Calling out for his mom, for Neil (???), for a sandwich, doesn’t know what day it is or just refuses to answer we can’t tell, pupils 4mm and sluggish but thats how it was when they brought him in, so security cuffs him to the bed so he can’t hit the wall. 

Fastforward 10 minutes and he has dislocated/broken his wrist trying to get out of the bed and to the door, he has puke and stool everywhere, refused to take the ativan so we gave midaz, but that didn’t touch him. 

This guy screamed from 2-7, we maxed out what we could give him for benzos and he was extraordinarily agitated and wouldn’t settle and was only in the beginning stages of withdrawals. It was terrifying, but the thing that got me was after screaming about how we took the 20′s (from his underwear??) he was quiet for a minute, I thought ‘shit the midaz finally caught up with him and now were gonna need to intubate’ but he then screams

“I don’t want to do this anymore, I don’t want to be on drugs anymore, I want this to stop, I want to be clean, please someone help me”

And thats what got me. This guy was 25, had his whole life ahead of him, but got caught up in drugs and it was going to kill him, and he wanted out, but withdrawals were so bad that it was easier to keep using. 

Fuck telling kids don’t do drugs. Show them what its like to try to stop, how all your friends die from OD, how you are one phonemail-not-made away from death yourself, how you get to be tied to a bed in the ER and your nurses need to apologize to other patients because you can’t stop screaming and just shit yourself and puked the cookie I gave you and your body is on fire. 

Don’t just tell them not to do it, because that doesn’t work, show them what its like to try to stop, because sometimes fear works better than facts.