teacher: i don’t know. can you?

I thought it was all going really well… the kids had found tons of neat shit and were asking all kinds of questions about it. We even found a giant water beetle the size of my palm, which I couldn’t resist whipping out my phone to take a video of. As we were about to end class and return our finds to the water, this kid just… upturned the bucket onto the grass and stomped on the beetle, killing it.

I was stunned. I had no idea what to do or say. I barely managed to contain my fury and a number of expletives. Why the fuck had he done that? “It was gross,” was all he had to say.

So what? “Gross” is subjective. “Gross” isn’t a threat to you. “Gross” is not hurting you. If you are afraid of it, I understand. But your fear of it does not mean it has lost the right to exist, especially in a place where it is meant to be, where you are fully capable of avoiding it.

Hi @haml3t! As someone who used to have a severe phobia of dogs after being attacked twice as a child, I don’t appreciate your implication that I “have no clue” what it’s like. I very much do. However, we live in a world where hurting or killing dogs on sight is not encouraged or remotely socially acceptable, even if you hate and fear them intensely. If I were to say “HENNYWAYS I’m cynophobic and I hate dogs and they should all die”, nine out of ten people on the goddamn planet would be absolutely horrified, if not asking for my head on a platter. 

No one is saying that you should feel ashamed for your phobia or just need to “get over it”. It’s rarely that easy - I spent years working through my panic reaction to dogs and am fortunate enough to have conquered it. I now really like dogs and am comfortable in my ability to discern between an active threat and a sweet pupper. 

“I think it’s gross and scary because of the way that it is” is not an acceptable excuse to kill something that you can easily avoid and which is not posing a threat to you. If you think it is, then beating a dog I pass on the street would not be much different. After all, they’ve harmed me in the past, and might do harm to me again - and unlike spiders, they tend to run towards you seeking physical contact. 

This dog recently showed up on my Facebook newsfeed. It looks very much like one that attacked me when I was a kid. It would be tasteless and offensive of me to comment something like “OMG KILL IT WITH FIRE!”  and tell the owner how much I wish I could kill it, even if that’s how I felt. When I feared dogs, I avoided them, and did not feel the need to tell everyone who owned one how I thought the world would be better if they were all dead.